OCCDAVE Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I'm beyond nervous for many of reasons .We had 1 ph contact since last Saturday when I made plans and maybe a total of 15 text during a week.We both were busy with work so contact has been limited .Yesterday we agreed to a place for 7 tonight and so far it's still a go.My question is considering we havnt talked much during the week won't that mean tonight will have alot to talk about or should I still let her do most of it and listen.Then again fact so far shes kept plans which were made a week ago is somewhat hopeful .Anyway any tips/pointers you can give will help
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 I better I got a 40 min drive plus unlike last weekend it decided to snow.I won't text/call since we already confirmed the place and time .I swear even though I'm almost 30 I still feel novice
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 I know I'm jumping the gun but if the date goes well is that when you ask for the 2nd date or give it few days then ask
TaraMaiden Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 contact next day... "had a lovely time, blah blah... have something in mind you might like..." (Find something - quick!) ...."and wondered if you'd like to come....?"
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I'm beyond nervous for many of reasons .We had 1 ph contact since last Saturday when I made plans and maybe a total of 15 text during a week.We both were busy with work so contact has been limited .Yesterday we agreed to a place for 7 tonight and so far it's still a go.My question is considering we havnt talked much during the week won't that mean tonight will have alot to talk about or should I still let her do most of it and listen.Then again fact so far shes kept plans which were made a week ago is somewhat hopeful .Anyway any tips/pointers you can give will help I had my date on Thursday and I hooked up. Yo. You are putting way too much into this. Don't be nervous. Expect that she'll next you, no matter how well you seem to be doing. Women are picky as sh@t. As far as the lack of conversation, if you really feel like you might not be able to entertain her and you are nervous, go someplace where you might be able to grab a drink and watch a live show, a rock club or maybe a comedy club. That will keep her occupied without you having to be Don Juan all night.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 I agree women are picky owell at least worst case I'm trying to go out even if nothing comes of it
Fondue Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 If she agreed to see you on a Saturday night for a FIRST date, I'm fairly certain things are already in your favor big time. You'd have to royally screw this up for it to lead to no where. You'll be fine .
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 Well looks like dates not happening.Heres the convo from this morning Her.hey it's very bad the weather here Me-I know as is here just forget it Her.but I wanna see u Me.well let me know Her .i will That was 4 hours ago anyway I think it's safe to say that was her way of saying f off
Imajerk17 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 (edited) Well looks like dates not happening.Heres the convo from this morning Her.hey it's very bad the weather here Me-I know as is here just forget it Her.but I wanna see u Me.well let me know Her .i will That was 4 hours ago anyway I think it's safe to say that was her way of saying f off CALL her and reschedule. Now. It actually sounds that you blew HER off. The correct thing would have been to have said that you can pick her up no problem. She was looking for confirmation the date was still on. Edited February 3, 2013 by Imajerk17 4
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 Well the weather is bad we had a big snow storm.I wasnt trying to come off as a jerk just didnt wanna be like so we still on despite dangerous road conditions ?
weee111 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 If it's actually snowing you have to give her the benefit of the doubt on that. Just offer to reschedule, I don't see what the problem is... 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Well the weather is bad we had a big snow storm.I wasnt trying to come off as a jerk just didnt wanna be like so we still on despite dangerous road conditions ? No big deal. Just reschedule. If she doesn't want to do the postponed date, no loss. The earlier the rejection comes, the better. 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 True but it will be snowing all week plus she's already stated her only off days are weekends.So wait another week ?
Phoe Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Well looks like dates not happening.Heres the convo from this morning Her.hey it's very bad the weather here Me-I know as is here just forget it Her.but I wanna see u Me.well let me know Her .i will That was 4 hours ago anyway I think it's safe to say that was her way of saying f off THIS - she probably took that as you blowing her off. If I was about to go on a date with someone and he said "just forget it" I'd think he really did not want to see me anymore. Definitely call her to reschedule, that way you both can have a specific time and don't have to think that one or the other is blowing someone off.
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 THIS - she probably took that as you blowing her off. If I was about to go on a date with someone and he said "just forget it" I'd think he really did not want to see me anymore. Definitely call her to reschedule, that way you both can have a specific time and don't have to think that one or the other is blowing someone off.Well I called no answer so ill see if she replys.Its just hard it seems to keep a girls interest plus keep plans intact for the last week now I'm gonna have to try again.I also during the week tried to limit contact is that a good method so you don't come off needy?
MrCastle Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Well I called no answer so ill see if she replys.Its just hard it seems to keep a girls interest plus keep plans intact for the last week now I'm gonna have to try again.I also during the week tried to limit contact is that a good method so you don't come off needy? That seems like the PUA way of thinking and it's hit or miss. Some PUAs swear "only text to set up dates", then they set up a date on monday, and don't text the girl until 2 hours before their date on friday, and are surprised/upset when the girl cancels or bails. It's like, well, yeah. You almost let an entire week pass before you contacted her. If a girl is truly interested, she is interested regardless. She will be the one calling YOU to make sure you're still on. Typically what works for me is to set up a date mid week and stay in contact until the date. Wednesday: Hey, would you like to go out this Friday? Alright cool, we'll set the details up tomorrow. Thursday: (jokes and other random convo) So, for tomorrow, what time is best for you? Friday: Alright, we agreed on 8 right? Cool. 1
Imajerk17 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I prefer to set up the date w firm plans via phone and then keep in touch during the week.
Survivor12 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for a response. If a guy cancelled a first date that had been scheduled for a week (I assume by text, no, less) saying, "just forget it", I definitely would. Do you even realize the planning and preparation a woman does for a first date? All you had to say is, "If you think the weather is too bad, would you prefer to reschedule?" Instead, you sounded relieved and eager to cancel. Call her again tomorrow and be ready to apologize and explain. If, however, she does respond, be sure to let her know how happy you are that she did. 3
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 That's almost how I handled it last week Sunday -Hey I was wondering of you would like to do a dinner(of course )sounds good will discuss details later Monday through Thursday we texted but kinda basic how are you,how's your day notin to much in detail Friday-hey we still on for Saturday (of course we are ) sounds good Heres the place how's 7 sound ( that works ) Then today came and after I cool off and thought about it she did mention but I wanna see you.Not gonna lie my reply may have come off wrong maybe ill leave a vm setting up a new date and take your method.I mean she did show interest hell if she missed my call or forgot to call she would text me first thing in the morning saying sorry.Which she doesn't owe it to me
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 (edited) Hmm well she text me seeing how I was doing saying she wàs busy cause family ended up showing up plus she was stuck inside do to snow.I kinda thought it was jerkish how she didn't mention about the plans we had eh.I called later leaving a voicemail saying sorry about my aditude and hoping we could hang out.Lets see how she replies if yes I'm gonna try shooting for mid week which is slim with her work Edited February 3, 2013 by OCCDAVE Spelling
CarrieT Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Stick to it! What others said, it sounded like YOU blew her off. She said she wanted to see you after YOU said "just forget it." Try and see her mid-week and - if it is snowing - make an extra effort to see her! THAT will impress her that you want to see her even if it is a bit of a chore.
StanMusial Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 How did you meet this girl? Was it OLD? I heard that the girls are very likely to flake and move to the next guy if you don't lock it down real quick.
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I prefer to set up the date w firm plans via phone and then keep in touch during the week. I prefer and tend to focus on guys with this approach. Earlier you made a comment about asking for a second date. Do so at the end of the first date, after you're hugged, kissed,or however you end the date. Either that, or if you're too nervous, call and ask the next day. Of course, get to a first date first, eh?
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