MelWell Posted August 26, 2004 Posted August 26, 2004 Hi all - this is a new problem for me. I've been with my bf for a year and a half now and can't be more in love!! I have never ever been an affectionate person, but with him - I can't help it! So what's the problem you ask? Well I think i'm TOOOO affectionate and super needy of affection. If I don't get a good amount of affection everytime i see him, i get all down in the dumps. And obviously, who can be affectionate ALL THE TIME!!!! Does anyone have this problem? How do I stop myself from being so needy? I want to back off a little so he doesn't get sick of me.
Amy22 Posted August 26, 2004 Posted August 26, 2004 I am the same way so sorry I can't offer any advice. It is not a easy thing to know you are needy and I know what you mean about feeling in the dumps when you don't get enough attention. I am interested to see what other people tell you. Because I could use some advice on this to.
kellydontwanttasleep Posted August 26, 2004 Posted August 26, 2004 first off i would look at why your feeling this way, it may take awhile to find that out. second i would talk to your BF and start by telling him you know it's not his fault and that your just sharing your feelings. remember touching is an important part of a relationship, even if you were only friends.
BurningBright Posted August 27, 2004 Posted August 27, 2004 Make 1 or 2 days out of the week for personal days. A day where you just go out with friends and what not. Go shopping or to the park by yourself. It will give you time to think, get to know yourself a little better, and give each other space, so you won't seem as "needy". As for the touching most of the time you are together with him. I do the same thing (I think most women are like that actually... I only know of one female who isn't.) I am always holding his hand, or grabbing his butt when he is doing the dishes . But when I notice that I have been doing it A LOT in a day, I tend to stop and let him come up and snuggle me for a change. It's nice to not be the one always initiating contact. ~BurningBright
Author MelWell Posted August 30, 2004 Author Posted August 30, 2004 Thanks for all the tips - I do spend time on my own, though. So it's weird. I'm in a band, so alot of the time during the week after work is spent recording etc. Although, before band we usually hook up for a quick bite (since it's on my way to band). Not sure if maybe we're just spending too much time together... Good thing is that in a couple of weeks I leave for 8 days on a business trip... so that will give us some time apart.. not that i want it or anything This weekend though, I wasn't as touchy feely as usual - and did get some "what's wrong, is everything ok?" lol... he's getting used to it... ::ho-hum:: hehe
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