Djayz Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 (edited) we broke up 5 days ago, she ended it with a txt saying she is tired of relationship and says lets just remain friends, that she still care a lot abt me and still love me. we are in same school, i virtually see her everyday. i started NC, immediately after she broke up, after i poured out my emotions.. the nxt day, i deleted all her contact and started NC. during our relationship, sometimes she tells me she loves me but dont know if she wants to be with me.. now am on NC, she called me after she noticed i deleted her from facebook etc, i didnt pick up, she texted, saying its like i decided to move on, dat she wanted us to fix things with me, but since i moved on she will have to also. (i noticed she wasnt sure what she sent). i deleted the text and didnt reply. few days. i see her in school but i pretend i never even notice her. today she called me in school, i didnt pick up. after school she sent me a new month wish (sms). {deleted}... what am i to do. though i have vowed to move on, and will neva contact her as long as i dont want to. meanwhile she told her best friend who is my friend too about our situation, that am refusing her calls.. her friend called me, i told her i wouldnt want to talk about it. This girl gave me pain, i noticed she started losing interest in me, each time i asked her, she said she needed time to be alone. (is it because we see almost everyday?) few days to exam, she broke up, it hurt a lot, but thank God am still focused.. what am i to do at this point, even though if we will still reunite, it will be a good thing, but am prepared to move on.. i know her too well to know she is missing me at this moment or she is having guilt.. Edited February 1, 2013 by Djayz
Samilia Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 She dumped you, you moved on, ignored her. Now she's got a bruised ego. If in a few days you cave in and take her back, she'll dump you you again promptly, I can guarantee it. So, for short, keep the NC. 1
Author Djayz Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 (edited) She dumped you, you moved on, ignored her. Now she's got a bruised ego. If in a few days you cave in and take her back, she'll dump you you again promptly, I can guarantee it. So, for short, keep the NC. still keeping the NC though, but still observing her situation.. Edited February 1, 2013 by Djayz
NoLeafClover Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 still keeping the NC though, but clearly observing her situation.. Read my threat it starts with - "Karma" and hopefully you will do the same
Author Djayz Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 she sent another text, asking to know what she has done.. probably y i refuse picking her calls.. and adds "reply" at the end.. CRAZY!! {deleted}
cavalier99 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Block her number. I guarantee if you contact her she will just blow you off after getting an ego boost. She broke up with you so now she can pay the consequences of her decision. She is a selfish to be bothering you so much. If you cant block her number tell her to F*off and leave you alone and stop acting like a stalker.. this might shame her into stopping. 1
TaraMaiden Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Please be disciplined and keep up the NC. It shows you are stronger than she is, and you have more'moral fibre'. I do not, and will never, understand people who dump, but who believe they can still call the shots, leave you hanging - and fully expect you to comply and do as THEY want.... she ended it with a txt saying she is tired of relationship and says lets just remain friends, that she still care a lot abt me and still love me..... .....during our relationship, sometimes she tells me she loves me but dont know if she wants to be with me.. she texted, saying its like i decided to move on, dat she wanted us to fix things with me, but since i moved on she will have to also..... (Yeah, that's emotional blackmail.... like she dangles the 'fix things' carrot, and then expects you to respond with a rush saying, "oh, no, no, no! That;s not what I want at all! Of course I want to fix things! here, please walk all over me again!" ) ..... today she called me in school, i didnt pick up. after school she sent me a new month wish ... .....meanwhile she told her best friend who is my friend too about our situation, that am refusing her calls.. her friend called me, i told her i wouldnt want to talk about it. Yeah. Another classic immature move. Get a go-between to act on your behalf and try to engineer contact again. Get outta here...... ...each time i asked her, she said she needed time to be alone..... She dumped you - but she's still invading your space and seeking attention to validate herself, and make herself feel good. Please read the No Contact Guide in my signature (Link: Updated 2013) it will help you a lot. Copy, paste into a word.doc, and print it out and keep it with you at all times. It's there to keep you sane. But you're really doing well - keep it up, buddy!!
