polo girl Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 ok, over 4 years ago i used to be close 'secret friends' with a 'lad' from my school. he didn't want his friends knowing that we spoke as i was considered to be somewhat nerdy and that image was unacceptable to him and his friends. he also kept wanting to kiss me and i refused - hey if he wouldn't speak to me in public, why the hell should i kiss him? we stopped speaking. fast forward to last night - we ran into each other and he was being very kind. he even offered to drive me home but i refused. i still haven't forgotten how he treated me 4 years ago. he then texted me and wanted to catch up again - i must admit that i didn't know who it was because i had deleted his number 4 years prior. he even texted me this morning and invited me out to his house with the guys from our old school. i had a massive crush on this guy back then and he wanted me to leave my friendship group and hang out with the more desirable 'it' girls. i didn't want to and he just completely ignored me and starting to date one of them. do i just forgive and forget and behave like an adult and catch up with him for a coffee?? please don't think i'm being petty about high school 'stuff' as this world of schooling permeated every cell in the body because we were boarders and thus some of my baggage i guess. thanks
bolase Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Hey Polo. That's a hard one, clearly you two had something and you're both still drawn to each other. I would be prepared to forgive and forget; maybe a conversation about it down the line. Most people don't know who they are at that age. For now, sure, go out for coffee with him sometime but I wouldn't accept the invitation to his house "with the guys from our old school"...that's him being a great big wuss (though clearly he's 'proud' of you these days so he's matured a fraction). He's already told you he wants to catch up with you - great. So just tell him "Catching up would be nice. Another time soon :)" Keep us updated!
Author polo girl Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 thanks! sound advice.. will go for a coffee catch up sometime later on in the week or even early next week will update too thanks again
lorainsmith Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 forgive him , give that ninja another chance but dont forget what he did, and dont give him no cuttie .
Maneater Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I feel like I am always the one to tell people to give others a second chance however in this instance, NO WAY. Someone who wants to keep you a secret because of popularity is a big no!
bolase Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I feel like I am always the one to tell people to give others a second chance however in this instance, NO WAY. Someone who wants to keep you a secret because of popularity is a big no! BUT at boarding school...they were younger and tis the furthest thing from the real world. He totally liked you..he must have been very insecure then.
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