N.M.M.N.G. Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 This is MUCH longer then I anticipated, I hope this all makes sense. Ms, Summer Fling, We met beginning of summer 2011, had great chemistry, all around the coolest girl I’ve come across thus far. We would hang out at least 1-2 times a week; communicate every day whether it was text, or phone call. We really established a great all around friendship/relationship. I’ve never met anyone that I could absolutely do nothing with, and still have a great time. All around just an awesome summer. Before going back to school, she stated that when she’s in school, she gets very weird socially and communication drops. She informed me that she wasn’t going to have as much time with me when it all starts. She works a full time job, goes to school full time, so I figured maybe some weekends or holiday breaks, I just didn’t really think it would be as extreme as it really was going to be. As school starts, I give her space and communications definitely decrease. This is where it gets weird… Ms No Response, There were a lot of times I would text and get no response, text a week later with the same question and get a response right away and our text conversations would end by another no response (by her). This went on all year. Overall I saw her about 3-4 times all year. Two weeks before finals in April 2012, we hung out at my place, things were awesome, had a great time as usual and we picked up where we left off every time we saw each other. Then 2 weeks went by, she went no response as usual, and something got miscommunicated between us via text and she blew up and told me to never talk to her again….WOW! Summer - May 2012 – I figured she was maxed out on the stress level from finals so I left her alone for a month. After a month I sent her a quick casual text, she responded quickly but was very distant and stating that we need to just be very distant friends. Things escalated and she blew up again, words were said between us, and I didn’t talk to her all summer after that. September comes along, its her birthday, I thought I would shoot her a happy birthday gesture (by email) and also apologize for my part in the text war just to get it off my chest. Surprisingly she responds 15 min later stating she appreciated the birthday gesture, that she was sorry for the way she handled the situation, stating how much she has missed me and wanted to meet up sometime and catch up. I wasn’t expecting that at all and was cautiously excited about this… I kept a distance and would text her here n there, she would even text me a few times first. Now Christmas break comes around, she gets sick again with the flu, and on Dec 31st she tells me she went to the ER, is bedridden sick, and is on fluids only, and so I wished her well soon. Since Dec 31. I have sent a total of 4 texts without getting any response, a couple random information texts ,and a couple “how are you feeling” texts. Last thing I did was email her and ask her if she was alive and well. Assuming she was, I then updated her on some things I’m doing…very casual. AND no response… I don’t know what to think about this girl, it feels like I’m holding onto 2011 memories and getting little glimpses of hope here and there. Most of me wants to say forget it, but then those awesome memories come back into my mind…I just don’t understand the No Response gig I’m getting from her. I’ve asked a few close friends I trust (guys and girls) and they also thought it was weird she would be so unresponsive in this type of way. After that last email I’ve decided to just NC until she contacts me. Thanks for taking the time to read this, I didn’t think it was going to be this long, and it just started flowing. I also just got done reading the book ‘No More Mr Nice Guy’ by Glover. GREAT BOOK. Thrilled I discovered this. SO ANYWAYS I am beyond confused and would like to know what do you all think about this “No Response” situation? any advice is greatly appreciated, Thanks
whichwayisup Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 She is making no effort to see you or make plans to hook up like you two did in 2011. Sorry to say this but she's too nice to tell you not interested anymore. I get that you like her and all but she may not be feeling the same way, so much time has passed. I hope you can let go and grieve the loss, heal so you can find a girl who you can see and speak to daily! 1
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