melodymatters Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 I am really into good food, love to cook, love exploring new ethnic cuisines, etc. Now, you don't have to be a foodie, being a meat and potatoes guy with a semi open mind is fine, but if you ever tell me : Red Lobster makes the best seafood, Olive Garden the best Italian, and White Zinfandel is a wine and not a wine cooler....I might just be too sad to even attempt dating you. 1
Drseussgrrl Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 People still eat at Red Lobster and Olive Garden? 1
RogerWallace111 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Can't think of any truly silly ones, but super stoned-out chicks are a no-go... A "couple puffs in the evening" type of deal would be tolerable if she didn't have that attenuated-brain-function, overly "mellow" vibe through the day. I like a girl who seems mentally present and sharp, plus I don't want the temptation of reverting to the stoner tendencies of my youth. And I'll second an unappealing vagina... Doesn't have to the tightest or most beautiful in the world, but I'm simply not aroused by "flaps", etc.
RogerWallace111 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Also- girls who laugh at everything... She has to have a somewhat discerning sense humor or she'll just come across as a moron (same goes for guys of course). And another- white girls who act "urban", "black", etc in a conscious or subconcious attempt to seem more cultured or hip. i.e. always putting on Erykah Badu or D'Angelo and doing some forced sensual dancing in an effort to look "soulful", or fulfill some Julia Stiles "Save the Last Dance" fantasy. And girls who act arrogant or self-righteous about health and diet choices. Like the type who get all smugly self-satisfied as they show off their amazing knowledge that greens like kale & chard are good for you, and tell you how they eat "so much quinoa"...
RogerWallace111 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Nickelback. /thread Thankfully I can't remember the last person I met who actually liked Nickelback. But I live in a progressive area...
Drseussgrrl Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 "And girls who act arrogant or self-righteous about health and diet choices. Like the type who get all smugly self-satisfied as they show off their amazing knowledge that greens like kale & chard are good for you, and tell you how they eat "so much quinoa"..." Uh yeah - guilty as charged. 1
RogerWallace111 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 "And girls who act arrogant or self-righteous about health and diet choices. Like the type who get all smugly self-satisfied as they show off their amazing knowledge that greens like kale & chard are good for you, and tell you how they eat "so much quinoa"..." Uh yeah - guilty as charged. It's not the eating well. That's awesome, I do too... It's talking about it like they should be commended for it, or that they're uniquely sophisticated for knowing pretty obvious sh*t (vegetables are good for you, greasy sh*t isn't, etc)
Drseussgrrl Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 It's not the eating well. That's awesome, I do too... It's talking about it like they should be commended for it, or that they're uniquely sophisticated for knowing pretty obvious sh*t (vegetables are good for you, greasy sh*t isn't, etc) I really don't care what other people eat. But if they ask why I eat gluten-free, then yeah they better sit down because I am a wealth of information about clean eating. And maybe a lot of it has to do with how great I feel since cutting crap out of my diet. Ok I'll stop. 1
TheBigQuestion Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 And another- white girls who act "urban", "black", etc in a conscious or subconcious attempt to seem more cultured or hip. i.e. always putting on Erykah Badu or D'Angelo and doing some forced sensual dancing in an effort to look "soulful", or fulfill some Julia Stiles "Save the Last Dance" fantasy. I thankfully haven't ran into too many of these ladies, although I definitely encountered a similar phenomenon in my high school days. I grew up in an upper-middle class town with sizable Korean and various hispanic populations. All through elementary and middle school, the hispanic kids all sounded "normal," i.e. like white people. Once they hit high school, many of them all of a sudden started using a ghetto Spanish accent, and many of them hadn't given it up even when I came back home from college. Your mom just dropped you off at school in an Escalade; it doesn't matter if there's a Cuban flag sticker on the back, you aren't hood. Encountering ladies like this in the present day would be a dealbreaker too. 1
TheBigQuestion Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 I really don't care what other people eat. But if they ask why I eat gluten-free, then yeah they better sit down because I am a wealth of information about clean eating. And maybe a lot of it has to do with how great I feel since cutting crap out of my diet. Ok I'll stop. Being gluten-free doesn't really offer any health benefits (other than excess carbs being bad) unless you either have celiac disease or a gluten sensitivity. It's a way of managing a disease, not a voluntary lifestyle.
Drseussgrrl Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Being gluten-free doesn't really offer any health benefits (other than excess carbs being bad) unless you either have celiac disease or a gluten sensitivity. It's a way of managing a disease, not a voluntary lifestyle. I've done a lot of reading on wheat and how it's produced. We didn't evolve to eat this new cross-bred strain. Admittedly, there is a lot of conflicting information on it if you read around. At the end of the day it's a personal choice, and since eliminating it from my diet I have found my energy has soared, my skin cleared up, I'm "regular", I've lost weight... So, I'm sticking with what works for me.
