FitChick Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I once went on a date (from OLD) with a guy that was in a wheelchair. He never told me this, so I was stunned when I saw him for the first time. Same thing happened to a friend. She was a tennis player and loved to hike. This guy told her he "loved the outdoors." She asked me, "Did he expect me to push him up the mountain?" 2
RogerWallace111 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Hold up...dudes in WHEELCHAIRS are CHEATING? Don't tell DJTiesto that. He makes 7 figures, looks like Mario Lopez and has two good legs and he can't find a date, let alone someone to cheat on or with. Word ? Where'd you hear that..?
xpaperxcutx Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 One thing I'm aware of handicaps, they try not allow their shortcomings become an issue. The fact is, the guy politely turned you down and you refusing to accept it but instead, jump on here and write about how he did this or that is extremely disturbing. Other people will usually brush it off and not make a 30 page thread about it, but you seem to be the type attracted to attention. You're 22, why can't you stop holding little grudges and learn to live your life outside of online dating services and Loveshack? You need to socialize and meet people and learn to let go of all these little vitriols that are neither beneficial to you or us.
SmileFace Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I am sorry I do not think he was rude. You presented him with something and he thought it over and realized it wasn't ideal for him. We can not be accepted by everyone - and after 22 years I will think that will be apperant to you. I will say his lost - but eh. You said it your self 75% of the guys you talked to were fine with your cp. You need to learn to be humble as I see it. Yea, be angry for a second but this isn't a lost - you don't know this kid - on to the next. He isn't a bad person for this - he is just himself . Like everyone - no one owes you anything . Plus you putting down girls he may be interested and calling them manly - sad.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 One thing I'm aware of handicaps, they try not allow their shortcomings become an issue. The fact is, the guy politely turned you down and you refusing to accept it but instead, jump on here and write about how he did this or that is extremely disturbing. Other people will usually brush it off and not make a 30 page thread about it, but you seem to be the type attracted to attention. You're 22, why can't you stop holding little grudges and learn to live your life outside of online dating services and Loveshack? You need to socialize and meet people and learn to let go of all these little vitriols that are neither beneficial to you or us. Umm of course I'm going to online date if I can't find someone in real life... What else am I supposed to be doing?
KungFuJoe Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Umm of course I'm going to online date if I can't find someone in real life... What else am I supposed to be doing? Find someone in real life.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 I am sorry I do not think he was rude. You presented him with something and he thought it over and realized it wasn't ideal for him. We can not be accepted by everyone - and after 22 years I will think that will be apperant to you. I will say his lost - but eh. You said it your self 75% of the guys you talked to were fine with your cp. You need to learn to be humble as I see it. Yea, be angry for a second but this isn't a lost - you don't know this kid - on to the next. He isn't a bad person for this - he is just himself . Like everyone - no one owes you anything . Plus you putting down girls he may be interested and calling them manly - sad. He's a bad person and a doucher luckily I just talked to this other guy in the phone like just now and he's sweet and cute and so we will see where that one goes.
KungFuJoe Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 He's a bad person and a doucher luckily I just talked to this other guy in the phone like just now and he's sweet and cute and so we will see where that one goes. You're a horrible judge of character if you think that guy was a bad person. You got a LOT of growing up to do. Maybe when you stop acting like a little girl, you'll be able to be with a MAN.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 You're a horrible judge of character if you think that guy was a bad person. You got a LOT of growing up to do. Maybe when you stop acting like a little girl, you'll be able to be with a MAN. He's a doucher. I mean ok he was nice about the whole thing which I appreciate but still he's rude in general for doing it. I have him an out when I told him he could have been like "oh I can't handle that sorry" at that point but he didn't he was like "oh it doesn't matter blah blah blah" so that makes him a doucher to me.. Maybe he isn't a horrible person but a doucher yes.
SmileFace Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 He's a bad person and a doucher luckily I just talked to this other guy in the phone like just now and he's sweet and cute and so we will see where that one goes. haha...good luck with that:rolleyes:
KungFuJoe Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 He's a doucher. I mean ok he was nice about the whole thing which I appreciate but still he's rude in general for doing it. I have him an out when I told him he could have been like "oh I can't handle that sorry" at that point but he didn't he was like "oh it doesn't matter blah blah blah" so that makes him a doucher to me.. Maybe he isn't a horrible person but a doucher yes. What was he SUPPOSED TO DO? Tell me...in YOUR mind...what SHOULD he have done?
