Cytochrome c Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 So 5 years ago, I had a brief, 4 month FWB relationship with a girl from college. We had a lot of fun together, but I really didn't want anything serious. One day she told me that she was "starting to fall in love" with me. I told her that I liked her and that I was attracted to her, but that I didn't want to commit or have a serious relationship just yet. She was upset, but she didn't flip out or anything like that (thank God) and just stopped talking to me. We grew apart and didn't talk for years, but she recently facebooked me; she had moved away for a while but moved back. We even flirted a bit over facebook; the whole awkward "break up" (if you can call it that for FWB type of relationships) didn't seem to be an issue. I suggested we meet up and catch up and she said yes. We have a date later this week. The thing is, how should I approach her? I mean, I've seen this girl naked before, but we haven't hooked up or even talked for years. Should I treat her like a new girl that I'm meeting for the first time on a first date? Or would it be safe to immediately suggest after the date that she come back to my place?
ja123 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Firstly, are you now in the place where you are ready for a proper relationship and commit to a girl? For real? I realize that a lot could've changed in 5 years, so it'll be like getting to know this girl all over again, but do you think you could commit to this girl? If the answer is "no," then I would steer well clear from her sexually, unless she makes a play for you, and you make it clear (once again) that it's just a FWB. If all that you'll ever be is a FWB and it's clear for both of you, then commence the sex games right away. If you and she want to see if you can develop something more out of this, then I wouldn't initiate sex on the first meet. Keep us updated.
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