GlassesSeventy Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 It's been 7 days NC now...and I just want to break it. She hasn't messaged me, and I'm now convinced that I didn't even matter to her. I don't want her to forget me.
geegirl Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 It's been 7 days NC now...and I just want to break it. She hasn't messaged me, and I'm now convinced that I didn't even matter to her. I don't want her to forget me. If she forgets you, then you have your answer. The worst thing you can do is remind someone of your existence. If you have to remind them, what does that tell you? But go ahead and break NC. Just as soon as you break it, you'll be right back to where you were before you made that silly decision. 1
Author GlassesSeventy Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 If she forgets you, then you have your answer. The worst thing you can do is remind someone of your existence. If you have to remind them, what does that tell you? But go ahead and break NC. Just as soon as you break it, you'll be right back to where you were before you made that silly decision. Everything you said is right - it's just that it hurts. I've been doing everything right- today, I even bought myself a new bike to get out more, I've been studying hard... I've signed up to a dating site, and am casually talking to a few women but...it keeps hitting me that she hasn't text/called... and it hurts. I keep getting flashbacks of things she might have said to me, and keep seeing her name everywhere. NC is so hard.
cavalier99 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 The 1st month of NC is the worst. It gets better i promise. Welcome to detox. Cav 2
Simon Phoenix Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Seven days isn't anything. She didn't forget you. In seven years she'll still remember who you are.
Author GlassesSeventy Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 The 1st month of NC is the worst. It gets better i promise. Welcome to detox. Cav Cheers.... I'll take your word for it..
cavalier99 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 (edited) Cheers.... I'll take your word for it.. Sorry man. The only thing that is worse than 1 month NC is one month without it. Time returns to normal at about a month. These first weeks will feel like years. You need to fight thru it. Cry as much as possible. Get it all out. Mourn until you cant, remember everything..get it all out. And tell yourself IT IS OVER. Cav KEEP NC LIKE YOUr LIFE DEPENDS ON IT. MAINTAIN SELF RESPECT AT ALL COSTS. Edited February 1, 2013 by cavalier99 5
Author GlassesSeventy Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Sorry man. The only thing that is worse than 1 month NC is one month without it. Time returns to normal at about a month. These first weeks will feel like years. You need to fight thru it. Cry as much as possible. Get it all out. Mourn until you cant, remember everything..get it all out. And tell yourself IT IS OVER. Cav KEEP NC LIKE YOUr LIFE DEPENDS ON IT. MAINTAIN SELF RESPECT AT ALL COSTS. Thanks man - you're right, I might feel like absolute rubbish but at least I don't have to deal with looking like a desperate, needy person at the same time...!! Cheers for your words, man. 1
FailedFirstLove Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I did it for a month.. Then I broken down and called... I just feel like I'm back in the beginning again! Don't break it. You will regret it
Author GlassesSeventy Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 I did it for a month.. Then I broken down and called... I just feel like I'm back in the beginning again! Don't break it. You will regret it You called? And said what?
na49 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I never get the point of people going NC and breaking it. You go NC because YOU want to move on. If you don't want to move on or you think staying in contact will bring them back. Then do it. NC is just a game if you don't use it to help yourself. The first few weeks are the worst. You're starting to realize it's over. You don't like it which is why you want to contact her again. If NC is the only way for you to heal and she's made it clear that she doesn't want you anymore. I'd take her word for it, and just keep on keeping on. She won't forget you. She won't think of you as much as you think about her, but I think it's ridiculous to think someone who was a significant part of your life and you spend a significant amount of time with, can forget you after 7 days. 1
geegirl Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 You called? And said what? What does it matter? How will it pertain to your situation? Stop picking at that wound. NC is hard. We've all been there. I went bananas the first few months. Seven days is nothing. It's going to get worse before it gets better. And she won't forget you but she won't remember you in the longing and loving sense that you feel about her and that you hope for.
Author GlassesSeventy Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Seven days isn't anything. She didn't forget you. In seven years she'll still remember who you are. I doubt that.
Author GlassesSeventy Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 What does it matter? How will it pertain to your situation? Stop picking at that wound. NC is hard. We've all been there. I went bananas the first few months. Seven days is nothing. It's going to get worse before it gets better. And she won't forget you but she won't remember you in the longing and loving sense that you feel about her and that you hope for. I was just a bit curious, I guess. I wasn't really relating it to my situation.
geegirl Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I was just a bit curious, I guess. I wasn't really relating it to my situation. Ah, we get curious because we always relate it to our situation. Been there done that!
LostGirl11 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Please don't break NC. I'm feeling exactly how you are. I want to text him, I want him to think about me! But if he needs to hear from me to remember me then I guess he won't be remembering me because I'm not breaking it! **** that. No way. I'm climbing the walls. But No, just no. 2
Author GlassesSeventy Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Ah, we get curious because we always relate it to our situation. Been there done that! Aha, you got me. I've actually done the whole Google search for 'get my ex back' and was perhaps going to call her in a month, see how she was. But I guess if she hasn't bothered to see how I am, then why should I?
Author GlassesSeventy Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Please don't break NC. I'm feeling exactly how you are. I want to text him, I want him to think about me! But if he needs to hear from me to remember me then I guess he won't be remembering me because I'm not breaking it! **** that. No way. I'm climbing the walls. But No, just no. Glad to hear I'm not alone - well I won't break it, as long as you don't! So don't let me down
LostGirl11 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Glad to hear I'm not alone - well I won't break it, as long as you don't! So don't let me down I can promise you I won't. I don't want to see a 'I broke NC' post tomorrow young sir. 1
incandescent Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 i dont think she will ever forget you man, so don't worry about that. its so hard man... after 7 days i caved in and contacted her. worst. thing. ever. dont do it!
Author GlassesSeventy Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 I can promise you I won't. I don't want to see a 'I broke NC' post tomorrow young sir. Haha - you won't see that!
Author GlassesSeventy Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 i dont think she will ever forget you man, so don't worry about that. its so hard man... after 7 days i caved in and contacted her. worst. thing. ever. dont do it! Thank God for this forum and all you guys.....! That must have been tough though man...hope you got through it OK
FailedFirstLove Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 You called? And said what? I was speechless, he was surprised I called but he d me he was glad. I knew it was a stupid move. I was a total idiot. Just asked how he does it. Doesn't he get urges etc. he just says yeah but tries to suppress it. Talked abit the next day and false hopes keep coming. Then he would crush it by saying he doesn't know etc.. I really didnt get anything out of it. Maybe helped him feel less guilty. Then he would say his busy all the time call me up at like 4:30 in the morning. Usually texts were initiated by me. So I stopped and I haven't gotten anything from him yet. Complete useless
Author GlassesSeventy Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Good lad Take it easy, rest, do what you love...it'll get better for you, too 1
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