crimsoncurrent Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 During our nearly four year relationship, my ex and I were very sexual, with her being very adventurous in that department. Since it's been nearly three weeks of NC, and me incessantly wondering if she's seeing anyone else, the thought about her participating intimately with someone else is just killing me. How have others dealt with this situation?
gonefishin Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I think this is totally normal.. Lets be honest this is nearly everyone's worse fear after loosing someone .. It's totally normal ... But try not make it harder on yourself stay away from the usual things that bring pain facebook and twitter leave that in the unknown ... When these thoughts come in change them!! And simply just keep busy.. It ain't easy but try .. Good luck and don't loose faith ! 1
Author crimsoncurrent Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 I think this is totally normal.. Lets be honest this is nearly everyone's worse fear after loosing someone .. It's totally normal ... But try not make it harder on yourself stay away from the usual things that bring pain facebook and twitter leave that in the unknown ... When these thoughts come in change them!! And simply just keep busy.. It ain't easy but try .. Good luck and don't loose faith ! Thank, man. I appreciate it. I deactivated by fb nearly a month ago, and have only logged one once, which was three weeks ago. Yeah, public places are difficult to be around, especially places were us being sexual occurred. But yeah, I'm just hoping the intensity of these feelings will dissipate. I've had plenty of urges of wanting to drive by her house, but if I was to see her with someone, it'll destroy me, I think.
gonefishin Posted February 5, 2013 Posted February 5, 2013 Don't do the drive bys or stalking or showing up where she will be.. Truth is your not able to deal with what u could see (and maybe there's nothing going on) but that's a risk you don't gamble with your sanity. Day by day hopefully u get stronger and remember what's meant for you won't pass you... Who knows what's down the road.. Stay positive and super busy.. Give some old good pals a call and hook up.. Do positive things .. It's really that simple .. But I do know that's easier said then done .. But try ....
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