AD1980 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Whenever people bring up going to bars when their single people flip out and act like its the worst possible place to meet people..its almost as if somebody said theyre going to the local prison to try to find a partner or something.. I know plenty of normal solid people who are single and go to bars and would make good partners..the idea that everyone who goes to bars is a alcoholic drunk and is looking to just have tons of one night stands is highly inaccurate.. Most people in their 20's and 30's go to bars at least once in awhile on weekends to unwind and have fun i dont know why people think only the dregs of society can be found in these places.. Am i saying its the best place to go when single to try to find a partner? no not at all but i also dont think it should be as taboo as it is because these are normal people youd also find anywhere else when looking for a partner.. So remember if you find a person you want to date at an art gallery or starbucks or through a friend that person might also go to *gasp* bars at times as well.. 3
superb Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Whenever people bring up going to bars when their single people flip out and act like its the worst possible place to meet people..its almost as if somebody said theyre going to the local prison to try to find a partner or something.. I know plenty of normal solid people who are single and go to bars and would make good partners..the idea that everyone who goes to bars is a alcoholic drunk and is looking to just have tons of one night stands is highly inaccurate.. Most people in their 20's and 30's go to bars at least once in awhile on weekends to unwind and have fun i dont know why people think only the dregs of society can be found in these places.. Am i saying its the best place to go when single to try to find a partner? no not at all but i also dont think it should be as taboo as it is because these are normal people youd also find anywhere else when looking for a partner.. So remember if you find a person you want to date at an art gallery or starbucks or through a friend that person might also go to *gasp* bars at times as well.. I'd rather meet someone at a coffee shop instead of a bar. Some bar patrons rely solely on that bar for entertainment. I for 1 don't want a man who hangs out in bars all the time. I told my last date, I'll meet up with you there but I'm not a bar person. (meaning, this won't happen much). After that date we never talked again, I'm not his type. He's not my type.
superb Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I have actually heard a guy who is CONSTANTLY in one particular bar saying "You can't find a decent woman in a bar." Pot/kettle. Probably because that's where he's picked up most of his women lol
SmileFace Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I met my ex in a bar. I meet tons of guys in bars/parties. However my ex is the only one I ever responded to the night after in the hopes of something more. Yes - I give guys my number at bars and don't reply(such is life). It is on a guy to guy basis. My ex didn't try anything the night we met. Besides small talk and swapping numbers - that was all. I think we parted ways and then met up to eat after. It all depends on what I think a guy is looking for or what I am looking for. I don't really have a problem dating someone who frequent bars/clubs. It comes with my age - in 8 yrs I may be singing a different tune.
Author AD1980 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 r. . Yes - I give guys my number at bars and don't reply(such is life). Why do you do that?
CptObvious Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 r. . Yes - I give guys my number at bars and don't reply(such is life). Why do you do that? just to mess with our batting average 1
Pyro Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Whenever people bring up going to bars when their single people flip out and act like its the worst possible place to meet people..its almost as if somebody said theyre going to the local prison to try to find a partner or something.. I know plenty of normal solid people who are single and go to bars and would make good partners..the idea that everyone who goes to bars is a alcoholic drunk and is looking to just have tons of one night stands is highly inaccurate.. Most people in their 20's and 30's go to bars at least once in awhile on weekends to unwind and have fun i dont know why people think only the dregs of society can be found in these places.. Am i saying its the best place to go when single to try to find a partner? no not at all but i also dont think it should be as taboo as it is because these are normal people youd also find anywhere else when looking for a partner.. So remember if you find a person you want to date at an art gallery or starbucks or through a friend that person might also go to *gasp* bars at times as well.. The odds are lower for meeting a quality person at a bar versus somewhere outside a bar. The reason being is that alcohol impairs judgment so people aren't necessarily thinking and making decisions clearly. Reasons like that are why people say not to rely on bars as a primary place to try and meet someone. I have never heard anyone say that EVERY single person at a bar is a drunk alcoholic and only wants casual sex. A bar/club is far from the best place to meet someone of quality but it is still possible to find someone there. 1
Talak7 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I'd rather meet someone at a coffee shop instead of a bar. Some bar patrons rely solely on that bar for entertainment. I for 1 don't want a man who hangs out in bars all the time. I told my last date, I'll meet up with you there but I'm not a bar person. (meaning, this won't happen much). After that date we never talked again, I'm not his type. He's not my type. REALLY? I dunno. Where I'm from if you tried to meet someone at a coffee shop they'd probably think you were trying to sell them something, get them to sell something, or something to do with religion..... Me and my friends walk down the street to the bar to watch some HBO shows sometimes. Sometimes we drink, sometimes we have a soda. It's a fairly smaller local place. I think there's a bar for everyone...they just have to find one. My particular choice of bar closes at 11:00 pm and also serves tasty food....generally keeping the douchery out and not being that "bar" atmo you might expect
Disillusioned Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Whatwhatwhat?!?!?! IME it was always the people who didn't go to bars, who were thought of as not being able to cut the mustard.
