irc333 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 (edited) ...girls...obviously. I had a friend who is an organizer of a Meetup social club. Some of the women had been asking her to place a "Girls night out" event one of these days, and she did. Quite a few women RSVP'd for the girls night out event. So she also countered with a "Guys Night Out" event.....0 RSVP'ed to the event. Some considered this quite strange as if it wasn't so obvious, but it is quite obvious that people don't go to organized events, if no women will be there. Right? Also, there was another instance in the Christian community. Apparently this church staff person organized a woman's retreat, and it was a big hit, when questioned about a Men's retreat...he said it would never work, women make LIFE more interesting. And this is coming from an UNBIASED married, mature man, not a single, 20-something on the prowl Edited February 2, 2013 by irc333
MrCastle Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Because "guys night out" is typically "guys night in" where you play call of duty and order a pizza. 5
mesmerized Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 haha. I honestly don't get why women like their "girls night out" so much. I like to hang out with my friends and go and do activities with them. But on a night out in a bar or club I would like to meet new people rather than just stick to a ton of girls. Sadly I often end up doing it because that seems to be what the "girls" want and are comfortable with.
Woggle Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Men don't really like to organize things when we hang out. We just call up the guys and do whatever.
ptp Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Having seen both sides of these types of things, it is pretty simple. Girls night out -> more girls there are -> easier to get into clubs + more free stuff + easier to find guys Guys night out -> more guys there are -> you get nothing for free + infinitely harder to get into clubs + harder to meet women 2
ooglesnboogles Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Steve Maniscalco has a great bit on how dudes can't go out in groups like girls do, at least with the aim of finding mates. Think about it, 16 dudes walking down the street together, dressed up, trying to be/look like the cool guy or the sexy man or the macho dude. Just doesn't work =P
KathyM Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Well, I would agree that women make life better , but there are well attended mens groups at church that a lot of men find comraderie, support and connectedness from.
Author irc333 Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 Basically put, most men (single men) won't go to an organized event if women aren't going to be there. MAYBE if it's a activity they enjoy. But chances are, women make it more interesting if THEY are there.
AMusing Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I personally like to go to "women's only" activities because it's easier to get to know new people when none of us are getting hit on. It's harder to make new friends (or catch up with old friends) when guys won't stop trying to get your attention (and number). I imagine a lot of women feel the same way I do, hence one appeal of a lady's only Meetup
Author irc333 Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 I personally like to go to "women's only" activities because it's easier to get to know new people when none of us are getting hit on. It's harder to make new friends (or catch up with old friends) when guys won't stop trying to get your attention (and number). I imagine a lot of women feel the same way I do, hence one appeal of a lady's only Meetup What's wrong with getting hit on?
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Men do far better solo or in small packs than in a large sausage fest group. If I went out with a large group of guys, we always split into 2's or 3 at the most, anything more than that and you're endangering the sausage fest zone...men go out for the women obviously, so roaming around in a large ufo shaped entourage like you're Kanye West isn't going to work well at all, it's a repellent (exception is you all are tall and look like models)... unless of course you are Kanye West or another celebrity, in which you would need large breast, a short dress and preferably be a little on the trashy side (dressed "classy" of course though) to be apart of. Through the night you may mix and mingle, however in places like Las Vegas especially, it's not uncommon for you to go with a group of guys and never see each other that night, or even until the next day. You should have at least some "game" on your own, wing men should be situational or you'll probably be that guy at the end of the night he's hammered because you've spent far too much drinking by yourself talking about your ex-girlfriend...only having to be baby-sat the entire night or sent home early for bad behavior. If you already have females with you then of course you can increase the number of men present because vagina breaks up the ufo male sausage group like stripes on a zebra. And clearly if you have females among you, you must not be THAT creepy. Guys hanging around guys are very simple and aren't trying to impress each other...so sitting in the living room in your leisure wear, having a few brewskis, playing some video games/poker/dart/playing pool farting up a storm or whatever is far more enjoyable than being at a bar or club paying for overpriced drinks just to dance with the guys...men need activities to stay entertained we don't want to sit there and stare at each other..talking about our problems or relationships...looking at women pass by like pervs or married men (wishing we could have a piece of that)...only women can get away with that socially 1
AMusing Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 What's wrong with getting hit on? I should clarify: obviously I don't always want to be isolated from men, or never hit on. Flirting can be a lot of fun. And sure, getting hit on can boost one's ego. Plus, a group event is where I met my boyfriend, so obviously I'm a little fond of them. But my self-esteem is just fine without that validation, and there are a many days (even while single) that I don't want that kind of interaction. Sometimes I want to be with a group of people who are only interested in my thoughts and ideas, nothing more. It's much easier to get that dynamic when only women are around. I only want one guy at a time (hopefully, eventually, one guy for the rest of my life). It's always been easy for me to find that one guy I'm interested in dating, so I don't spend much time looking to fill that slot (double entendre not intentional but appreciated). On the other hand, there is always room in my life for a new friend. So doesn't it make sense to spend much more time focusing on making and keeping friends than flirting with a bunch of guys? Also, like a lot of men have said about "guy's night," women can be more themselves without men around. Nobody's trying to impress anyone else; it's just about having a nice time. Another clarification: my ladies' nights are not spent getting all gussied up and hitting the clubs. They are hiking groups, book clubs, sewing circles, movie nights, climbing groups, etc. I can't speak to how the club girls feel about getting hit on.
Treasa Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Because "guys night out" is typically "guys night in" where you play call of duty and order a pizza. My female friends and I are all gamers, so this is what we do, too.
Babolat Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Why are some of the replies about a "night out" centered around "finding a mate, a partenr, meeting a girl/guy? My ex, and y current GF, did/does a girls night out once a week with her best friedn and I know for sure it was just to go out, get some dinner, talk, catch up. If they went to a club it was not to meet guys; it was to dance and have fun, be with friends.
carhill Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Basically put, most men (single men) won't go to an organized event if women aren't going to be there. MAYBE if it's a activity they enjoy. But chances are, women make it more interesting if THEY are there. IDK, I and many of my fellow racers did it for decades. Sure, sometimes there would be ladies/spouses/partners in the stands, but we were there regardless, breathing the nitro and drinking the beer. Guy stuff. Great Friday or Saturday 'night out'. TBH, when I was touring, I didn't give women a second thought. It was all about the track. I can think of other 'guy' activities that were/are the same. As example, most of the endurance (bicycle) rides I led/rode in were all guys. Yep, there were women in the club but we guys would often go off and do our own thing. It was about the riding, not the women. Speaking strictly of 'social' engagements/night's out, IME men of my generation tend to be more 'cavers' where we'll show up at one guy's house and BBQ, burn up his bar and chew the fat/bench race/play cards, etc, etc. We don't 'go out'. Then again, most of the guys in my social circle are married and, well, like their 'cave time'
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