Manwithquestion Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 After a bad breakup I have hit a dark time. Got some help and pulled myself out a bit. Th problem is I have horrible self esteem issues as a guy. I got dumped by a beautiful girl. Now I am 25 years old, in a challenging career (I am a 3rd year medical student wanting to go into surgery. Family was also what I thought I would tailor my career to. Now as I get older I am starting to realize this family may be a fairy tail. I mean I am an alright looking guy but register at 5 foot 8 inches. Not exactly what girls want. I am feeling really down about this, because I would trash my career for a good women and a few great kids. So my question here is what do I do? Be alright spending my money as a doctor for myself and screw the rest, or can I really even expect a girl to fall in love with me and give me a family. I would do anything for a family. Am I just not that desirable to get married? I feel like no one would want me. Just something I have been dealing weigh I feel I have achieved a lot at 24 years old and all I get is family telling me I am not around enough, friends giving me a hard time that I can't make it to events, and girlfriends (now ex) telling me that I put school before her, which may be true, How the hell do I did myself out of this? Any help would be appreciated.
rocketman122 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 After a bad breakup I have hit a dark time. Got some help and pulled myself out a bit. Th problem is I have horrible self esteem issues as a guy. I got dumped by a beautiful girl. Now I am 25 years old, in a challenging career (I am a 3rd year medical student wanting to go into surgery. Family was also what I thought I would tailor my career to. Now as I get older I am starting to realize this family may be a fairy tail. I mean I am an alright looking guy but register at 5 foot 8 inches. Not exactly what girls want. I am feeling really down about this, because I would trash my career for a good women and a few great kids. So my question here is what do I do? Be alright spending my money as a doctor for myself and screw the rest, or can I really even expect a girl to fall in love with me and give me a family. I would do anything for a family. Am I just not that desirable to get married? I feel like no one would want me. Just something I have been dealing weigh I feel I have achieved a lot at 24 years old and all I get is family telling me I am not around enough, friends giving me a hard time that I can't make it to events, and girlfriends (now ex) telling me that I put school before her, which may be true, How the hell do I did myself out of this? Any help would be appreciated. its obvious. self esteem is obviously not your only issue. you have many problems in your head. dont they have psychiatrists where you learn? you need it. a student surgeon with psychological issue. thats what we need when we go under the knife. sheesh. sont they test you for mental health at these schools? with all your problems (you sound very desperate) and this teaches you folks that even the ones we think in our lives who have their S*** together are the ones who are mentally ill. money wont bring happiness.
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Work on your self esteem. That, not your height, is what is keeping you from being happy. Most men at your height have little difficulty finding a spouse and starting a family. Stop being so down on yourself. In terms of the women you date, pick those who might be a little more understanding of your schedule, unlike your ex--your fellow med students, law students, nurses, etc.
bob the brave Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I know how you feel. You are not crazy! For a lot of women this is an issue. I am roughly your height and a single educated professional. A girl I liked dumped me also because of my height to pick up with a married uneducated db. Later, when she had had enough she came back to me. I told her to hit the road. Now we don't speak. I often wonder what would have happened had I been 2" taller? Stupid, but it is a factor. Having said that, life is what it is and you are what you are. Now what are you going to do? Besides, 5'8" is really not what I would call short? You are not tall, but not short either. Did you know only 13% of American men are 6' for taller? Here are some heights of leading actors: Jason Stathom (The Transporter) 5'9" Sly Stallone 5'9" Robert Downey Jr. 5'8.5" Tom Cruise 5'7.5" I am roughly your height and every guy I work with that is married is shorter than me. They all have kids. As it turns out, I believe, for women for whom this is important are not LTR material. You have much to be proud of and believe me your schooling does make you a catch in some women's eyes. Just keep playing the field, don't get discouraged. You are young and you will find someone.
Maneater Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 You are incredibly young! Stop freaking out. First off men can wait until 38 to get married now a days. Women will swoon over you once you get that med residency done! Esp if you're going into medicine. Your ex missed out! Don't let one pretty woman shake up your confidence. 5 8" is not that short. Finish school and work on yourself and you'll be fine
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