SiaLv82 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I met a man in my area off of OL about a month ago. From the beginning, he seemed to be on a fast track to being exclusive. I, on the other hand, have always taken that route slow as a snail. I like to take my time (2-3 months) until making a decision on where we stand and how we would work together. I also do not believe in meeting friends and family until we become exclusive. This past weekend was his second attempt to get me to meet his partner/colleague and friends. I declined. And I think I was basically brushed off because of it. Am I in the wrong? At what point would you want to meet his friends/family? While it has been a month, keep in mind this is really only date 3. We haven't even kissed. Which is definitely happening on the next go. A little back ground: I recently started a new position which consumes most of my time. We only hung out twice. I love the way he treats me but the spark is almost nonexistent. I am hoping it to grow. He also seems a bit pushy: excessive calling, asking same questions for different answer, really pushing for something more serious. I credit the different angled questions from him being a lawyer but it is seriously really annoying. With the brush off last night, I am considering just moving in a different direction all together. I shouldn't have to feel like I have to meet his friends/family. I should want to meet them. And I am just not at that point yet.
Ladybugz Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 This dude scares me too. I think maybe he have some other plans in mind. Or he is to desperate. What ever it is i would break any contact with him. and let him know you are not interested anymore. For me after a year or more i want to met his parents. And friends maybe 6 mhts later.
CC12 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 You're only on date three and he's already tried to get you to meet his friends twice? That does seem weird to me. These early dates should really be one-on-one. It would make me wonder why he doesn't just want to get to know me and have fun flirty dates alone. I guess I can see a meeting with the friends kind of organically happen. Like if he wanted to take you to a concert, for example, that his friends would also be attending. It doesn't always have to be a big deal kind of thing. How did he brush you off?
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