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 What was he SUPPOSED TO DO? Tell me...in YOUR mind...what SHOULD he have done? After I told him he should have been like ok I can't handle that sorry and been done
KungFuJoe Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 After I told him he should have been like ok I can't handle that sorry and been done What if he wasn't sure right at that moment? What if he thought he was ok with it...but then he thought it over and decided he didn't want to waste your time? I mean, look at it from HIS perspective. You just dropped a bomb on the dude and he was taken by surprise. Of COURSE he's going to have a problem knowing exactly how to feel or react. He's HUMAN. Dude was a model ****ing citizen, as far as I'm concerned.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 Either way I would have been bummed out but I'm bummed times like 10 now I would have been a little bummed
KungFuJoe Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Either way I would have been bummed out but I'm bummed times like 10 now I would have been a little bummed YOU are bummed out. YOU. But other people are not always to blame just because YOU feel bad.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 What if he wasn't sure right at that moment? What if he thought he was ok with it...but then he thought it over and decided he didn't want to waste your time? I mean, look at it from HIS perspective. You just dropped a bomb on the dude and he was taken by surprise. Of COURSE he's going to have a problem knowing exactly how to feel or react. He's HUMAN. Dude was a model ****ing citizen, as far as I'm concerned. I mean he was nice about it.. That's good I guess, and it is good he didn't waste my time... I don't want to give him credit for anything! Lol I mean I get I should but I'm bummed!
KungFuJoe Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I mean he was nice about it.. That's good I guess, and it is good he didn't waste my time... I don't want to give him credit for anything! Lol I mean I get I should but I'm bummed! Give him credit for being a good PERSON, not trying to take advantage of you, and being as honest as you could expect anyone to be. Try to see the good in people instead of always digging for the bad.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 Give him credit for being a good PERSON, not trying to take advantage of you, and being as honest as you could expect anyone to be. Try to see the good in people instead of always digging for the bad. Ok maybe he isn't a bad person but a doucher still. I mean he was attracted to me, I'm cute and funny and nice (despite what you might think) and I would be a good girlfriend. He wanted a legit relationship and I saw potential! Now I have nothing. And he loved Jesus!
KungFuJoe Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Ok maybe he isn't a bad person but a doucher still. I mean he was attracted to me, I'm cute and funny and nice (despite what you might think) and I would be a good girlfriend. He wanted a legit relationship and I saw potential! Now I have nothing. Why is he a doucher still?
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 Why is he a doucher still? Because he made me sad. I don't want to give him a lot of credit. He would have been the perfect bf, he did live 45 mins away withhis parents so that sucked.. But so do I
gaius Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Tell him to f off if that's what you feel. If it makes you feel better. I probably would. Must be incredibly frustrating to be dismissed like that because you have CP. This forum usually gives good advice but it's a little weird to see people saying you have no empathy while not even empathizing with you one bit. I bet the advice you're getting would be different if you were a different poster with a different history. 2
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 Tell him to f off if that's what you feel. If it makes you feel better. I probably would. Must be incredibly frustrating to be dismissed like that because you have CP. This forum usually gives good advice but it's a little weird to see people saying you have no empathy while not even empathizing with you one bit. I bet the advice you're getting would be different if you were a different poster with a different history. I needed to get my anger out, it's out now. I'm not going to bother messaging him. Like I said it bums me out a lot to be dismissed like that but hey it's whatever I can move on lol I wasn't dating the kid.
Leigh 87 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I did not know you had that cp. A loving partner would stay with a women if she HAD an accident, and neded the use of a cane. Starting out with a girl that way, before any emotions develop, is a different story... ...................The thing is, I am afraid that: having a known medical condition of the nature of cp, is like being average looking. Which your not - your pretty. But please read this... Average looking people normally end up with loving partners though BEING AROUND THEM, seeing as their looks alone do not normally compell a guy to get all interestd in them. Like wise: your a pretty girl who is in college and sounds interesting and unique enough. You could easily meet a decent guy through college or through just being around him in general. But make no mistake: from the outset, it is just... it goes against most guys nature, to overlook cp in a dating prospect, before an emotional connection is formed... Yet if that same guy worked or studied with you, he could easily fall for you, without setting out to date you from the outset. .................Do you understand? Your condition will not make you less desirable once you meet the right guy, however, it DOES put you at a disadvantage in online dating. 2
Leigh 87 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 If I were you? I would NOT give up on online dating. This is how I would word your profile, in regards to explaining about your illness: " I have cp, but I am a pretty, clever, abitious women, and the the fact I walk with a cane does not take away from the fact that I kick ass in other areas of my life." .....SOME guy WILL still pursue you:) 2
Leigh 87 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Mate, I like you a lot as a poster:) But being born ugly is not something people can help either, and yet it limits their dating prospects... Life is not fair; you can chose to be one of those inpiring people who kicks ass at life and does not let your condition limit you. Look, you are young, I have seen your picture and your pretty. Ugly girls have WAY more of a disadvantage than you! Seriosuly - very unfortunate looking women will have less men turned on enough for a relationship with them, than a pretty girl with a cane.... Come on now. Please, let your cane and cp be what makes you special:) it sounds lame, but really, you have something different about you - embrace it:laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh: I do not blame you for having those moments where it is damn unfair, let yourself vent, but I would really like to see you using your cp as a special, awesome thing about you. PLEASE, it sucks you have a condition that most people do not have. Honestly though? I really ugly girl would be at WAY more 1
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