Imported Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 The odds are lower for meeting a quality person at a bar versus somewhere outside a bar. The reason being is that alcohol impairs judgment so people aren't necessarily thinking and making decisions clearly. Reasons like that are why people say not to rely on bars as a primary place to try and meet someone. I have never heard anyone say that EVERY single person at a bar is a drunk alcoholic and only wants casual sex. A bar/club is far from the best place to meet someone of quality but it is still possible to find someone there. Where would someone of quality be? At home posting on an internet forum? Sounds kinda self serving to me.
Pyro Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Where would someone of quality be? At home posting on an internet forum? Sounds kinda self serving to me. Here we go again with the 'all or nothing' mentality. Please show me where I said that there are NO quality people at bars.
Talak7 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I think meeting at a bar is totally normal and acceptable. I have met girls at bars that I have gone home with, not even touched, and now we are FB friends and we keep in touch every month or so. I've also met girls at bars that are ridiculous.... The problem is the various outcomes at the bar. There are some people looking for one night stand - Some people are looking to meet friends - Some are looking to say hi to friends and meet friends of friends, some are ...etc..... And when you have alcohol involved, a lot of people end up thinking the bar is terrible and the bar is full of bad people. So if they DO hook up, they assume the person they met is terrible/bad/not a good person/whatever....despite the fact that you were sitting at that same bar too. That complicates things and turns a lot of people into thinking they made a mistake when they may have totally had a wonderful time with that person sober too.
SmileFace Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 r. . Yes - I give guys my number at bars and don't reply(such is life). Why do you do that? But in all seriousness. Guys are persistant - and will not leave you alone until so I give it to them so they can move along and leave me alone. Plus - I more than likely tipsy most of the time but I don't care to go to the bar to find someone so I try to leave it there. My ex was the only one. I rather not meet someone at a bar but I have. just to mess with our batting average This
Feelin Frisky Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 It's pretty simple. When people are under the influence of alcohol they often say and do things that are uncharacteristic of who they are the rest of the time. Phone numbers are given freely and then just as quickly regretted and screened until they go away. Bars are a venue of last resort where you often meet people who view them as the venue of first resort. I don't know about anyone else but I don't want any part of the alcohol/cigarette lifestyle of the 20 to 30 year old who is still firmly under the impression that they are invincible and the effects of these substances can be slept away in one night. As you get older they're like walking around in a hole and each time you drink the hole gets wider and deeper and overlaps days to recover from--to say nothing of "bumping" so you can drink more and risking DWIs. Alcohol is a toxin with drug-like properties. If it weren't so easy to make it would still be prohibited. And I for one, would not miss it. If I have social anxiety, I take precise medicine available to target only that and not over-medicate multiple biological processes with a toxin that puts mileage on my already aging body. Go to two 12 step meetings--one a Narcotics Anonymous meeting and the other an Alcoholics Anonymous and look at a sampling of people in the same age group. I guaranty you'll be gob-smacked by how worse the alcoholics look than the junkies. Been there. Word. 1
Talak7 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 It's pretty simple. When people are under the influence of alcohol they often say and do things that are uncharacteristic of who they are the rest of the time. Phone numbers are given freely and then just as quickly regretted and screened until they go away. Bars are a venue of last resort where you often meet people who view them as the venue of first resort. I don't know about anyone else but I don't want any part of the alcohol/cigarette lifestyle of the 20 to 30 year old who is still firmly under the impression that they are invincible and the effects of these substances can be slept away in one night. As you get older they're like walking around in a hole and each time you drink the hole gets wider and deeper and overlaps days to recover from--to say nothing of "bumping" so you can drink more and risking DWIs. Alcohol is a toxin with drug-like properties. If it weren't so easy to make it would still be prohibited. And I for one, would not miss it. If I have social anxiety, I take precise medicine available to target only that and not over-medicate multiple biological processes with a toxin that puts mileage on my already aging body. Go to two 12 step meetings--one a Narcotics Anonymous meeting and the other an Alcoholics Anonymous and look at a sampling of people in the same age group. I guaranty you'll be gob-smacked by how worse the alcoholics look than the junkies. Been there. Word. Uh.....All people that go to bars are alcoholics that smoke cigarettes and can't function in society. ....k
Pyro Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Where would someone of quality be? All over the place they are. Unless you are a hermit living in a cave quality people are all around....and yes I am including bars too. 1
