miss_jaclynrae Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Before I begin, I have to give a shout out to DB, he is a champ. 2 weeks of no sex and he doesn't complain at ALL. Anyways, we were doing our nightly ritual "bed-talk" time and I was praising him on his ability to still want me after going weeks without sex. Of course the topic of masturbation came up and he disclosed that a normal time for him to do "that" is before he heads to school. Why? Because with all the "attractive women" which of course are hard to not notice on campus, it can rile a man up. "Men are like that, they always think of sex, and it can take only one or two hot chicks to make a guy want to rub one out in the bathroom." Now, granted it was a bit more information than I wanted, I am curious as to how much of what he said is actually true. Some male insight. Mostly so I don't have to go home and cut off his balls and keep them in my purse. Do men think of sex constantly? Is sex really that much of a necessity to men?
yongyong Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I think your guy is Beta. (which is good for you) you tested him like testing a dog on their patience and he doesn't mind LOL
KungFuJoe Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Sex is a necessity for HUMANS. I hate "studies", but studies show that women actually think MORE about sex than men do.
KungFuJoe Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I think your guy is Beta. (which is good for you) you tested him like testing a dog on their patience and he doesn't mind LOL Just when I was starting to like you, you go and just totally ruin it.
tbf Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Testosterone levels peak in the morning, then drops to lows by night. It's not surprising that he's the most active before he leaves for school.
MrNate 2.0 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Testosterone levels peak in the morning, then drops to lows by night. It's not surprising that he's the most active before he leaves for school. You scare me with your depth of knowledge sometimes. Are you a scientist? 2
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 I can honestly say I get no dirty thoughts or feel pent up when I see hot guys at school. I can appreciate it, but I honestly do not actively think of sex that often.
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 Testosterone levels peak in the morning, then drops to lows by night. It's not surprising that he's the most active before he leaves for school. I am fully aware of that... doesn't answer my question about what he said though when it comes to thinking of sex.
tbf Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 You scare me with your depth of knowledge sometimes. Are you a scientist?No, not a scientist. Learning something interesting is like crack to me.
KungFuJoe Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I know I don't always think about sex. Sometimes I sleep, too. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 First off...I'm not really getting the whole waiting for two weeks sex thing unless you started dating him, is that some of test or just special circumstance that he had to be understanding of? I'm not sure where the praise is coming from and why that's so significant...it seems a bit minor unless justified. However if you are in fact testing him just to see how he reacts, I think that's very silly for you to do to him and him to actually deal with if it was just for the sake of a test to see if he'd be still interested and want you? sounds extremely immature. But I'm going to assume this is for some other reason than that. Secondly guys can cope with lack of sex with masturbation...this is what they do all the days they desire sex but don't have it, or rather just get one off. Personally I enjoy porn, and you'd never tell me when I can or couldn't do it and don't understand any man that would put up with that. For me that would be like me telling you what you can eat, how much, and how often. As far as men always wanting sex or to rub one out? not necessarily true. When I see a very sexually attractive woman I will definitely think of what it would be like having sex with her but I wouldn't have the desire to go home and blow my load all over my computer screen...it's definitely not that urgent and I do have a high sex drive. I also enjoy women beyond the sexual aspect, I think they are sexy and attractive/alluring in other ways so unless she was wearing something revealing and sexy I'm likely to start with her lips in my fantasy before her vagina, and even just non physicality like her presence, flirting and having an engaging conversation with her...but no, that is likely not the norm among men. It sounds to me like you're trying to control this guy too much and read into why he does this or that, and honestly I don't think you understand men enough not to give him a hard time over every little thing in the future. However If I recall, he is older, he should be experienced enough to handle this but he honestly doesn't sound too wise in his comments...especially with the comment that he made to you about this...it was distasteful and unnecessary, something a young guy would say out of ignorance. I guess you could just chalk that up to a "mistake" and it slipped out, but he surely meant it and that's what should matter to you....not so much what we think or other men necessarily.
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 First off...I'm not really getting the whole waiting for two weeks sex thing unless you started dating him, is that some of test or just special circumstance that he had to be understanding of? I'm not sure where the praise is coming from and why that's so significant...it seems a bit minor unless justified. However if you are in fact testing him just to see how he reacts, I think that's very silly for you to do to him and him to actually deal with if it was just for the sake of a test to see if he'd be still interested and want you? sounds extremely immature. But I'm going to assume this is for some other reason than that. Secondly guys can cope with lack of sex with masturbation...this is what they do all the days they desire sex but don't have it, or rather just get one off. Personally I enjoy porn, and you'd never tell me when I can or couldn't do it and don't understand any man that would put up with that. For me that would be like me telling you what you can eat, how much, and how often. As far as men always wanting sex or to rub one out? not necessarily true. When I see a very sexually attractive woman I will definitely think of what it would be like having sex with her but I wouldn't have the desire to go home and blow my load all over my computer screen...it's definitely not that urgent and I do have a high sex drive. I also enjoy women beyond the sexual aspect, I think they are sexy and attractive/alluring in other ways so unless she was wearing something revealing and sexy I'm likely to start with her lips in my fantasy before her vagina, and even just non physicality like her presence, flirting and having an engaging conversation with her...but no, that is likely not the norm among men. It sounds to me like you're trying to control this guy too much and read into why he does this or that, and honestly I don't think you understand men enough not to give him a hard time over every little thing in the future. However If I recall, he is older, he should be experienced enough to handle this but he honestly doesn't sound too wise in his comments...especially with the comment that he made to you about this...it was distasteful and unnecessary, something a young guy would say out of ignorance. I guess you could just chalk that up to a "mistake" and it slipped out, but he surely meant it and that's what should matter to you....not so much what we think or other men necessarily. Totally wrong dude. My boyfriend and I have happily been together for some time now. We live together actually. The two weeks are usually because I am on my period. TMI, but that is what assumptions gets you! Oh annddddddd, my DB is 31. Not some young guy, granted he said it in a joking manner. Lighten up sir I am merely asking how often men think of sex. Is it really something you guys actively think about regularly?
