I never understood why ANYONE would cheat, but it's all clear to me now.

[shortbus74]

Monday.... you did the right thing by leaving the party and going home...

 

 

I do agree if it was a man that posted this he would have been flamed for his actions... (double standard)

 

Just remember that its alright to look but not alright to touch......

[JumpRun]

Kudos for leaving, but I'm saying this in the kindest way possible - it still went way too far.

[Mr Spock]

It's OK Monday, married doesn't equal dead. And now you know. And you didn't f*ck him.

[Moose]

Mr. Spock,

 

Now I'm more confused than ever about you!!! Your qoute says:

 

"If it feels good, do it, even if you shouldn't, don't let people mess you around",

 

But here you are telling Monday, good for her for not doing something you shouldn't, even if it feels good.

 

I mean, hey, I agree that Monday's best idear was to leave that party. And I praise her for thinking about her husband. But things did go a little far, tisk, tisk Monday. But what's done is done.

 

Monday, may I warn you about something? Now that you know that you could've got some on the side.......don't bring it up in you next arguement with hubby, and don't let it be a deciding factor in one iota to give up on him either.

 

I just felt led to say that, kinda like I could see that happening............<<<<<< Outer limits theme song playing >>>>>>

[Kay Kent]

Hello People,

 

ya, Jmargel, your post made sense, and as a woman who knows the double standards of the manner in which women and men relate, I have to agree that if it were a man who had made that initial thread, the women on most of these sites would have torn him a new ass-#ole big time. It's true isn't it buddy? Is that you in the photo to the left, yer quite a handsome guy, I must say, no ulterior motive or offence intended.

 

Yes, she should be ashamed, and to her, I must say, that (social conditioning) is ingrained for most people, it's called a (social contract) Most cultures are rampant with them, althouth in the modern world mainly, and in the past infidelity is accepted and in some cases virtually glorified as well. The soaps have done a phenom-job of glamorizing cheatin and messin around.

 

Also, isn't it kind of dehumanizing for this glorious hunk of male beefcake to say, you were attracted to him only because he turned you on physically? Isn't that the same as a dude saying, " I slept with her cuz she had these fab-a-lus boobs dude, I didn't really like her as a person, you know pal?"

 

I would be really careful if I were you, because it sounds to me like you made an escape by the thin skin of your teeth. Sounds like you came dangerously close to being prostrate and doing the two back monster. Also, the focus on details and stuff I found a bit creepy, did you really use yer hubby fer sex after this party? No offence but that is just plain creepy. Like Jmargel has said, look into therapy with yer man, it will do ya both good I suspect.

 

Now, onto Moose! I read your rant the other day, about never having a place to watch TV I think it was, and I nearly fell off my chair laughing, you are one amusing guy. I laughed and laughed and told my sisters to read it. Thanks for a good bit of comic relief pal. Also, Moose, don't try to figue out our Spock, she's a veritable anomaly, full of complex contradictions and mystery, and another thing, MY signature is a bit of a taunt, a bit of poking fun, and not anything I believe or would do.

 

NOw, please, these are only my opinions, don't try to cruxify me cuz I state my opinions, things can get so heated on these threads, so no fistfights okay girls? The guys I'm not worried about, I think they are gentlemen.

[Mr Spock]

Originally posted by Moose

Mr. Spock,

 

Now I'm more confused than ever about you!!! Your qoute says:

 

"If it feels good, do it, even if you shouldn't, don't let people mess you around",

 

But here you are telling Monday, good for her for not doing something you shouldn't, even if it feels good.

 

I mean, hey, I agree that Monday's best idear was to leave that party. And I praise her for thinking about her husband. But things did go a little far, tisk, tisk Monday. But what's done is done.

 

Monday, may I warn you about something? Now that you know that you could've got some on the side.......don't bring it up in you next arguement with hubby, and don't let it be a deciding factor in one iota to give up on him either.

 

I just felt led to say that, kinda like I could see that happening............<<<<<< Outer limits theme song playing >>>>>>

 

My sig works for me Moose, not for everyone else (it's song lyrics, anyways)

 

I'm just letting Monday know that now she KNOWS how situations like that can turn dangerous for a committed relationship. And she did the right thing, and went home. Married doesn't equal dead. I would imagine a person needs affirmation that they are still desirable to others once in a while in a marriage-don't beat yourself up too badly hon, and don't let anyone on here either.

[Mr Spock]

Moose, don't try to figue out our Spock, she's a veritable anomaly, full of complex contradictions and mystery, and another thing, MY signature is a bit of a taunt, a bit of poking fun, and not anything I believe or would do.

 

 

Awww...are you following me around the forum? I'm SO flattered. It's cute. You're like a little puppy.

[Kay Kent]

Gee whiz Spock,

 

I'm only having a bit a fun, kinda like you. I'm completely helpless to fight the charismatic charisma that is you Spock. DId that sound rite? And since it has been awhile since I'm visited this wonerful site, I figured what the hey?

 

I'm flattered though that you think I'm like a cuddly puppy. I don't try to be, it just happens. I look forward to your acid tougne and your catty observations. So sue me! Remember, a sence of humor will make all the despair bearable.

[FolderWife]

Originally posted by Monday

Thanks for the kind words I actually felt a little bit like a hypocrit, because I'm the queen of bashing porn, because I felt like my husband would rather look at porn than me.

 

But when I finally arrived home at 3 in the morning, I found my handsome husband asleep on the couch. I took a shower, and woke him up, and invited him to come to bed. He joined me, and then he started "touching" me. I was already hot and bothered by my fantasies at the party, so we ended up having sex. I felt a little guilty that I'd let another guy be the one to turn me on, and then 'use' my husband like that. Especially since I can't stand the idea of my husband fantasizing about another woman while he's sleeping with me!

 

Is that stupid?

 

I wanted to clear up my thinking process, because when I was reading that someone said I used my husband because I was turned on, I thought, "Did I SAY THAT!?!?"

 

But yep, I sure did.

 

For some reason, reading over this thread today, I was thinking in my head that when I arrived home, I was so relieved that I didn't do anything, and so thankful that my handsome loving husband was home waiting for me, and TRUSTING me, and that I was finally home with him, that I was just so overwhelmed with love that I wanted to make love to him, and when he started touching me, that I was just ready and willing.

 

Which is partly true.

 

I'm trying to remember how I felt that night. I remember all that love and relief flooding me when I finally got home to my husband. I also remember being turned on because of the party, and the idea of the forbidden.

 

It was just a bunch of things. Even though I wanted to make love to my husband, I was turned on thanks to the guy at the party....so I guess I did use my husband

 

Even though it's no excuse, HE DID IT TO ME FIRST! ~Read all porn threads started by Monday~

 

P.S. I like Spock....y'all are going to end up making her leave!

[jmargel]

Thanks Kay for the kind words, and yep that's me in my pic.

 

Monday, it doesn't matter who did what first. Stop acting like a brother and sister fighting. Two wrongs don't make a right.

 

There's nothing wrong in feeling flattered by someone else's compliments. But in your vows there is a line that goes by "..and to forsaken all others". Alot of people seem to have problems with that. You were basically testing the waters to see if you were attractive to other people, since you don't feel attractive when your husband looks at porn.

 

You two need marriage counseling, what's happened is a warning sign.