Author Djayz Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 She dumped you - but she's still invading your space and seeking attention to validate herself, and make herself feel good. Please read the No Contact Guide in my signature (Link: Updated 2013) it will help you a lot. Copy, paste into a word.doc, and print it out and keep it with you at all times. It's there to keep you sane. But you're really doing well - keep it up, buddy!! thanks for the advice TaraMaiden
Author Djayz Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Block her number. I guarantee if you contact her she will just blow you off after getting an ego boost. She broke up with you so now she can pay the consequences of her decision. She is a selfish to be bothering you so much. If you cant block her number tell her to F*off and leave you alone and stop acting like a stalker.. this might shame her into stopping. would consider blocking her number. i used to think i cant do without her, but thank God am waking up to reality so fast. but i know i might still have issues with her, esp if i consider dating another girl in my school, and i dont care which guy she goes out with now.. not like i dont remember the good times we spent together, i still have those feelings.. but i really got to move on, as i have seen most ppl who go back keep getting hurt the more. i believe if we are meant to be, someday, somehow we will, but certainly not now or sooner.......
cavalier99 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 would consider blocking her number. i used to think i cant do without her, but thank God am waking up to reality so fast. but i know i might still have issues with her, esp if i consider dating another girl in my school, and i dont care which guy she goes out with now.. not like i dont remember the good times we spent together, i still have those feelings.. but i really got to move on, as i have seen most ppl who go back keep getting hurt the more. i believe if we are meant to be, someday, somehow we will, but certainly not now or sooner....... Your doing well. But this communication is dangerous to you. BLOCK HER! It is too easy to get a high off of ignoring the communication even though you aren't breaking NC. She is holding back your healing. Id be mad. BLOCK HER
Samilia Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 (edited) she sent another text, asking to know what she has done.. probably y i refuse picking her calls.. and adds "reply" at the end.. CRAZY!! {deleted} What's even crazier is how people behave if you take them back, once they get what they want. She would get her little ego boost, would probably toss you a "I'm sorry but this one was a mistake" and she would leave mud tracks all over your pride on the way out. When she broke up with you, she was calling the shots. Right now you are the one who's empowered, enjoy it, don't cave in, find a new girl. Edited February 1, 2013 by Samilia
TaraMaiden Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Blocking numbers on a mobile 'phone doesn't always prevent texts being sent, or received. So Djayz, take a look in the NC guide about preventing them from continually texting you. There's a message you can send back - but you have to do it the INSTANT you receive a text message from them. This is what you respond with - immediately: "Your message could not be delivered because the recipient has blocked this number." If they try again - send it again. I hear reports that it does a pretty good job....
Author Djayz Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 Blocking numbers on a mobile 'phone doesn't always prevent texts being sent, or received. So Djayz, take a look in the NC guide about preventing them from continually texting you. There's a message you can send back - but you have to do it the INSTANT you receive a text message from them. This is what you respond with - immediately: "Your message could not be delivered because the recipient has blocked this number." If they try again - send it again. I hear reports that it does a pretty good job.... Thanks Tara
Author Djayz Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 she used her friends phone to contact me.... i picked up, thought it was her friend, but didnt say much. hope i didnt break NC. the thing is, i know her friend was ryt there when she made the call. i ended d call with, the background was noisy and i couldnt here her clearly..
TaraMaiden Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 She's really being a pest now, huh? You should have bellowed down the 'phone: "Leave me the phukk alone! Take the hint, why don't you - ?!"
Author Djayz Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 am still wondering what to say if by any means i run into her in school though.. should i just pass without noticing..? and for how long, cos i see her almost everyday, not as if we run into each other but i always catch a sight of her and i know she does same, atleast i know she will always want to...
TaraMaiden Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 am still wondering what to say if by any means i run into her in school though.. should i just pass without noticing..? Oh goodness, definitely....! and for how long, cos i see her almost everyday, not as if we run into each other but i always catch a sight of her and i know she does same, atleast i know she will always want to... Do what Poker players do, even indoors: Find the nicest pair of cool dark sahdes you can - and wear them. That way, even if you appear to be looking a different way, you can glance at her and keep an eye on her, without her knowing it.... and if by chance you spot her - or a friend of hers - coming towards you, you can turn around, or get up and walk away.
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