czen Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I've been hanging out with this girl (I'm 20, she's 16) and I'm really confused by her. She's constantly touching me, either by leaning against me, hitting me playfully, holding onto me, etc. We've also gotten quite close in a short period of two months as she told me some pretty personal stuff. She also sometimes flirts with me, but it could still be interpreted as her just joking around. She also asks me out a lot of times to do stuff, sometimes just with her, sometimes with her friends there too. Now, normally I'd say, this girl is defintely into me. But the thing is, she showed me some conversations with other guys she had, and she seems to flirt/joke around with a lot of them and also seems very open about stuff to them too. So a part of me thinks she really doesn't know all the things she is doing is giving the guy the idea that she might want something more. Which makes sense since she never had a bf and is still pretty young. What do you guys think about her behaviour? Can I do something to get more info on what really is going?
rushingwaters Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I don't think she's into you. Sounds to me like that's how she is to everyone. Has she specifically shown interest in you and your interests? If a 16-year old girl likes you, she would probably try to pick up one of your hobbies <-- more accurate than flirting
Author czen Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 Well, we text A LOT and she calls me multiple times a week where we talk for about an hour each time. Again, something which would point at that she likes me, but...I know she texts and calls other guys too. But it's not on the same level as she does it with me, we have shared some really personal stuff with each other. But I also think the main reason she is so social with everybody, is that she is kinda without a hobby whatsoever, so she spends most of her time just socializing with people. But yeah, she has shown interest in getting to know me, she asked me quite a few personal things. She also asked about my interests and all, but has shown no intent in picking them up or anything. I thought about just straight up confronting her and asking her what's the deal, but I don't want things to suddenly turn really awkward and destroy any chances on keeping her as a friend if it ends up I don't really see her as a potential girlfriend either.
Maneater Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I'd say keep talking to her but keep your eyes and ears open. She sounds like a flirt but she also could be playing hard to get and wants you to get jealous.
Author czen Posted February 4, 2013 Author Posted February 4, 2013 Okay, I've talked to her a bit more, and had a discussion with her about whether or not she's a tease/playette. I told her I think she's one, considering all the guys she talks to and how they all seem to hit on them. I was like "You can't tell me they're all just hitting on you even after you keep on rejecting them, you mst be giving them some kind of hope?". Then she was like that she indeed rejected them, but she kinda liked the attention and thought it was funny, so she didn't really reject them that hard. But she still refused to call herself a tease or anything of the sort Some things that were a bit 'special' to me though: -She keeps on sendings pics of those messages those guys send to her to me. I think she really just wants to share those messages with me from a "look at how ridiculous they are!!!" pov, and not to try and make me jealous though. -She's sending me a LOAD of pictures of herself. And today she was showing me a pic of her in a party dress she just bought because she wanted to know if I liked it. And I was thinking like "Seriously, you're sending me pictures of yourself in a short skirt, what do you think my response is?" -She admitted I'm the only gu she actually hangs out with, since she doesn't feel comfortable around other guys. -She's touching me A LOT. It's mostly playful though, like pulling at my arm, slapping me, pinching me, etc. -For some reason, she thinks it's "creepy" when we talk and I look at her face. So she's constantly trying to avoid it. Any more opinions on this?
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