William Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Moderation stopping by to point out a couple of issues: 1. Do not ask members to post pictures, as this is a solicitation of personally identifiable information and a contravention of forum guidelines 2. Moderation sets the boundary for civility and respect here. In the real world, members can be as crass and condescending and 'honest' as they please. Here, you're subject to moderation. Thanks for your attention. This thread has been edited. 1
ptp Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Thank you for explaining how the internet works; whatever would I have done without you! The next time someone says something to me; I will be sure to consult you and base my response on your considerable expertise. If IRL you act the same way as you do here, I can see why guys ignore you. The poster was just trying to help. Warmth, kindness and understanding are key things that I look for. Canada is cold enough.
mesmerized Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 If IRL you act the same way as you do here, I can see why guys ignore you. The poster was just trying to help. Warmth, kindness and understanding are key things that I look for. Canada is cold enough. That has made the people here cold as well.
somedude81 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 (edited) What sort of "preconceived notions of Indian girls" do men have? Are Indian girls undesirable? It's complicated. Certain ethnicities of men have their own list of preferred ethnicities that they are attracted to. It's a difficult topic to talk about without coming across as racist. I'll just say that as a white man, my preferred ethnicities for women are white, Asian and Hispanic. Of course everybody has their own individual preferences but I do believe that there are some in common. Your location also has an affect depending on how open the area is to interracial relationships. One more thing I want to say, and I'm trying not to be offensive, a lot of Indian girls that I have been around smell like curry. It's not exactly the most appealing of scents. Edited February 3, 2013 by somedude81
Author Sarabina Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 If IRL you act the same way as you do here, I can see why guys ignore you. The poster was just trying to help. Warmth, kindness and understanding are key things that I look for. Canada is cold enough. They were being "helpful" in a very condescending manner. I am kind and understanding to people who deserve it. I understand that some guys love a passive woman who will gladly take whatever abuse is thrown at her with a smile - I am not that woman. It's complicated. Certain ethnicities of men have their own list of preferred ethnicities that they are attracted to. It's a difficult topic to talk about without coming across as racist. I'll just say that as a white man, my preferred ethnicities for women are white, Asian and Hispanic. Of course everybody has their own individual preferences but I do believe that there are some in common. Your location also has an affect depending on how open the area is to interracial relationships. One more thing I want to say, and I'm trying not to be offensive, a lot of Indian girls that I have been around smell like curry. It's not exactly the most appealing of scents. I understand that people have different racial preferences - that's not racist at all. but the last line about smelling like curry, is so absurd that I can't even find it offensive. It's just staggering the amount of ignorance that is still prevalent in 2013.
somedude81 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I understand that people have different racial preferences - that's not racist at all. but the last line about smelling like curry, is so absurd that I can't even find it offensive. It's just staggering the amount of ignorance that is still prevalent in 2013. I am merely talking about my own experiences. That's all I'm going to say on that subject.
Author Sarabina Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 I am merely talking about my own experiences. That's all I'm going to say on that subject. yes and black people smell like fried chicken, Mexicans smell like tacos, Italians smell like tomatoes and basil, Americans smell like BBQ.....etc..... see not racist at all 1
tbf Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 yes and black people smell like fried chicken, Mexicans smell like tacos, Italians smell like tomatoes and basil, Americans smell like BBQ.....etc..... see not racist at all You might be surprised how much food impacts on scent. Hate to link fox news but curry, cumin and garlic do impact, amongst other foods. 10 foods that make you smell | Fox News The human olfactory system can be quite acute when it comes to attraction. 1
carhill Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 I communicate with and hold conversations with men frequently. guys are generally nice and friendly towards me, but that's it! in my 21 years no guy has shown romantic interest towards me. I dress in a pretty and feminine way and I've been told I'm attractive. why do guys just want to remain friends with me If you had to identify an age range of the sample males the OP is based upon, what would you say it is? It's possible you are intimidating, either physically or through your 'aura'/presence, to the males in your sample. If so, try a different male demographic. The best way I can describe single women in my age group with whom I feel little synergy is that they feel 'distant', regardless of their physical appearance. They are difficult to engage at anything more than the superficial level. They're difficult to get to know. So, hence, once identified as such, I move on. For each man, the parameters are different. Some are physical; some are emotional; some are psychological. If you sense commonalities across your experiences, then act on those commonalities and make different choices/seek different demographics. Good luck.