ltjg45 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Uh uh uh this! My ex didn't drink and he was the only person I've ever dated that didn't. And it wasn't fun. He never wanted to go to bars or to the pub, even if just to leave the house. He would never join me when I went to have drinks with friends and would judge me heavily on MY drinking. So yeah... Guys who don't drink won't do Your ex not drinking wasn't the problem. It's his stubbornness not to go with you to bars or pubs. You don't have to go to a bar or pub and drink alcohol/wines. Not to mention he judged you on drinking, which is perhaps the biggest deal breaker for you. 2
ASG Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Your ex not drinking wasn't the problem. It's his stubbornness not to go with you to bars or pubs. You don't have to go to a bar or pub and drink alcohol/wines. Not to mention he judged you on drinking, which is perhaps the biggest deal breaker for you. Sure, I'll give you that. But all those things will be easily eliminated if I don't date someone who doesn't drink. I never thought he'd be that kind of person until we started dating exclusively. When we first started going out, I thought he was that kind of guy, that, even though doesn't drink, goes to pubs/bars and has a soda of some kind, because we met during a job and after work we'd always go to the pub (we work in show biz). But after the show finished and we were dating seriously, he'd never make the effort to accompany me. By that time I was in it deep and didn't want to break up over it. Now, after that experience, I'll just eliminate the non drinkers, as one bad experience was enough...
ltjg45 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Sure, I'll give you that. But all those things will be easily eliminated if I don't date someone who doesn't drink. I never thought he'd be that kind of person until we started dating exclusively. When we first started going out, I thought he was that kind of guy, that, even though doesn't drink, goes to pubs/bars and has a soda of some kind, because we met during a job and after work we'd always go to the pub (we work in show biz). But after the show finished and we were dating seriously, he'd never make the effort to accompany me. By that time I was in it deep and didn't want to break up over it. Now, after that experience, I'll just eliminate the non drinkers, as one bad experience was enough... I wouldn't do that because it will result in shortening your own dating pool due to just that one bad experience, when the real problem wasn't even that. I can understand you looking it as a "strike" but I wouldn't throw away a possible mate because of it. By that token, considering that I don't drink or smoke, anyone who does a lot of either one (or both) would be eliminated to me. Yet I'm trying to get with a female that does both on a rather constant basis because not only is she beautiful but also she is a wonderful person.
melodymatters Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Salesman types. I had just entered Real Estate and one of the top producers in town ended up becoming my BF and mentor. I dealt with the "overly pretty hair and suit" thing he had going on, but the personality type....how...slimy...and lie-y they are without blinking an eye. The day I heard him flat out lie to his secretary, convincingly, that he was with a client on XX Road, The other agent was late, blah, blah, blah, when indeed we were having lunch, my first two thoughts were : 1) Why do you have to lie to someone YOU are paying about having lunch with your GF ? and 2) He is just too damn good at this, I will never be able to believe a word out of his mouth . I'm in sales AND theater, I can cry on cue, but I don't spin lies for no good reason, or really ANY reason !?! ( Yes, this might venture into deeper deal breaker territory, but for me it's now an initial one : Fancy looking man who makes his living off his silver tongue in a SALES field, can often be someone who has a hard time differing reality from "marketing", as ended up being the case here) 2
ltjg45 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Anyway, my biggest deal breaker is when a female judges me on anything. I do all I can not to judge anyone. The only people I judge on purpose is those that I absolutely hate. When someone judge me, I simply end the relationship on the spot. I have no time for that BS.
Woggle Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Another dealbreaker is double standards. I don't believe in them and I don't want a woman that does. People from rich and privileged backgrounds who like to start drama just to make things interesting because they are bored with their sheltered life. I am a social drinker but I also could never be with somebody that can't have fun without alcohol. 1
amolya Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 I used to have 'silly' deal breakers, like not dating anyone who smokes, or doesn't take care of themselves (healthy eating etc) but when I met wonderful people who did this and realised I didn't care so much, it wasn't so important to me....so now, being unhealthy is a disadvantage but not a deal breaker. I would have to say a deal breaker is being judgemental. I am pretty ' out there ' and different myself so to be honest you'd have to be pretty open minded/non judgemental to be with me, but even so if you are judgemental about minor stuff in others (eg being against gay marriage) that would be a deal breaker for me 1
candie13 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Salesman types. I had just entered Real Estate and one of the top producers in town ended up becoming my BF and mentor. I dealt with the "overly pretty hair and suit" thing he had going on, but the personality type....how...slimy...and lie-y they are without blinking an eye. The day I heard him flat out lie to his secretary, convincingly, that he was with a client on XX Road, The other agent was late, blah, blah, blah, when indeed we were having lunch, my first two thoughts were : 1) Why do you have to lie to someone YOU are paying about having lunch with your GF ? and 2) He is just too damn good at this, I will never be able to believe a word out of his mouth . I'm in sales AND theater, I can cry on cue, but I don't spin lies for no good reason, or really ANY reason !?! ( Yes, this might venture into deeper deal breaker territory, but for me it's now an initial one : Fancy looking man who makes his living off his silver tongue in a SALES field, can often be someone who has a hard time differing reality from "marketing", as ended up being the case here) great red flag, def not a silly deal breaker, though!
ltjg45 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Guys with bigger boobs than me. They exist? Oh dear. I hope I never see that.
miss_jaclynrae Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 A man who checks himself out in the mirror more than I do. One guy I was with [granted, he was VERY attractive] freaked out once when I pushed my fingers through his hair because I "ruined" his look. 3
candie13 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 I dated a guy who always had a comb with him, to make sure his hair "was alright". I was in highschool
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