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pbjbear Established Member

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I would not judge based on texts

It is hard to convey what a person means through texts

Texting is not a good communication tool...80% of what you say comes from your voice and body language

Dont rashly do that...chill out and see how she is in person

candie13 Established Member

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oh, you texted? Great, say the McDonalds was a joke, you hope she didn't take it seriously !!! quick damage control!

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OCCDAVE Established Member

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Tbh candi I think that might be my downside being to nice.I mean I'm already making a 50 mile ( 3 toll ways) one way trip plus I find a place that's better IMO then Olive Garden .Unless garden is what you want that case just say it but I'm a man I should be in control.Anyway I do enjoy talking to her but lets what happens if nothing comes of this weekend case closed I'm not a doormat sigh

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$13?

And you're in Australia?

What?

 

I live down the road from Thai la ong, their lunch special was $6.50 (now $7), but even on a nighttime date, I would convince the guy to just share a main, so with rice still about $13. And then we went to a cafe for a tea and offee and the whole date ran to $20. This way also if the guy can't or doesn't want to pay, I am still within my budget.

 

What?

 

Do some of the planning on the first date? Horrified at paying less than $100 dollars for a first date? Where's your sense of entitlement to be wined, dined, and entertained?

 

What kind of a freak woman are you? :lmao:

 

I like men who show that they are savvy with money, and fool can throw money around like it's nothing.

 

me thinks Titania isn't used to dating that much... get out of the house, girl, let the men spoil you, I am sure it's been a while ;) !

 

I don't date that much, and at my age the days are gone when men are predisposed to ask me out. No big deal, I have had a few dates in my time, and I did really appreciate when a guy splurged on me. It made me feel really lucky.

 

There's always McDonald's. A couple of bucks for what some consider great, reasonably priced food. That's a great date in certain scenarios.

 

 

And despite my previous post about cheap meals, I would never go to a mcdonalds for a date or any other reason. I would sooner starve to death then touch anything they served.

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Tbh candi I think that might be my downside being to nice.I mean I'm already making a 50 mile ( 3 toll ways) one way trip plus I find a place that's better IMO then Olive Garden .Unless garden is what you want that case just say it but I'm a man I should be in control.Anyway I do enjoy talking to her but lets what happens if nothing comes of this weekend case closed I'm not a doormat sigh

 

I don't get why you get so bent out of shape, what exactly is rude about her texting "is it like olive garden?", she might like olive garden, or she might just be excited about the date and trying to guess what you have decided, like kids trying to guess what their christmas gifts are before christmas.

 

I don't know why you always have to get bent out of shape and then make a snide remark (the macdonalds thing this time around).

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Outback isn't exactly a dump.

 

Many of us think it is. I have given away gift certificates for this place and I wouldn't eat there. Not a dump in that it isn't cheap, but a dump in that it is incredibly mediocre...:sick:

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Tbh candi I think that might be my downside being to nice.I mean I'm already making a 50 mile ( 3 toll ways) one way trip plus I find a place that's better IMO then Olive Garden .Unless garden is what you want that case just say it but I'm a man I should be in control.Anyway I do enjoy talking to her but lets what happens if nothing comes of this weekend case closed I'm not a doormat sigh

 

well... IMHO, it's rude to ask if "the food is good" or if "it's like Olive Garden". My standard answer, when a man asks me out and I have already accepted, is: "never heard of this one, Italian you say? Sounds great, I really enjoy Italian".

 

If I may, in order to avoid all this back and forth with the IM, why don't you just write a simple text, saying smth like:

 

"hey, I'm thinking about making dinner reservation, at the xxx restaurant, on Friday, at 8 o'clock. would you be free to join me / would you like to come" and leave it there

 

if she's not responding or not coming, she's actually doing you a favor!

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OCCDAVE Established Member

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Her -I like McDonalds lol

Her-I dunno tbh

 

 

Smh it's not like I didn't just suggest a place I'm gonna call what should I say now.

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stick to your guns, don't apologize and BE CHARMING!

Easy, ain't it ;) ?

 

Have 2 alternatives in mind and suggest one reason for each one of them (eg my friend said at X they serve fresh home made pasta, yummy and at Y they apparently have the best tiramisu in the State. Certified!). you can let her choose, she seems picky, lol!

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OCCDAVE Established Member

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Well I called no answer (shocker) anyway I found a place from one of her interest which was a step up from any chain place.I asked and got the I dunno well I'm not gonna spend more time and yelp/chowhound for what.mexican is slim around there same with Indian .If she made the drive here there is way more choices.Shes agreed to come here before just would come with a friend since shes not familer driving here hence the reason I agreed to half way.Anyway this point I'm just eh about it .I already feel silly I asked everyone here and even more that a simple yes/no has taken this long .

candie13 Established Member

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relax, tomorrow is another day. it's not supposed to be that nerve wrecking... have a beer and enjoy your evening - it's midnight in Europe, hope I'm off with my remark :)!