somedude81 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 yes and black people smell like fried chicken, Mexicans smell like tacos, Italians smell like tomatoes and basil, Americans smell like BBQ.....etc..... see not racist at all Excuse me?! I smell like pizza. 1
ptp Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Excuse me?! I smell like pizza. Don't you mean half taco half pizza? Ummm....taco pizza. 2
Author Sarabina Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 Excuse me?! I smell like pizza. maybe you have some Italian ancestry? Don't you mean half taco half pizza? Ummm....taco pizza. stop making me hungry
Bristolius Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 maybe you have some Italian ancestry? stop making me hungry You need to stop being silly and get serious here.
TaraMaiden Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Apologies: Off-Topic post: You might be surprised how much food impacts on scent. Hate to link fox news but curry, cumin and garlic do impact, amongst other foods. 10 foods that make you smell | Fox News The human olfactory system can be quite acute when it comes to attraction. My mother is a reflexologist and aromatherapist. During one of the first lessons she lectured on, she asked for a volunteer who had not eaten garlic in the previous five days. Several people put their hands up, and she called one of them down. "Are your feet clean?" She asked the volunteer. The girl confirmed it, so then my mother asked the girl to remove her shoes and socks. Second question: "Have you brushed your teeth this morning?" The girl giggled, and then replied yes, but confirmed she had had a coffee and a pastry for breakfast on the way to college.... That was ok though.... my mother then asked another couple of volunteers to come and smell the girl's breath.... This was all highly amusing to everyone.... then she cut a clove of garlic in half, and rubbed the cut sides on the soles of the girl's feet. 20 minutes later, there was the unmistakeable aroma of garlic on her breath. Skin absorbs, body gives out. it really is extremely simple biology. We truly are what we eat..... Ok, sorry, back to topic. 4
Divasu Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Yeah cuz it's will smith. That scene is so corny and contrived I had to suppress my gag reflex. Tony liked it, that must mean it's greatness.
outsidethebox Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 (edited) When you first said Indian, for some reason I though native American Indian. Also when you said brown earlier I never pictured a race. I just thought darker complected Caucasian or possibly Latina, never really thought about it. I can see from your various answers that you are not shy, not lacking in humor, and have a self respecting attitude, all of which would show masked somewhat by the perma-bitch expression. The Indian ethnicity is the answer. I just don't see that much white-Indian dating, that being in states. It's probably widespread in London and maybe has influenced Canada, don't know. But I almost always see Indians together, and I think a lot of white guys just see it that way. I guess what I'm saying is most guys wouldn't think an Indian girl was on the market for them so to speak, regardless of friendliness. Some of them would be interested if they knew, I think, but haven't seen it. I hope that is helpful and not hurtful. I have seen some hot Indian women. [Edit: That answer assumes you are talking about non-Indian guys. If the guys were Indian then disregard.] Edited February 4, 2013 by outsidethebox 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 In my circle of friends, couple of successful, good looking white guys have married Indian girls. OP, you are pretty funny. You need to show that side of yourself to guys more
mesmerized Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 In my circle of friends, couple of successful, good looking white guys have married Indian girls. OP, you are pretty funny. You need to show that side of yourself to guys more Two of the top highest earning guys in my company have Indian wives, both guys are white as well. 1
Author Sarabina Posted February 4, 2013 Author Posted February 4, 2013 When you first said Indian, for some reason I though native American Indian. Also when you said brown earlier I never pictured a race. I just thought darker complected Caucasian or possibly Latina, never really thought about it. I can see from your various answers that you are not shy, not lacking in humor, and have a self respecting attitude, all of which would show masked somewhat by the perma-bitch expression. The Indian ethnicity is the answer. I just don't see that much white-Indian dating, that being in states. It's probably widespread in London and maybe has influenced Canada, don't know. But I almost always see Indians together, and I think a lot of white guys just see it that way. I guess what I'm saying is most guys wouldn't think an Indian girl was on the market for them so to speak, regardless of friendliness. Some of them would be interested if they knew, I think, but haven't seen it. I hope that is helpful and not hurtful. I have seen some hot Indian women. [Edit: That answer assumes you are talking about non-Indian guys. If the guys were Indian then disregard.] That makes me sad I like guys of all races (and I am not surrounded by Indians - I don't even have any Indian friends) I wonder how many non-Indian men would date an Indian girl (sadly, I've heard so many Indian men say they are not attracted to Indian girls) In my circle of friends, couple of successful, good looking white guys have married Indian girls. OP, you are pretty funny. You need to show that side of yourself to guys more
outsidethebox Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 Darn, I didn't want to make you sad. That you don't run around with a group of Indian girls is different from my experience through the years both in Ohio and Florida. That does make it very different in my opinion. I have always seen Indian girls socialize only with each other and rarely alone. In the tv show Revenge there is a very hot Indian girl sort of in a relationship with the white CEO (and earlier he was in a relationship with an Indian guy - complicated). Like the examples given above, no reason why it shouldn't be natural. I do think guys have to know you're interested in them though. Beyond that I'm clueless and looking to pick up clues myself.
