kaylan Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Ive been going to the gym pretty steady for a little while and am seeing some results. I was thinking of putting a "show off" pic on my OLD profile. Partly because I wanna see if itll garner positive responses, and also because Im proud of myself and wanna share a hobby of mine. Its kinda like how I have pics up of me with my old band, sharing my hobby of music. Granted many people say those kinda pics are shallow or douchey, OKC actually did a study that showed those pics got you more responses and higher ratings. It wouldnt be my default pic, and probably not even in my first 3 pics. But just kinda there as a treat for a girl to know I take care of myself and I will definitely try and look good for her. Lastly, Ill be honest and say I need the ego boost. Because after the lame ending to the girl I dated from November into December, I took January off from dating. I didnt really have time with work to meet someone new, and I wanted to clear my head a little bit and get over what happened. So is an ego boost that bad when your self confidence isnt all there. Mine has its ups and down...and sometimes I feel really attractive and upper tier...and other times I just feel super average or below that. I mean, we all have our moments. PS - Maybe PM me and give me honest opinion after a pic share? Lord knows I wouldnt wanna be one of those people who takes glamour shots even though they arent in decent shape.
MrCastle Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I would do it and put it as my main or the second picture in my gallery at least. Nothing wrong with needing a little pick me up every now and again.
Treasa Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Any time someone works their ass off to get themselves in good shape, I think they SHOULD take pictures, even if just for themselves. I think that as long as you aren't pulling a serious face or trying to look too "Grunt. I am manly. See?" then you should be fine. Try smiling. That makes you look attractive AND nice/approachable. I totally want to see a picture. I'll be, um, objective. 2
phineas Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 It HAS to be a bathroom mirror pic. Make sure the mirror is filthy also. That way you don't blend in with the other guys on the site who posted shirtless pics. 10
skweezd Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 It's funny to see the different opinions on this subject. I did OLD and have seen some tacky shirtless men on there. If you do choose to show off your new physical appearance then do it in a more natural setting, like you doing a mud run with friends or at the pool or some type of sport. Don't look like you're just hanging out with your shirt off admiring yourself. 2
irc333 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 That's okay, I suppose....just don't take the photos AT the gym in front of their mirror/locker room mirror or whatever (at the place you work out). Esp FLEXING or posing in front of said mirror. Kind of corny. Ive been going to the gym pretty steady for a little while and am seeing some results. I was thinking of putting a "show off" pic on my OLD profile. Partly because I wanna see if itll garner positive responses, and also because Im proud of myself and wanna share a hobby of mine. Its kinda like how I have pics up of me with my old band, sharing my hobby of music. Granted many people say those kinda pics are shallow or douchey, OKC actually did a study that showed those pics got you more responses and higher ratings. It wouldnt be my default pic, and probably not even in my first 3 pics. But just kinda there as a treat for a girl to know I take care of myself and I will definitely try and look good for her. Lastly, Ill be honest and say I need the ego boost. Because after the lame ending to the girl I dated from November into December, I took January off from dating. I didnt really have time with work to meet someone new, and I wanted to clear my head a little bit and get over what happened. So is an ego boost that bad when your self confidence isnt all there. Mine has its ups and down...and sometimes I feel really attractive and upper tier...and other times I just feel super average or below that. I mean, we all have our moments. PS - Maybe PM me and give me honest opinion after a pic share? Lord knows I wouldnt wanna be one of those people who takes glamour shots even though they arent in decent shape. 1
Treasa Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Yeah, you know what? You need to stfu about your looks, because you are gorgeous. And stop going on and on about what you need to work on and just let people enjoy the view. Seriously, all you need to do is smile and have fun and you'll be fine. 1
Treasa Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I say do it, Kaylan. But maybe you could have someone take the pic while you're at the beach or working out at the gym, so it WON'T look so gratuitous like all the other bathroom mirror shots. That's exactly what I told him. See? LISTEN TO US!!
