I've never had a GF. Will i grow up to be a lonely Old guy?

[quietGuy13]

I'm in my early 30s. Never had a date. nor a gf.

 

it doesn't seem like it's happening. I"m weird and odd and mental issues so women wouldn't like me.

 

So is it just destiny that i wil end up all lonely. ? I do have friends BUT not real friends. just foreign Skype friends that's it.

 

I'm not good in speaking and since ih ave mental issues i can't really make friends cause i can't talk well.

 

So yeah, i guess no GF ever??

[Yellowteacup]

Never say never. Maybe you should think outside your comfort zone. Any groups you could join from meet-up in your area? Movies, food, computers, games, etc. You can meet new friends in the bargain.

[quietGuy13]

Meeting doesn't make me becomes friends and close friends and GFs.

I always meet people but i'm mentally damaged so i not good at creating relationships

[Mumbles]

I'd suggest support groups in your area for people with a similar condition. You will likely make friends there, or acquaintances at least and will, from that, have an opportunity to widen your circle through _their_ friends and family and so on.

 

I don't know you, but from the few snippets you post above, I'm guessing that your condition may present several challenges to new people when they first meet you - thus cold meets or blind dates are likely to be problematic. Need to find scenarios in which people can get to know you first, in a safe environment (for you and them) and nature should take its course. At the very least, this will help improve your socialisation skills, which is likely to be of large benefit across the board, not only with relationships.

 

Its a bit of a tough call, I understand, but I don't think there is a magic bullet fix. Most forms of social interaction are beneficial in relation the the OP, so you can't really go backwards.

[normal person]

I'm in my early 30s. Never had a date. nor a gf.

 

it doesn't seem like it's happening. I"m weird and odd and mental issues so women wouldn't like me.

 

So is it just destiny that i wil end up all lonely. ? I do have friends BUT not real friends. just foreign Skype friends that's it.

 

I'm not good in speaking and since ih ave mental issues i can't really make friends cause i can't talk well.

 

So yeah, i guess no GF ever??

 

I wouldn't assume that all women will dismiss you because of some idiosyncrasies. There are a lot of women out there who might be attracted to a differing opinion, attitude, interest, etc. Don't classify yourself as odd, you bring something different to the table and for a lot of people that might be really refreshing.

 

I echo the above poster who suggested joining some support groups. Lots of people there might have similar circumstances and be more likely to see what's on the inside of you. You sound like a great guy with a lot to offer so I wouldn't worry about it too much!

[bbronx77]

if you have a diagnosis, you should definitely contact county based support groups with people of similar diagnosis,

[Emilia]

It will probably depend on whether you do anything to change the predicament you are in or whether you will stay as you are.

[evaro]

a journey of thousand miles begins with 1 step. move in the direction of what you want. see what you need to do or be have a gf. start questioning how to find a gf. start taking steps

[Killer Queen]

Have you tried online dating? My boyfriend had no luck before he met me on OKCupid and he's 30. Don't give up.

[BetheButterfly]

I'm in my early 30s. Never had a date. nor a gf.

 

it doesn't seem like it's happening. I"m weird and odd and mental issues so women wouldn't like me.

 

So is it just destiny that i wil end up all lonely. ? I do have friends BUT not real friends. just foreign Skype friends that's it.

 

I'm not good in speaking and since ih ave mental issues i can't really make friends cause i can't talk well.

 

So yeah, i guess no GF ever??

 

Never say never.

 

My Mom loves the saying, "Where there's a will, there's a way."

 

I think if you focus on your positive characteristics and get to know ladies and focus on their positive characteristics, that eventually you can find a lady who you grow to love and who grows to love you: a real girlfriend.

 

Have you ever watched the movie Benny and June? I absolutely love that movie and even though it's fiction, there are people who struggle with different things who find themselves loving another person and being loved by that person everyday!!!

 

That reminds me of an awesome song and youtube:

 

In Spite Of Ourselves - John Prine, Iris DeMent - YouTube

[BetheButterfly]

Meeting doesn't make me becomes friends and close friends and GFs.

I always meet people but i'm mentally damaged so i not good at creating relationships

 

Stop categorizing yourself as "mentally damaged." Instead, focus on your positive qualities, like "I'm creative." or "I'm a great video game player." The first step to having a good relationship is by understanding you are not a negative but rather a wonderful human being that is worthy of having a wonderful relationship with another wonderful human being.

 

Having mental issues does NOT make a person unworthy. Both my Dad and one of my sisters have bipolar, and both are awesome, intelligent, caring, loving, and wonderful people. They are not mentally damaged. Rather, they have a disorder that does not at all determine their value as human beings, same as cancer does not at all determine the value of those suffering from cancer.

 

Nobody is perfect, but everyone has positive traits. Find yours and identify yourself by them, and get to know the wonderful traits of others through enjoying getting to know them.

[youdunsay]

You don't have any mental issues. You just think differently from the common. Embrace that.