Keenly Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Nothing makes my heart soar more than being pursued by the girl I am pursuing. That's really all I can say on the topic. My ex used to work at a Mexican food restaurant. On her break she would take the styrofoam to go boxes and color them with hearts and artistic designs. When she got of workr off she would fill that box full of burritos with extra salsa and randomly surprise me at my house with them. Its one of the reasons I feel in love with her, because I knew she was always thinking about me. 1
somedude81 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Nothing makes my heart soar more than being pursued by the girl I am pursuing. That's really all I can say on the topic. My ex used to work at a Mexican food restaurant. On her break she would take the styrofoam to go boxes and color them with hearts and artistic designs. When she got of workr off she would fill that box full of burritos with extra salsa and randomly surprise me at my house with them. Its one of the reasons I feel in love with her, because I knew she was always thinking about me. She did that for you before you guys started dating?
mesmerized Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Valued for sure. Not sure about chased. There's only been one woman I can think of where coming on to me worked and that was because I thought she was unavailable at the time. Normally if my penis isn't making me chase you then I don't really want you. This. Women realize that's how the majority of men think and that's why they avoid chasing men.
Keenly Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 She did that for you before you guys started dating? This was while we started hanging out. I think this started the day after I just walked up to her without a word and kissed her.
Keenly Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 This. Women realize that's how the majority of men think and that's why they avoid chasing men. Your in the minority claiming to be in the majority.
xxoo Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 That's because women want to be chased by their man even after they're married. Women LOVE being chased, lets not forget that. Women love being chased far far far more than guys actually like chasing. I meant chasing other women, even after married.... But yes, my H still chases me And yes, I love it! It keeps things hot.
SteveC80 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I never had to chase i was fortunate enough genetically to have women chase me The chsaer is the one without leverage i always had the leverage so there was no reason to give it away Chasign is for average dudes who have to convince/force attraction on women i was able to do that visually right away which made life so much easier instead of having to prove myself to the women as she judges wheter or not im good enough for her as i run through hoops
xxoo Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I'm aware of that. I'm just saying... the woman usually forces her husband/boyfriend to constantly chase her no matter how long they've been together. How in the world do you force someone to chase you? It is supposed to be fun. If it isn't fun for you, don't do it. But make no mistake that many men greatly enjoy the chase. Successful men, of course. No one particularly likes hunting if they always come back hungry. 1
Fondue Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I lose interest in women whom choose not to show interest in me. Even if she is "into" me, if she doesn't show it, or at least does not make adequate effort to reciprocate my advances, then she needs to be shelved. Women love, love to be chased. It makes them feel attractive and wanted. It is an ego stroke. I don't go out of my way to stroke egos. That is chump style.
Author kaylan Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 I never had to chase i was fortunate enough genetically to have women chase me The chsaer is the one without leverage i always had the leverage so there was no reason to give it away Chasign is for average dudes who have to convince/force attraction on women i was able to do that visually right away which made life so much easier instead of having to prove myself to the women as she judges wheter or not im good enough for her as i run through hoops I consider myself an average dude, but I dont jump through hoops. And I make a girl prove herself the same way I have to prove myself. Theres no shortage of single women in the world, so if a girl annoys me she can get cut off...simple as that.How in the world do you force someone to chase you? It is supposed to be fun. If it isn't fun for you, don't do it. But make no mistake that many men greatly enjoy the chase. Successful men, of course. No one particularly likes hunting if they always come back hungry. We enjoy chasing women who in turn chase us back.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 OP I agree with you The traditional notions of what dating is supposed to be like is antiquated and desperately needs a change but women cling to them because they hate the idea of no longer being approached all the time and having as many options as they want without doing any work/plus the idea of having to face rejection Dating should be about 50-50 really Don't confuse 50/50 with it having to mean that each partner is simply a mirror image of the other. I think people forget that for most heterosexual people, the reason they are attracted to them is because the other gender is different from them. We have different body parts, we sometimes approach things differently, we sometimes prioritize things differently. I have always been interested in men that were different from me. I don't need someone with the same exact qualities as myself. I already bring those to the relationship. So I agree that a relationships should be 50/50. But I don't agree that 50/50 means that women must now be aggressive and pursue men or that if my man asks me out on a date that I have to ask him out for an equal date next time. 1
xxoo Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 (edited) By always pulling away, being distant and passive. The successful guys don't chase women who do that. The idea is to get her blood pumping, get her juices flowing, and have her aching for you. If you don't see the desired results, move on. The idea is, the chase has the power to turn her on. Guys complain that it is all about looks, but it isn't. Chasing a guy can't help a woman attract him (if he isn't already attracted). But chasing a woman can help a guy attract her. It can turn her on, and can continue to turn her on even after years of marriage. Edited February 2, 2013 by xxoo 1
somedude81 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 This. Women realize that's how the majority of men think and that's why they avoid chasing men. You realize that there is a difference between showing interest and chasing? This was while we started hanging out. I think this started the day after I just walked up to her without a word and kissed her. Ah, so after you kissed her, she started giving you food. So she probably considered you guys to be dating at that point. Yeah it's great that she showed you that she liked you.