Treasa Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I was pretty bad when I got to my ideal weight. I would just walk (maybe strut) around my apartment complex on weekends shirtless, esp. on sunny days. Like I said, if you've earned it you have every right to show it off. Other people's opinions be damned. Just be smiling while you do it.
phineas Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 It's funny to see the different opinions on this subject. I did OLD and have seen some tacky shirtless men on there. If you do choose to show off your new physical appearance then do it in a more natural setting, like you doing a mud run with friends or at the pool or some type of sport. Don't look like you're just hanging out with your shirt off admiring yourself. How about just hanging on my deck in a lounger shirtless enjoying the sun? Would it seem staged if however the shot was taken in Feb. and there is a foot of snow on my deck? LOL! 2
SmileFace Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 How about just hanging on my deck in a lounger shirtless enjoying the sun? Would it seem staged if however the shot was taken in Feb. and there is a foot of snow on my deck? LOL! There is a next headless arm on this forum and I alway assume it is you.lol 1
veggirl Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 There is a next headless arm on this forum and I alway assume it is you.lol Me too! Anyway, do it Kaylan!!!
Estate Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Ive been going to the gym pretty steady for a little while and am seeing some results. I was thinking of putting a "show off" pic on my OLD profile. Partly because I wanna see if itll garner positive responses, and also because Im proud of myself and wanna share a hobby of mine. Its kinda like how I have pics up of me with my old band, sharing my hobby of music. Granted many people say those kinda pics are shallow or douchey, OKC actually did a study that showed those pics got you more responses and higher ratings. It wouldnt be my default pic, and probably not even in my first 3 pics. But just kinda there as a treat for a girl to know I take care of myself and I will definitely try and look good for her. Lastly, Ill be honest and say I need the ego boost. Because after the lame ending to the girl I dated from November into December, I took January off from dating. I didnt really have time with work to meet someone new, and I wanted to clear my head a little bit and get over what happened. So is an ego boost that bad when your self confidence isnt all there. Mine has its ups and down...and sometimes I feel really attractive and upper tier...and other times I just feel super average or below that. I mean, we all have our moments. PS - Maybe PM me and give me honest opinion after a pic share? Lord knows I wouldnt wanna be one of those people who takes glamour shots even though they arent in decent shape. Hey, I'm guessing you're a girl? Sorry I'm not sure from the message. Here's what I think. I know a lot of girls think the shirtless guy pics are kinda douchey. When I see girls in bikini's or very revealing outfits, it puts me off a little. Of course I'm a guy, I'll look at the cute pic but online if a girl puts up one of those pics it usually comes across like she is seeking attention and not actually looking to meet someone so it puts me off messaging her... having said that lots of guys WILL message you. If you're looking for a date though my suggestion would be this. Don't necessarily go for a revealing pic... go for something that shows off your figure. Take a picture of you all glammed up in a hot figure hugging dress on a night out. That shows off what you've got but also makes you look pretty classy which I think would get the best responce.
Author kaylan Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 (edited) Hey, I'm guessing you're a girl? Sorry I'm not sure from the message. Here's what I think. I know a lot of girls think the shirtless guy pics are kinda douchey. Im a guy. And I know a lot of girls "say" they find shirtless pics douchey, but my past experience, as well an OKCs own study has found it to not be true. Responses apparently go up. When I see girls in bikini's or very revealing outfits, it puts me off a little. Of course I'm a guy, I'll look at the cute pic but online if a girl puts up one of those pics it usually comes across like she is seeking attention and not actually looking to meet someone so it puts me off messaging her... having said that lots of guys WILL message you.Ill only be put off messaging a girl if all of her pics are "look at me" glamour shots. If its just one or two pictures as a treat, along with her other regular pictures, then I see it as no big deal. Id say the couple of body shots lets me know what Im getting and shows me she either takes care of herself or simply got blessed with good genetics. If you're looking for a date though my suggestion would be this. Don't necessarily go for a revealing pic... go for something that shows off your figure. Take a picture of you all glammed up in a hot figure hugging dress on a night out. That shows off what you've got but also makes you look pretty classy which I think would get the best responce.How about figure hugging jeans with a nice fitted button down white shirt and black skinny tie? It HAS to be a bathroom mirror pic. Make sure the mirror is filthy also. That way you don't blend in with the other guys on the site who posted shirtless pics. lmao. The shot I would use would most like be a self timer shot from my digi cam. So I could make it look like someone else took it. Or I can make it look like a selfy, but a more tasteful one. (not in the bathroom) Edited February 3, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Estate Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Sorry man, wasn't sure if this was a guy or girl asking. I think it depends... "Maybe" you'll get more interest if you look really good... but to be honest it comes down to quantity over quality by doing this. I know what girls say and do isn't always the same but in this instance, while it WILL attract some girls, it will also turn some off... and it comes down to which type of girl you are looking for.
