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Me and some friends were discussing how people are choosing to stay single, but still be able to have a relationship without marriage.

 

They date exclusively, but will NEVER move in together either, one person sees one person for a weekend, then goes home, vice-versa.

 

And if you get on each others nerves....go home , problem solved. lol

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Me and some friends were discussing how people are choosing to stay single, but still be able to have a relationship without marriage.

 

They date exclusively, but will NEVER move in together either, one person sees one person for a weekend, then goes home, vice-versa.

 

And if you get on each others nerves....go home , problem solved. lol

 

Isn't that just called dating?

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It's called dating, but, any girl gets to a point where they will want more permanent. Quoting U2, "With or With You"...

 

It's might be traditional, but, my thoughts are, I don't date someone unless I see myself potentially marrying them because what's the point? Getting laid and having fun? That's for high school kids and someone in their early 20's.

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It's called dating, but, any girl gets to a point where they will want more permanent. Quoting U2, "With or Without You"...

 

It's might be traditional, but, my thoughts are, I don't date someone unless I see myself potentially marrying them because what's the point? Getting laid and having fun? That's for high school kids and someone in their early 20's.

 

I love generalizations. :laugh:

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It's called dating, but, any girl gets to a point where they will want more permanent. Quoting U2, "With or With You"...

 

It's might be traditional, but, my thoughts are, I don't date someone unless I see myself potentially marrying them because what's the point? Getting laid and having fun? That's for high school kids and someone in their early 20's.

 

Actually, there are people in their 40's and 50's doing it now. That's how the conversation came up, he was talking about a female friend, that when she dated a man...she dated him 21 years.....they never lived together, just dated exclusively.

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And yeah, I think it takes a certain amount of life experience and relationship/dating 'maturity'; to be able to handle that....

 

Many married couples (2nd timers) are marrying but keeping to their own individual homes.

 

It's brilliant!

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Ok, let's say it together now : Different things work for different people.

 

Shocking, I know.

 

One relationship, we were happy to keep separate spaces, in the current one, we can't sleep without the other one near.

 

Neither are bad, BUT, I much prefer this one, we have more similar love styles.

 

Compatibility; all it takes is ONE person to feel the way you do, and love you the way you want and need to be loved.

 

I think I'm finally going to start my thread on co-dependency being a much over used term nowadays, some of us just prefer each others company. Though I don't judge people like, say, my PARENTS, who have been happily married for 46 yrs, but are private people who enjoy time alone, with same sex friends, and separate vacations at times.

 

It's all good as long as both parties are happy. DON'T marry someone who doesn't have the same LoveOmeter temperature that you have.

 

That and never lie about what you want out of a relationship. That pretty much solves everything.

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I'm noticing more people that have been doing that as well. And when I think about it...I think that's a situation I could really embrace.

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Actually, there are people in their 40's and 50's doing it now. That's how the conversation came up, he was talking about a female friend, that when she dated a man...she dated him 21 years.....they never lived together, just dated exclusively.

I don't know what you're arguing because it's just my opinion. I didn't say other people can't be dating. I didn't say 40-50 year olds don't date, it was a simple statement. Good for you and your 40 something year old. Moving on...hahah

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I know a woman like that, a childhood friend, who lives alone, as does her boyfriend, but they have been dating for 15 years. It works for them because she knows she would be impossible to live with, and she likes to have her space. They are exclusive though.

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