Ladybugz Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I know what you want to say . Like you want to promote the good side of meeting people in a bar. But its like meeting people in stripclubs etc. That doesnt make a great impression. And i think somehow many people in those places enjoy certain things, like alcohol, being rude, sex etc. So i still think its not a good place to meet people. Where you go say something about you 2. Even thou you can find people that went there only that day cause of loneliness. But sitting at the bar is like people with a lot of issues spent their time there for some reason 1
Talak7 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 All over the place they are. Unless you are a hermit living in a cave quality people are all around....and yes I am including bars too. Blasphemy. Everyone drinks for "social anxiety", and everyone who drinks alcohol binge drinks, and bars are feeding ground for scum... medication doesn't affect multiple biological processes. Side effects do not exist. anxiety med side have wonderful side effects (like impotence)
Talak7 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I know what you want to say . Like you want to promote the good side of meeting people in a bar. But its like meeting people in stripclubs etc. That doesnt make a great impression. And i think somehow many people in those places enjoy certain things, like alcohol, being rude, sex etc. So i still think its not a good place to meet people. Where you go say something about you 2. Even thou you can find people that went there only that day cause of loneliness. But sitting at the bar is like people with a lot of issues spent their time there for some reason I stopped when you said meeting peoplein strip clubs. What the **** is wrong with you? These things are not the same AT ALL. Your GLARING ignorance is just so painful that I can't believe you can even sit here and judge like that. I've been to a stripe club ONCE in my life. It was the most uncomfortable thing ever. I just don't get it - I don't want to be there - There's a number of reasons. To me, it's disgusting. I know lots of guys that feel the same way....So don't even make the comparison. "sitting at the bar" and "lots of issues".... Or, you're just an idiot. Yes. That'd be it. Know when I go to the bar? Every Sunday at 9:30 to watch an HBO show with friends. The bartender is really cool - She's a couple years older than me and my friends. We went hiking once - great conversationalist - dating a nice seeming guy a bit older than us as well. God you people are just ignorant. 1
Imported Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 All over the place they are. Unless you are a hermit living in a cave quality people are all around....and yes I am including bars too. So what you're saying is, "quality people" are all around everywhere ...but when such people go to a bar, their judgements are impaired and that makes them not quality people? After I had two girlfriends that I was actually serious about cheat on me and blame it on the alcohol.....I want to see how a girl behaves when drunk. I control myself. I regulate a nice buzz. I'd be past out before I behave in a manner that is "not me". I want a girl that is like that. I think "quality people" outside of bars are unproven. 1
ChessPieceFace Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I for 1 don't want a man who hangs out in bars all the time. Same (wouldn't want a girl who drank / caroused in bars a lot.) I go to karaoke, but I pretty much assume all the people there are bar-going people and thus wouldn't want to go out with them, even though maybe some people there are averse to that environment like me. If you do enjoy hanging out in bars, I don't see that it's necessarily so terrible to meet someone there. But yes I'd say people that hang out in bars are generally of lower moral character and integrity. 1
Talak7 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Same (wouldn't want a girl who drank / caroused in bars a lot.) I go to karaoke, but I pretty much assume all the people there are bar-going people and thus wouldn't want to go out with them, even though maybe some people there are averse to that environment like me. Do as I say, not as I do?
ChessPieceFace Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Do as I say, not as I do? I don't drink. Or smoke. Or carouse. I'm not obnoxious or loud. I go there only to sing and that's it. That's why I wouldn't have anything in common with 95% of the people there and the other 5% aren't wearing signs. Get over yourself.
veggirl Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 LOL LS loves to yell about how you can never meet someone in a bar. First of all, there are SO many kinds of bars. There are lounges, sports bars, clubs, pubs, etc. They are all very different. So a bar is not a bar is not a bar. Are you gonna meet the love of your life doing body shots at the college club? Probably not. but may you strike up a great convo with someone chilling at a lounge with a glass of wine watching a band? Maybe! Anyway my theory is that much of LS doesn't really have friends IRL and have not been to many bars so they don't really know what they are like and go by what they've seen on TV 4
Joaquin Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 (edited) I'd rather say I met my gf in a bar than using online dating. But that's just me and my own prejudices I guess. I find bars quite efficient for meeting girls, not because I'm good at it, but u know where u stand fairly quickly! Edited February 1, 2013 by Joaquin
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