Dating 2 guys who also happen to be friends, is this a recipe for disaster?

[MissLY]

Well, not really. I met 2 guys at a house party 2 weeks ago. I spoke to them both at different times throughout the night, and they both asked for my number. At the end of the night, I realized that both guys knew each other (not besties but more like very good acquaintances). But I thought nothing of it.

 

Anyway, both guys end up reaching out to me the following week. So I went on a date with guy #1 and it was great. He picked a great restaurant, we had good conversation and I certainly felt some sparks. At one point during the date I asked him how he and the other guy knew each other, and he said they're friends who see eachother about once every 2 months. Maybe I shouldn't have asked lol, because now he knows that I KNOW his friend. Anyway, we are planning for a 2nd date this coming week.

 

As for guy #2, well, I haven't gone out with him yet but we're ALSO planning to see each other the same week as guy #1. (I'll probably see guy #1 on tuesday, guy #2 on wednesday).

 

So what do you guys think? Is this bound to not end well? They are friends but not SUPER close, should I just focus on one guy and leave the other alone? Or should I just say f*ck it, date both of them and see what happens?

 

Thanks

[veggirl]

Why don't you see what happens with A before even doing anything with B? If they ask about the other, will you be honest that yes you went on a date with both (on consecutive days no less!). Sounds awkward.

[2sure]

Don't go out with 2 and tell him why.

Going out with both will make you the topic of a humorous and unflattering conversation sooner or later.

If you go out with 2 then decide to Sally forth with one or the other , it will turn on you.

[Casablanca]

Just go with it and see how it goes, just don't multidate long, maybe a couple dates with each and decide which one if either you're most interested in.

 

I don't think guys will be too put off by this, women on the other hand probably wouldnt be okay with it nearly as much

[MissLY]

Why don't you see what happens with A before even doing anything with B? If they ask about the other, will you be honest that yes you went on a date with both (on consecutive days no less!). Sounds awkward.

 

Lol true, I doubt that either of them will ask, but if they do ask I'll just be honest and say "Sure, I hung out with him" but I don't want to WAIT to see what happens with guy #1 first because what if the interest increases and he asks to see me more often? That means I'll need to put guy #2 on ice for awhile, and I don't want to do that because he may lose interest or think I'm taking too long to make a first date happen. I want to go out with him at least once (and soon) to see if anything comes of it.

[suladas]

Depends on the guys but you're playing with fire. Even one date if it was me I wouldn't talk to the girl again, not cool with me at all. However I am not a fan of multi dating at all. Just be prepared it could end bad.

[MissLY]

Just go with it and see how it goes, just don't multidate long, maybe a couple dates with each and decide which one if either you're most interested in.

 

I don't think guys will be too put off by this, women on the other hand probably wouldnt be okay with it nearly as much

 

That was my initial strategy, to go out with both of them (2 dates each) and then pick which one I like better. Who knows, guy #2 may not even like me after the first date since it hasn't happened yet! That would certainly makes things a lot easier, then I could just stick with guy #1.

[in_absentia]

Multi-date for a very short time period (a couple dates with each will be long enough to know how you feel about both), and be open and honest with them BEFORE dating that this is happening with their friend too.