sonnyman Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 After 5 years together and now 1.5 years broken up, i have officially given up. I have come to the realization we will never get back together. I have somewhat accepted the fact she is with someone else and according to what she posts all over social media, she is the happiest she has ever been. There was no closure. No honesty...no nothing. I finally feel dead inside. Today i deleted everything out of my life. Every picture,every email,every contact on facebook where i might run across her. Its over and i have to accept it. This has consumed my life for nearly 2 years. It has almost ruined my health physically and mentally. I am a shell of the man i used to be. We have tons of history...vacations,jobs,a home, miscarriages. I packed up my things and left our city over a year ago. Moved 500 miles and started over in a strange town. I knew no one. I rebuilt from scratch.I cried,cussed, and ached. But i waited and hoped. Its not happening anymore. It needs to be my time. I have wasted possible relationships because i was damaged goods. No more...i must take back what was stolen from me. I must take back what i have lost. There is still time. God please let there still be time.
FailedFirstLove Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I'm so sorry! It took you 1.5years. Freaks me out so much. I'm struggling as it is on 2 months. And I know you will be able to gain back everything you lost including happiness! At least now you can start a whole new life. What made you wait around that long? Did she give you hope? Did you do Nc?
Samilia Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 After 5 years together and now 1.5 years broken up, i have officially given up. I have come to the realization we will never get back together. I have somewhat accepted the fact she is with someone else and according to what she posts all over social media, she is the happiest she has ever been. There was no closure. No honesty...no nothing. I finally feel dead inside. Today i deleted everything out of my life. Every picture,every email,every contact on facebook where i might run across her. Its over and i have to accept it. This has consumed my life for nearly 2 years. It has almost ruined my health physically and mentally. I am a shell of the man i used to be. We have tons of history...vacations,jobs,a home, miscarriages. I packed up my things and left our city over a year ago. Moved 500 miles and started over in a strange town. I knew no one. I rebuilt from scratch.I cried,cussed, and ached. But i waited and hoped. Its not happening anymore. It needs to be my time. I have wasted possible relationships because i was damaged goods. No more...i must take back what was stolen from me. I must take back what i have lost. There is still time. God please let there still be time. Sure there's time. Glad your journey is finally over.
Author sonnyman Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 I'm so sorry! It took you 1.5years. Freaks me out so much. I'm struggling as it is on 2 months. And I know you will be able to gain back everything you lost including happiness! At least now you can start a whole new life. What made you wait around that long? Did she give you hope? Did you do Nc? There were small shreds of hope. A few texts and emails about missing me and thinking of me. Just scraps thrown to the stray to keep it hiding in the shadows. But it ended abruptly about 6 months ago when i guess things got much more serious with the new one. I went crazy after that. To have no contact pulled on you with no explanation was damaging beyond comprehension. Not even an honest explanation. I begged for closure. Tell me you hate me. I could get over that. Maybe closure is overrated. Maybe i have closure in my mind and that is all i need. I am not sure why i waited around so long..i'm a romantic. I always think things can be talked out and fixed. Sometimes not...sometimes it must be thrown away and bought new again.
cavalier99 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 (edited) Maaan that sounds rough. I hope in the end you have grown from this. Sounds like you have finally turned the corner and will be fine. Whew..sure glad i gave up hope early on. I knew false hope would kill me and string me along after 8 years together. Pat on back for me for at least one good choice. Hang strong man. Umm maybe stopped looking at social media about her. Is that part of the officially giving up part? Edited February 2, 2013 by cavalier99 1
destroyed4sho Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I am sorry it took so long. I am on the first month of total NC and yes it is so painful and I want OUT NOW. Well, look you may think that 1.5 years was a waste of time, but it wasn't. It made you stronger and more experienced with relationships and now you know that you will never let it go that far again. I guess you are another example of why NC is the ONLY way out of these situations. I hope you can give good advice to people on this forum that are going through the same with their exes.
Author sonnyman Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 NC is the only way to go. There can be no other alternative. Social media is the devil. It definately prolongs the healing process. Most people especially women are going to post only the good on FB. My ex was good about that. Even during our worst fights, you would have never known it on FB. To all the contacts out there, we seemed the eternally blissful couple. So to all those hurting out there remember there is more than meets the eye behind a computer persona.
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