KraftDinner Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Kaylan, I replied to the PM you sent me and it's not showing in my sent items. Wth! Did you get it?
Author kaylan Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 (edited) Kaylan, I replied to the PM you sent me and it's not showing in my sent items. Wth! Did you get it? I did get it and I replied. I think theres a box you have to tick in order for replies to go into your sent folder. Edited February 3, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Ruby Slippers Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Your bod looks fantastic! But I wouldn't want to see that on OLD. I think it depends on what you're looking for. Casual, short-term involvements - yes. More serious relationship - no. I wouldn't want just any chick online to be able to check out my future man. I'd want him to save that for me. However, you can definitely wear certain shirts that will give a good sense of your physique. Those are totally cool, and a good idea. I have a great rack and sexy legs, but the most I did to show off on my OLD profile was post a relaxed picture of me in a tank and skirt. I'm sure I could have gotten way more attention by posting a bikini pic - but personally, that's not the kind of attention or interest I'm looking for.
Author kaylan Posted February 4, 2013 Author Posted February 4, 2013 Your bod looks fantastic! Thanks:o But I wouldn't want to see that on OLD. I think it depends on what you're looking for. Casual, short-term involvements - yes. More serious relationship - no. I wouldn't want just any chick online to be able to check out my future man. I'd want him to save that for me.Not even a picture of me working out or doing something sporty? What about if its just one pic at the bottom of my pic list as a treat to let the girl know I take care of myself? Is it still bad? Im open to short term fun, but I also want to be looked at as long term potential. However, you can definitely wear certain shirts that will give a good sense of your physique. Those are totally cool, and a good idea.Thats the thing. I do wear fitted clothing, and almost every girl Ive hooked up with is surprised by my physique once Im naked. And tbh, using my personality has seemed to give me so-so results, which is why Im thinking of finally going for blatant sex appeal. I have a great rack and sexy legs, but the most I did to show off on my OLD profile was post a relaxed picture of me in a tank and skirt. I'm sure I could have gotten way more attention by posting a bikini pic - but personally, that's not the kind of attention or interest I'm looking for. If it was one or two pics of you on the beach with friends, I dont think thatd be bad pics to have. But I get what youre saying.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 You could try it and see what kind of results you get. This is a safer move for a guy than a girl. 1
phineas Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 There is a next headless arm on this forum and I alway assume it is you.lol Me too! Anyway, do it Kaylan!!! Time for a new profile I guess.
Lani Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Not even a picture of me working out or doing something sporty? What about if its just one pic at the bottom of my pic list as a treat to let the girl know I take care of myself? Is it still bad? Im open to short term fun, but I also want to be looked at as long term potential. Not a picture of you working out.. When I was OLD, I always thought that was lame. Unless you're Ron Burgundy. Something sporty is good, like hiking, rub some dirt on yourself too. But you need to make it look like the photo just happened, not that you staged it. I'd also put up some other photos at the same time, so it's not to obvious that you are putting up the new buff ones.
Imported Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 You ever try just meeting girls outside of the internet? There are a lot of attention starved women out there, that are really good looking. I am sure you can do well with them, it is actually pretty easy. Wear a properly fitted Henley. Roll up the sleeve mid forearm. Get one that is deep blood red, almost maroon. Most guys do not wear any shade of red. However, it will work...at least for me. You know someone with a motorcycle? Stand by it, holding a wrench like you just fixed something on it.
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