somedude81 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 The successful guys don't chase women who do that. The idea is to get her blood pumping, get her juices flowing, and have her aching for you. If you don't see the desired results, move on. The idea is, the chase has the power to turn her on. Guys complain that it is all about looks, but it isn't. Chasing a guy can't help a woman attract him (if he isn't already attracted). But chasing a woman can help a guy attract her. It can turn her on, and can continue to turn her on even after years of marriage. Can help a guy attract her? So what are the odds of that happening? Honestly, I'm a little annoyed reading your post because nothing like that has ever occurred for me and I've chased many women. For me, eleven times out of ten, chasing a girl has turned her off.
AD1980 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 How in the world do you force someone to chase you? It is supposed to be fun. If it isn't fun for you, don't do it. But make no mistake that many men greatly enjoy the chase. Successful men, of course. No one particularly likes hunting if they always come back hungry. Well yeah for the sucessful guys im sure its a blast for those of us who are unattractive to women its grueling which is why i dont apporach or chase anymore
Author kaylan Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 The successful guys don't chase women who do that. The idea is to get her blood pumping, get her juices flowing, and have her aching for you. If you don't see the desired results, move on. The idea is, the chase has the power to turn her on. Guys complain that it is all about looks, but it isn't. Chasing a guy can't help a woman attract him (if he isn't already attracted). But chasing a woman can help a guy attract her. It can turn her on, and can continue to turn her on even after years of marriage. False. If there is no initial attraction, chasing wont change that...male or female. Being chased by someone you are not attracted to is off-putting. 3
veggirl Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 False. If there is no initial attraction, chasing wont change that...male or female. Being chased by someone you are not attracted to is off-putting. Seriously. Chase a girl who isn't interested and be ready to be called a stalker and creepy. 1
serial muse Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Seriously. Chase a girl who isn't interested and be ready to be called a stalker and creepy. True. That's why I agree that maybe the word "chase" is misleading. I think what Bristolius said earlier is right - showing interest isn't the same thing as chasing. And chasing won't work unless the woman is also showing her interest. Vice versa, probably, too.
KungFuJoe Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I think it can be cute. For instance, there used to be this girl who was in our circle of friends. She openly liked me, everyone knew, and we had fun with it. She'd try to sit next to me and talk to me or something and someone would crack a joke or something. Or she'd say something perverted in my direction as a joke or being suggestive. I never returned her advances, but I was always nice and never said anything remotely mean spirited to or about her. She was a cute filipina girl, too...but not my type. To be honest, this might seem a bit shallow...but she had a funny name. I have a problem with funny names.
somedude81 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I have a problem with funny names. Said the man who calls himself KungFuJoe. 1
KungFuJoe Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Said the man who calls himself KungFuJoe. So, it's just you 57 cops against KUNG FU JOE? Master of KUNG-FU, KARATE, JIU-JITSU, and all kinds of other **** you ain't never heard of! HAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAA!
xxoo Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 False. If there is no initial attraction, chasing wont change that...male or female. Being chased by someone you are not attracted to is off-putting. I don't agree at all that if there is no initial attraction, there won't be any attraction. At least from a woman's pov. I've experienced attraction developing many times because a guy is charming, and flirty, and made me feel special. I think the difference is that, for me at least, most men I meet are in a neutral zone. I'm neither attracted nor unattracted. He's just a guy. His behavior determines whether or not he shifts out of neutral zone.
xxoo Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Can help a guy attract her? So what are the odds of that happening? Honestly, I'm a little annoyed reading your post because nothing like that has ever occurred for me and I've chased many women. For me, eleven times out of ten, chasing a girl has turned her off. When? Chasing requires making a bold move, and causing a reaction. If the reaction is positive, push further. If the reaction is negative, move on.
xxoo Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Another thing.....even if you don't want to "chase" (which again does NOT mean fawning over a woman who disregards you!), realize that that other men do. If you don't make a move and flirt with that girl, another guy will. If you don't keep up the small things that make your gf or wife feel desired, another man will. Believe me, I know. It doesn't affect me, though, because I've got that at home.
xxoo Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Basicly the guy has to constantly chase the girl even after they're together. And constantly work and jump through hoops to keep her. While she... just doesn't. She doesn't have to worry about anything. She already is desired. Her desire should be very apparent. And don't assume that women in relationships bask in security of being desired! Put it this way....if my H suddenly seemed disinterested with our relationship, I probably would buy a sexy outfit, get dolled up, purchase lingerie. If I suddenly felt disinterested with our relationship, he'd probably plan a date night and buy me a romantic gift. We're just different. YMMV
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