Desensitized Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Hey LS, Long time since I've been on this site. I am just posting since I need some advice, and it's been a long time since I've had any actual feelings for a girl. I've dated off and on, even had some girlfriends here and there, but I was never truly invested in any of them nor did I feel any strong emotional attachment to them. Dating just for fun kinda thing. I started talking to this girl online and it turns out she is in one of my courses this semester. We decided to get together after class and I took her out for some coffee, talked a bit and got to know her, and then we went back to my place to chat some more. During that time, I got to know very basic stuff about her, along with some personal stuff, but most of the conversation was kept simple. Such as what her taste in music, movies, shows, and her career goals etc. Suffice it to say, I like her a lot. We have pretty much the same taste in music, movies, and shows. Conversation with her seems to flow, and I like her personality. We spent two hours talking about this until she had to leave, and I realize that out of the many girls I've dated this past year and a half, none have really rekindled those butterflies in my stomach except for one or two girls in the past. I feel like these feelings are developing too quickly, and she's not feeling the same as I am feeling for her. Which is normal, I just met this girl this Friday. I just want to know if I messed things up with her. I sent her a couple messages last night when I was drunk/high, and said some pretty stupid stuff. These are some of the things I said: "So I'm kind of drunk... but I've been thinking that you don't like me really much. I thought we hit it off but maybe I hyped myself for something that really wasn't there. I admit, I'm a hopeless romantic." She responded by saying: "First off, I appreciate your grammar even though you're intoxicated & I definitely like how much we have in common! I wouldn't turn down seeing you again and seeing where it goes, especially to see how much nerves played a role today from both of us." Then after waking up and being sober, I sent her another message saying: "I enjoyed my Friday maybe a little too much last night. On the other hand, want to hangout after class on Monday or sometime this weekend?" She said: "fyi I usually don't reply to drunken messages until the next day so just keep that in mind if it happens again! and what did you have in mind?" I said: " Fair enough. I don't plan on making a habit out of it, but yeah, I will keep that in mind. Maybe get to know each other a bit more, watch a movie, then go out and get some dinner? or if it's not extremely cold out, we could go for a walk somewhere and find a local place to eat at. Local places sometimes tend to have the best food in town" She said: "I feel like death today - i got **** in my eye earlier so I'm not up for anything today, tomorrow is my homework/avoid football ish day, and mondays are the absolute worst - class 11a-8p. so how about like tues/wed? also it's still kinda early in whatever this is and I prefer to take things slow, so tbh I'm not superrr comfortable chillin in your room, I'm sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear. and I hope you don't take any of this the wrong way. I'd still like to see you again" I said: "hah. I don't care for football too much either. tues/wed works, just send me a text or message me on here when you're available. And thanks for being honest, if you're uncomfortable being in my room, then we can find something else to do. The last thing I want is to put you in an uncomfortable environment. I'll be honest with you, I normally take things fast with girls I don't intend on seeing again. But with you, I am actually wanting to see where this goes so I have no problem with taking things slow. And I'm not taking this the wrong way, as long as you're not leading me on. That stuff is always annoying. Anyways, headed to the gym. Have a good rest of your saturday." So tl;dr: I made myself look like a scrub, I have almost little to no self-control when I REALLY like a woman, and I haven't met a girl that's made me feel this way in a very, very long time. Advice, LS, please. No harsh/trolling comments either, I already feel like ****. Thanks in advance!
miss_jaclynrae Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I thought it went swimmingly. PS. Drunk texts like that aren't all that bad. It's cute, and totally gives you an excuse for being so upfront and honest.
Author Desensitized Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 Thanks for the reply, miss_jaclynrae. Maybe I am just expecting too much too soon. I should just let these things happen, and have her initiate contact when she's ready. I don't want to scare her off.
Author Desensitized Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 While not hearing from her for a good 7+ hours doesn't make me feel too good, i am just going to let it sit until she messages me or I see her in class. I don't even know why I'm letting this get to me so much... good night, LS.
Buttercup84 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 I think if it is the right girl , she will love getting a text from you. I would not mention that she does not seem to like you. You need to rock the confidence. Something like " Hey there , so how has your day been so far ? " then mention something you talked about on your date, something she said. If she mentioned she was going to write an essay , ask her how it went . Chat for a bit , then ask her what her plans are for the week . Then ask her if she would be interested in having a coffee or something. She does seem keen though.
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