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Well I called no answer (shocker) anyway I found a place from one of her interest which was a step up from any chain place.I asked and got the I dunno well I'm not gonna spend more time and yelp/chowhound for what.mexican is slim around there same with Indian .If she made the drive here there is way more choices.Shes agreed to come here before just would come with a friend since shes not familer driving here hence the reason I agreed to half way.Anyway this point I'm just eh about it .I already feel silly I asked everyone here and even more that a simple yes/no has taken this long .

 

Like I said initially. Low interest chick. Girls like this get dropped. If she was truly interested, you wouldn't be going through all this red tape.

 

Dating is supposed to be fun. It's not supposed to be headache inducing. It's a recreation not a job.

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OCCDAVE Established Member

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Exactly it's not even suppose to be this hard .I dunno I only had two Italian places in mind I'm not gonna send her text saying how about this place or this.Im thinking sending a text saying this place has good pasta I think you will like it so join me :). Thanks again everyone

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OCCDAVE Established Member

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Like I said initially. Low interest chick. Girls like this get dropped. If she was truly interested, you wouldn't be going through all this red tape.

 

Dating is supposed to be fun. It's not supposed to be headache inducing. It's a recreation not a job.

tbh that's exactly what I told my sister.At this point I don't see anything happening owell :-/
candie13 Established Member

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you have to be crazy to give up when you're this close! You're gonna send her that goddamn text, 'cause you're not impressed with her little girl fits. if she's a woman, a real woman, she'll show up :)

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OCCDAVE Established Member

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What text is this I already told her where I wanted to take her instead of a yes or no I get I dunno ?

candie13 Established Member

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"hey, there, long evening, hehe. So I mentioned this nice Italian restaurant, the xxxx, close to your area. Great fresh home made pasta, I would like to make reservations for Friday at 8, if interested. Can you make it?"

 

she should give you a straight answer with that.

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OCCDAVE Established Member

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Instead of this can I replace it with that cause earlier i texted her the name of it .

candie13 Established Member

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you're the driver, Dave, do whatever you please, your game :) !

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OCCDAVE Established Member

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I changed it up a bit

 

Hey there ,long evening, hehe. So I mentioned that nice Italian restaurant, the one close to your area. Great fresh home made pasta, I would like to make reservations for Friday at 8, if interested. Would you like to join me ?

 

 

Sigh will see what happens

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SJC2008 Established Member

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stick to your guns, don't apologize and BE CHARMING!

Easy, ain't it ;) ?

 

Have 2 alternatives in mind and suggest one reason for each one of them (eg my friend said at X they serve fresh home made pasta, yummy and at Y they apparently have the best tiramisu in the State. Certified!). you can let her choose, she seems picky, lol!

 

Lol have two alternatives in mind. Are we dealing with an adult here or a child? I like coming up with date ideas and if she doesn't like mine I'm ok with. BUT she needs to come up with something, I'm not going to salvo ideas until she likes one.

 

OP: I thought there was hope when she invited you to the museum but after the text about dinner I'd break a bottle of champagne on her ass becuase that ship has sailed:(

SJC2008 Established Member

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Lol have two alternatives in mind. Are we dealing with an adult here or a child? I like coming up with date ideas and if she doesn't like mine I'm ok with. BUT she needs to come up with something, I'm not going to salvo ideas until she likes one.

 

OP: I thought there was hope when she invited you to the museum but after the text about dinner I'd break a bottle of champagne on her ass becuase that ship has sailed:(

 

Too late I see... You already texted her.

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Eternal Sunshine Established Member

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Low interest girl, time waster.

 

Girls are only this difficult when they are not that into a guy.

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candie13 Established Member

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well, if she's not bloody interested, she should bloody say it! I say big thumbs UP for the OP for not letting this one go easily. It is important to fight you battle until the end, because you learn. You learn to read all the signs and the next time you get them, you'd have had all that experience. Plus, you don't have to live with the "what if"s tonight.

 

Respect, David!

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OCCDAVE Established Member

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Finally a good update

 

Her-hey,8 sounds real great

Her-sorry about earlier was busy

 

 

Im gonna go out on a limb and say when I contacted her earlier thats why she wasnt to into the convo.We chatted for awhile now and I think if she wasnt interested she would just say so.Not sure why it took all day .Owell thanks for everyone who's replied :)

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