M23 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 My break up was 5 and a half weeks ago. I know it's over, for good, I'm only on 6 days NC but I'm doing ok, I think. I don't want her back after all that's happened. I really just miss her from before we were together now, but we can't be friends. I'm pretty sure someone likes me and she has for a while... Since before I got together with my ex. She's even started messaging me on facebook, that's never happened before, I don't really chat on facebook. I won't say too much though, there's been a lot of other signs, things she's said. It's just a lot of people who know me are aware of the situation. The consensus is, my ex was a bitch, I'm better off without her. Most people know I'm "over" my ex. I'm still confused, but what if she makes a move? She knows I'm single now. I do like her, I just don't know if I'm ready for anything new, but at the same time, I don't want to possibly miss a good chance that something could happen... I might see her tomorrow night, on a night out, if not it'll be soon... Again, I'm not really sure what it is I'm asking, or if it should be posted here in coping.
Blastoplast Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Doesn't sound like you're ready to start dating yet 1
Brit Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 (edited) I agree, by your own words, it seems to be that you still have drama swirling in your mind and you are in no way over your ex yet, why mix this with an innocent third wheel until you give it alot more time. Although, it may be your way of coping. To each his own, after drama, I tend to stay away from it, and learn from it, rather then rebounding with another, in which it sounds you do not have strong feeings for. Forgot the song....leave it be. Edited February 4, 2013 by Brit 1
Survivor12 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 The best option may be to spend time with this new girl in a group setting until you are ready to begin dating again. That would give you the opportunity to get to know her better and interact with her without misleading her or putting pressure on yourself.
Author M23 Posted February 4, 2013 Author Posted February 4, 2013 Thanks for the replies, I'm just going to leave it, if she, or anyone for that matter, does make a move, I'll just be honest with her. You guys are right and I agree. I'm not ready and to be honest I'm not really that interested... At the moment anyway. I got hurt, I still hurt a bit and just feel weird. Just because I've accepted it's over and I've accepted I don't want her back, doesn't mean I'm over her completely. 1
Brit Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 I think these boards are great.....see, you were never interested much anyways, so, bingo, a third party will not have hurt placed on them:) 2
Brit Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Just take it slowly, sounds as if you are, it is good to have someone to talk to, and you mentioned she is showing interest, be freinds, talk awhile, maybe you will find interest. I hope it all works out.
Author M23 Posted February 4, 2013 Author Posted February 4, 2013 Yeah, I am taking things slowly and I know/hope thing's will work out, it's just a matter of time...
Brit Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Yeah, I am taking things slowly and I know/hope thing's will work out, it's just a matter of time... Good:) And she is obviously well aware she is second fiddle in your mind, and she is corresponding, which is a good sign. My advice is a little skewed because I am not interested much in men, and would pass such an offer in a space minute...but to each their own.
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