SiaLv82 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I never gave this much consideration until recently when I downsized to start saving for a home. What are your deal breakers in regards to seeing your date's living arrangements for the first time? Myself: Lived in a one bedroom apartment for a few years. Downsized to a true efficiency apartment for $250.00 a month. My mindset it is only for a year and I have good reasoning. Completed a few repairs and such around the place but it is still quite the hole in the wall. Interested in hearing what others have to say and kinda know what to do with the place as well in the mean time
StanMusial Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 (edited) As long as your place is clean and tidy you should be alright. I went out with this girl once that lived in a sh*thole. She had sh*t strewn all over her apartment. She had tried to paint the walls this bright royal blue color and used only one coat and it was uneven and streaky and splattered on the white ceiling. There was cat hair all over the place, sink full of dirty dishes, clothes all over the floor, the screen door was tore up, carpet was dingy and stained and full of holes. It was a decent neighborhood but she was just plain sorry. I am sure she lost her deposit on that joint. Epilogue: Didn't pursue it after witnessing that. Edited February 3, 2013 by StanMusial
superb Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I never gave this much consideration until recently when I downsized to start saving for a home. What are your deal breakers in regards to seeing your date's living arrangements for the first time? Myself: Lived in a one bedroom apartment for a few years. Downsized to a true efficiency apartment for $250.00 a month. My mindset it is only for a year and I have good reasoning. Completed a few repairs and such around the place but it is still quite the hole in the wall. Interested in hearing what others have to say and kinda know what to do with the place as well in the mean time I'm tired of men living in their parents basements in their 30's really though, I'm tired of it. Says a lot about someone who can hold their own, even if it's an efficiency.
FitChick Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I went out with this girl once that lived in a sh*thole. She had sh*t strewn all over her apartment. She had tried to paint the walls this bright royal blue color and used only one coat and it was uneven and streaky and splattered on the white ceiling. There was cat hair all over the place, sink full of dirty dishes, clothes all over the floor, the screen door was tore up, carpet was dingy and stained and full of holes. It was a decent neighborhood but she was just plain sorry. I am sure she lost her deposit on that joint. Sounds like an episode of Seinfeld. A beautiful woman was hot but a total slob. Jerry sat on her couch and something moved amongst the trash on her floor. Someone please post the link if you find it. I just looked on youtube but nothing rang a bell.
StanMusial Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Sounds like an episode of Seinfeld. A beautiful woman was hot but a total slob. Jerry sat on her couch and something moved amongst the trash on her floor. Someone please post the link if you find it. I just looked on youtube but nothing rang a bell. LOL. I never saw that one. Not sure if my past dating life would qualify as a sit-com or a horror movie. Also, this one girl was not beautiful as such... she was cute and fun... but her positive qualities were not near enough to overcome the chagrin I felt when presented with her living quarters.
MsSmurf Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I'm a 30 year old woman and live solo in a small one bedroom that I keep clean and neat. I would be totally embarrassed to have anyone here and the place was a wreck. I've lived solo in an efficiency before and kept just as neat and clean. I've never dated a guy that had an issue with the fact that my place was small, in fact they were often surprised that I was able to live alone. In my early 20s I put little thought into how a guy lived, but the older I've gotten the more intolerant I've become. Unless his parents are elderly and require care I won't date a guy who lives with his parents. If his parents don't need his help then he might be needy, lazy, or codependent and I don't want that. I'm also starting to find guys with roommates really unattractive. When I was in my early 20s dating guys in their 40s they all lived solo in houses or condos. Now I find 40something guys live with several roommates. Ummm....what? At that point you should be done with school and established in a career and therefore able to afford to live independently even if it is a small apartment. What's worse is their roommates are often college kids so it just screams they're immature or having a midlife crisis. No thanks. As for guys in their 30s that are finishing school then I don't mind one roommate, but if he's still living frat style I won't bother.
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I never gave this much consideration until recently when I downsized to start saving for a home. What are your deal breakers in regards to seeing your date's living arrangements for the first time? Looking for some semblance of neat and clean. Those are the biggies. Signs that you might be married or have an SO, would be deal breakers. Myself: Lived in a one bedroom apartment for a few years. Downsized to a true efficiency apartment for $250.00 a month. My mindset it is only for a year and I have good reasoning. Completed a few repairs and such around the place but it is still quite the hole in the wall. Interested in hearing what others have to say and kinda know what to do with the place as well in the mean time It's admirable that you are saving for a home. I did the same thing right out of college. At this point in my life, I wouldn't date anyone with roommates or who lives with his parents. I value a certain level of privacy, and in the latter case, we would be in different life stages. I'm fine with renters, although pretty much everyone I date owns their own home, has put effort into furnishing and decorating it, etc. They match me. That's just who has asked me out. Within reason, who you are as a person it's far more important than exactly where you live as long as it's clean and uncluttered. There are more pressing issues in picking the right partner.
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Sounds like an episode of Seinfeld. A beautiful woman was hot but a total slob. Jerry sat on her couch and something moved amongst the trash on her floor. Someone please post the link if you find it. I just looked on youtube but nothing rang a bell. Hilarious!:lmao: I thought I knew every single Seinfeld episode, but I don't remember that one. I dated someone who's car was so cluttered and messy that it took him over half an hour to clear out a spot in the front passenger seat when he picked me up. I kid you not...filthy, food-encrusted dishes, large boxes of old notes and papers from a decade earlier, faded bills...and that's really the nicest thing I can find to say about the nightmarish hell hole. I half-expected a mangy rat or something to pop out of the ceiling-high wall of crap in the back half of the car and start nibbling on my ankles or neck. Apparently the trunk was worse. I reached for his keys to pop it open and put some of the crap back there, and he stopped me, explaining that it was "a little fuller.":rolleyes: I detest driving and never drive if I'm with someone else. I drove ever single time after that. At the end of our fourth date, he invited me back to his place to watch a movie I'd been dying to see. Before I could stop myself, I looked at him in horror and blurted out "Why would I do that?!?" I can only imagine the condition of his house given the state of his car. That's when I realized that there is trying to keep an open mind, and there's ridiculous. Incredible guy otherwise...exactly what I would order in putting together a wish list...everything any woman could possibly hope for...well almost...now there's an addendum about neatness. Live and learn! With the guy I dated right after him, I would go on and on about how clean and fresh his car was. I'm sure he thought I was missing a couple of marbles, possibly even outright bat-s*** crazy. I just had no appreciation of cleanliness until then. I wanted to kiss the carpet and cuddle the seats, it was such a wonderful relief!
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