ImperfectionisBeauty Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Rape is when you decide to take someone sexually and ignore their objections. No means no...but if you don't say anything that's not the same as no. The law doesn't look at it like that that's why if a girl is too drunk to say no or passed out its still rape. Or children who can't say no.
MyPoutine Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Start with foreplay and just go with the flow, I'm sure both of you can speak up and explore together...find out what feels good and what doesn't together.
TaraMaiden Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I don't know if you know this, but rape is also illegal in a marital relationship. And yes - it happens. You're missing the point. The methodology - no matter what the relationship - is wrong. The approach - is wrong. Tactless, indiscreet, thoughtless, inconsiderate, and wrong. It ddoesn't matter whether it's GF BF BB, GB, USA, ASAP, BP or RSVP. That kind of approach, on that kind of person, is ill-considered.
somedude81 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 The law doesn't look at it like that that's why if a girl is too drunk to say no or passed out its still rape. Or children who can't say no. I don't think he's talking about a situation where it is not possible to object.
mn311601 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Clearly the only way to cope is to dump him. What a stupid thread. Whether or not he is truly a virgin or not, what the hell is the problem? Just have sex with him, I'm sure he'll enjoy it. Jesus, what is it with these threads? 1
Mrlonelyone Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I don't think he's talking about a situation where it is not possible to object. No obviously I'm talking about people who want to have sex, have agreed to have sex, but aren't quite sure how to proceed. Is it not natural that the more experienced person would lead? 1
Author à droite Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 Clearly the only way to cope is to dump him. What a stupid thread. Whether or not he is truly a virgin or not, what the hell is the problem? Just have sex with him, I'm sure he'll enjoy it. Jesus, what is it with these threads? I do not really care about him being a virgin or not . however I do care about him so I do not want to do anything that will drive him off like get him drunk and take advantage of him. I am think about buying him so condoms and tell him when ever your ready so it will take the pressure off . can you feel the tension in the air when we make out and hang out . It is like we both want sex but he to gun shy to make a move and I want to make a move but I do not know if it to soon. I know I am going to have to take the lead in the bed room but I like i hint or some thing that he wants to have sex.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Honey the hint that he wants sex is that he's your boyfriend.
Author à droite Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 Honey the hint that he wants sex is that he's your boyfriend. I need be more assertive in the bedroom and next time we are in bed I just explore his body with my mouth and hands and see were the night goes .
bobsmith76 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I'm real sorry that people keep insulting you on this website when you ask for advice. I know how it feels, I've been there. Anyway, I haven't had sex for 12 years due to principle, not because I can't get a woman, so I think I can help. In short, you're asking for advice on a matter that does not admit a simple solution. What you are essentially asking is: how to do I be respectful of someone else's feelings? To be respectful is simply too complicated an act for any one person to teach another how to do it unless that person is the parent of the other and they're living with them for several years. One thing I can say is that you look at the problems people are having on this website you'll find that your problem is very minor. Most people are having trouble with boyfriends being unfaithful or not wanting them. My advice is that striking up a relationship with a sensitive man is very rare and is not likely to happen in your life again. So try to keep this guy at all costs and marry him.
pbjbear Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Rape is when you decide to take someone sexually and ignore their objections. No means no...but if you don't say anything that's not the same as no. Alot of times body language says no. I know a few women who got raped by this attitude. Got drunk and slept over someones house, a guy crawls into bed with them and makes moves, these girls were pretty drunk and didnt say "no" but their body language sure as hell did and that didnt stop the guy. Not everyone is going to scream "No!!!!! stop!!!!" It depends on the situation
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 If your boyfriend is a virgin, you could try having sex with him. That should take care of the problem.
Author à droite Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 If your boyfriend is a virgin, you could try having sex with him. That should take care of the problem. I want his first time to be as stress-less as possible and as successful as possible. I told him that it's not a big deal and that we'll be fine, but actually I'm a bit freaked out myself. What do I do? What do I say? I don't want to intimidate him or make him feel awkward or anything. I want him to enjoy it and just take it easy cuz I obviously will be with him no matter what.
bobsmith76 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Aussi, tu parles francais? Je trouve ca un peu bizarre que tu sais comment on ecrit a droite mais il y a plein des erreurs dans ton anglais.
Author à droite Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 I told him that it's not a big deal if he is or not and that we'll be fine, but actually I'm a bit freaked out myself. What do I do? What do I say? I don't want to intimidate him or make him feel awkward or anything. I want him to enjoy it and just take it easy cuz I obviously will be with him no matter what. fixed it It not as simple as hey lets have sex I know he wants to but is nervous so if i come on to strong he might push me away.
TaraMaiden Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Aussi, tu parles francais? Je trouve ca un peu bizarre que tu sais comment on ecrit a droite mais il y a plein des erreurs dans ton anglais. ca depend, car si elle est sur son portable, parfois, c'est dificile d'ecrire comme il faut... mois par example, je n'ai pas des accents sur mon clavier, donc il semble que je ne sais pas bien ecrire le francais et puis, zut alors, l'auto-correcteur est un diable!
Titania22 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 My advice is be careful what you say afterwards. Be very very careful, and try not to insult him if it doesn't live up to expectations, and reassure him. If it isn't good and there is nothing he can change to make it better, just avoid saying anything that will hurt him, even if it means making yourself look bad. Everyone always makes light that sex can improve and just go for it, but sometime people are not compatible that way and you won't know until you try. But if he has been taking it slow and is sensitive, then virgin or not, saying something that will destroy the small amount of confidence he has is not the way to go. If you can do that, then start talking about sex more, and you will quickly know if he wants to get to the next level. Hopefully it will be great.
TaraMaiden Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Sit on his lap naked. Talk about the first thing that pops up. Ba-da-boom-ching!!
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