LB85 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 so this guy and I had been texting back and forth and hung out and he always seemed interested (we were in the same group of friends). I thought he really liked me, he said he felt a click and he messaged me every night. He always checked if I got home safe and apologized whenever he felt he may have done something wrong. He would always get jealous of my guy friends and would message me whenever I was abroad. I thought he really did like me and just needed time. I realized he wasn't moving things forward and I was talking to another guy (Guy B) at the same time. I thought I wanted to try and make things work with guy B so I requested him to not talk to me from now on, he got very angry and upset (later telling me he wish he had used his chance). After a few weeks, obviously I never liked guy B (but he did everything I wanted this guy to be). So my crush and I bumped into a party and started talking because he really wanted to fix things. We finally admitted to liking each other and that both of us felt a click. At one point, we hung out and things seemed to get a little better. I don't know why, but I felt like he wasn't making much of an effort and he was kind of trying but for some reason things got too much and I told him his behavior wasn't acceptable to me. That he would cancel or only do things on his terms. We finally got to the dreaded conversation of me wanting something more than him. He said he thought I knew he was leaving in 2 months and would be gone for 4 months so he wasn't looking for anything serious. I said no I did think there was more (especially after so many months) and we can just hang out but then I have certain boundaries if it can't be serious and he said "I really like spending time with you, we don't need to do anything you aren't comfortable with". I thought things would work out. He said he needed to think things through and that it was all too much for him. The next day was the first day he didn't message me. Then I messaged him the day after saying I thought things through and that I am fine with something less serious and just hanging out but that I really just want to forget the struggle we had gone through for the passed few months. He sent a cold response saying he thought things through and that we aren't really on the same page about things. I replied and he never answered. Now his message didn't even upset me because now I at least knew. Now I know I pushed him away but is there a possibility of a guy missing a girl and us still being friends? Or him even coming back? Or are guys more certain in their decisions? Also, does it mean he never really did like me?
ja123 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I think that you're not "really" into him, but like the attention he gives you! Maybe he's caught on to this and respects himself enough to want to end it with you. Rightly so. Sounds like you've got some maturing to do, and your "playing the field" days are not over.
Yookie Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 You should not care that he got scared away. You two are not on the same page. Move on.
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