tbf Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I am fully aware of that... doesn't answer my question about what he said though when it comes to thinking of sex. Men think about sex twice as often as women, particularly during their peak testosterone years. Add in when testosterone peaks in the day and that he's been abstinent for a couple weeks, and he might be at hair trigger. Women are more prone to sexual thoughts and open to sexual activity where they're also more drawn to masculine looking men, during ovulation.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Why haven't you had sex for 2 weeks? "Men are like that, they always think of sex, and it can take only one or two hot chicks to make a guy want to rub one out in the bathroom." Translation: "I am like that. I always think of sex, and it can take only one or two hot chicks to make me want to rub one out in the bathroom." 2
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 Why haven't you had sex for 2 weeks? Translation: "I am like that. I always think of sex, and it can take only one or two hot chicks to make me want to rub one out in the bathroom." Looks like someones balls are coming off tonight!
ErosOcean Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 (edited) Why haven't you had sex for 2 weeks? Translation: "I am like that. I always think of sex, and it can take only one or two hot chicks to make me want to rub one out in the bathroom." Nice. That is spot on. Edited February 2, 2013 by ErosOcean
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Totally wrong dude. My boyfriend and I have happily been together for some time now. We live together actually. The two weeks are usually because I am on my period. TMI, but that is what assumptions gets you! Oh annddddddd, my DB is 31. Not some young guy, granted he said it in a joking manner. Lighten up sir I am merely asking how often men think of sex. Is it really something you guys actively think about regularly? No, I wasn't making assumptions just covering things with a broad brush. Also keep in mind my replies are usually directed towards everyone (readers) at times instead of the direct person, If I just wanted to answer your question specifically then I couldn't talk so much and that makes Ninja sad , but I also broaden the explanations intentionally where it may seem like I'm just totally off the mark...believe it or not your period was my first intuition but wasn't going to come out and say it. If he did say it in a joking manner then that is understandable, but that's not easily interpreted through the internet unless stated. But remember, a joke is often a half-truth so the joke may be on you! As far as men thinking of sex often...of course we do, all the time that's easy! Men just have different sex drives like women do. 1
Divasu Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I think for the most part most do (despite what they say). Anywho, your BF's comment was a bit of stupidity on his part. What did it do? It made you *feel* a bit insecure (case in point this thread). I don't blame you, it's almost in the same bracket as saying to your boyfriend that you fantasize about other men when you are in the shower with Mr. Faucet. Some things are just better kept to oneself. 1
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 I think for the most part most do (despite what they say). Anywho, your BF's comment was a bit of stupidity on his part. What did it do? It made you *feel* a bit insecure (case in point this thread). I don't blame you, it's almost in the same bracket as saying to your boyfriend that you fantasize about other men when you are in the shower with Mr. Faucet. Some things are just better kept to oneself. VERY true. I literally gave him THE look after he said it. You know, the "oh really now?" look. I then told him that EXACT thing. He can be dumb sometimes.
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 You have your period for 2 weeks? Roughly. It is caused by my birth control. It changes though. *shrug* YES I know, it's long, normal for me though.
outsidethebox Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 well interesting topic anyway. About sex, controlling sex, light dominance stuff. A long time ago there was a meme floating around that men thought about sex on average every 10 seconds. That's just ridiculous. You'd have to narrow down what "thinking about sex" means and no one ever does that. They just giggle about it, I guess. What else are you going to do? Men aren't going to say they're not as manly as other men. So the bar is raised pretty high there. That's like sex is crack or something to be that agitated. I assume it reflected any thought that acknowledged there was an opposite sex. Even then I don't see how females can be involved in any concentration on a task, often prolonged in many occupations. I didn't google it to see if it was a proven urban tale but given I heard it in school at a fairly early age it probably was. Like the spiders in the beehive hairdo. That level. Now is a guy going to think about sex more when going without but there is at least a daily reminder of things to come. Oh yeah. And it's about the thing to come, so you may want to let him hang on to his balls. He'll need them. Mornings men (as far as I know) often wake up with a hardon. That's just pure testosterone talking.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Roughly. It is caused by my birth control. It changes though. *shrug* YES I know, it's long, normal for me though. That sucks!
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 That sucks! Tell me about it. No babies though, so I can't complain much!
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