apple OR orange Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 men go for looks, if you dont show interest, they wont, however if your "unspoken" language doesnt include "do sex with me" then you wont get sex. No matter how you look at this, thats what its all about. A-sexuals have this problem, but then they dont want sex either so it doesnt matter to them.
Talak7 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 I wonder how many non-Indian men would date an Indian girl (sadly, I've heard so many Indian men say they are not attracted to Indian girls) A LOT ME . I didn't have time to read all 6 pages - but it seems like if you want an honest and true answer you need to post a picture for various reasons. Mostly because people don't want to waste time telling you thousands of things that "could be". You could be standing horribly, bad posture, a real deal-breaker of a something that needs to be fixed. Describing yourself just won't work if you want someone to give you an honest answer about if men are ignoring you because you are not attractive. That's just the facts of the matter.
outsidethebox Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 (edited) It worked just fine, but then you didn't read the thread. What, you're going to say someone is not good looking enough for average looking guys to be interested in. That she isn't standing with the right posture based on a picture? Please. What a crock. Edited February 4, 2013 by outsidethebox 1
amolya Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 I'm an Indian girl, and in fact most guys who show interest in me are definitely not Indian. It's mostl white guys, and some black guys, hardly ever Indians or other Asians. I've been told that I look mixed race, however, although lots of people say I look pretty obviously Indian so I don't know... Do you look very Indian OP? I agree people of other races may not want to make a move, because they know culturally it is important for manyindians to date fellow Indians. I've even had white guys ask me what my parents would say if I brought them home, so they've clearly been aware of cultural factors. Are there lots of Indian men where you live? Are you pretty westernised ? I know that I act pretty westernised and like you, don't have many Indian friends. The Indians I do know are quite reserved, sometimes religious, only really hang out with Indians , but that doesn't sound like you...
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 4, 2013 Posted February 4, 2013 I'm an Indian girl, and in fact most guys who show interest in me are definitely not Indian. It's mostl white guys, and some black guys, hardly ever Indians or other Asians. I've been told that I look mixed race, however, although lots of people say I look pretty obviously Indian so I don't know... Do you look very Indian OP? I agree people of other races may not want to make a move, because they know culturally it is important for manyindians to date fellow Indians. I've even had white guys ask me what my parents would say if I brought them home, so they've clearly been aware of cultural factors. Are there lots of Indian men where you live? Are you pretty westernised ? I know that I act pretty westernised and like you, don't have many Indian friends. The Indians I do know are quite reserved, sometimes religious, only really hang out with Indians , but that doesn't sound like you... Yeah this would be something I'd probably do. I have many Indian friends and I'm quite familiar with the culture (dating vs not dating etc.). Plus, I dated an Arab girl once (not exactly the same but many similar cultural characteristics) and that didn't work out so well. Add in my natural fear of women, I'd probably be worried that an Indian woman would be offended that I asked her out or approached her.
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