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Letter from my ex after 1.5 months of NC


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I got a letter from my ex (dumper) today after 1.5 months of NC which was suggested by my ex. My ex wanted the NC to forget about me, move on, and seek another relationship with his "friend" who he met online or maybe from the past friendship. (You could search my posts about this breakup)

 

So We both went to NC. He first suggested 3 months, but for some reason, he made the period of NC shorter in our breakup conversation. Then finally we agreed to take 1.5 months NC until the end of January.

I had been actually away from home during this NC, and just got back the day before yesterday. (January 30th)

 

Then I noticed that I got a christmas card from my ex which was written on 2 days before the day I received it. (so it was not a christmas card anymore)

 

I thought it could be a simple thank you card for his christmas present (I bought and sent his present before our breakup). Though, it was a pretty long letter actually.

 

He didn't mention anything our breakup, no apology, and asked me a lot of questions about my life during the NC, like how are your family, friend, school, and job. HE WROTE LIKE NOTHING HAPPENED BETWEEN US.

He even mentioned that he had been planning writing the letter around christmas even we are in NC initiated by him!

 

I was confused, but I wrote an email him back anyway to be polite.

It was short like "Thank you for the card. I'm good, hope you are well."

 

Then I just got a reply from him telling me about his life (I didn't ask in previous email.), he asked my broad schedule, and even asked me if I am interested in working on a project with him!

 

I know he wanted to remain friends with me but I clearly rejected his offer at our breakup. Why does he do this to ignore my wish!?

NC helped me to move on and improve myself and life, but I feel like I'm pulled back to the first place because of his contact!

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He's using you as an emotional crutch... If things aren't going well with him and his new "friend" then he'll most likely come running to you for emotional support.

 

Make no mistake though he doesn't want you back. If he really did he would have at least given some sort of hint of regret in his letter which he clearly did not.

 

You need to tell him to stop contacting you and go NC longer.

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Do not respond to it, remain in no contact.

If it's a start of him wanting you back, then he will know how to contact you more.

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NC helped me to move on and improve myself and life, but I feel like I'm pulled back to the first place because of his contact!

 

Then you have the power to stop it. Don't respond. Ignore whatever letters or emails he sends you. Block him if you have to. If you're moving on with your life and you feel like this is dragging you back, then you need to stop it from happening.

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