syw0806 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 this guy I met from dating site, he asked me to email him more pics of mine (bc i only have one pic) and he liked them.. then he asked me out like 'play date?' which I replied saying sure.whens good for you. but eversince I havent heard from him.. I sent the last email yesterday evening and he even logged on to the site last night and this morning but I got nothing.. he found better girl or just lost interest all of sudden? he'd reply me back pretty quick so it's not that he's playing games or something.. did it ever happen to you before? why would he even bother to ask me out from the first place then ?
crude Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 He found someone better. Throw out some "feelers", then pick and choose.
superb Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 this guy I met from dating site, he asked me to email him more pics of mine (bc i only have one pic) and he liked them.. then he asked me out like 'play date?' which I replied saying sure.whens good for you. but eversince I havent heard from him.. I sent the last email yesterday evening and he even logged on to the site last night and this morning but I got nothing.. he found better girl or just lost interest all of sudden? he'd reply me back pretty quick so it's not that he's playing games or something.. did it ever happen to you before? why would he even bother to ask me out from the first place then ? "play date"? He was probably just looking for sex and found it somewhere else. That's how many online guys are. Be happy, you probably dodged a bullet. Esp when they're online and ignoring you, c'mon now....don't play the fool. NEXT! This has happened to me before, a few times.
Talak7 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 "play date"? He was probably just looking for sex and found it somewhere else. That's how many online guys are. Be happy, you probably dodged a bullet. Esp when they're online and ignoring you, c'mon now....don't play the fool. NEXT! This has happened to me before, a few times. Oh cmon. I've contacted girls and ignored them later for thousands of reasons. Not just because I wanted to stick it in her. If he wanted to stick it in you, he would've just kept talking to you....duh.... Girls get 10x more messages than guys on online dating sites. ****, I didn't reply half the time because I read them and was just like "eh I'm kinda lazy today" and went and did other stuff. A week later I go back and am like "okay, online dating, dealing with these messages now...". Could be 10000000 things. wtf does it matter.
superb Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Oh cmon. I've contacted girls and ignored them later for thousands of reasons. Not just because I wanted to stick it in her. If he wanted to stick it in you, he would've just kept talking to you....duh.... Girls get 10x more messages than guys on online dating sites. ****, I didn't reply half the time because I read them and was just like "eh I'm kinda lazy today" and went and did other stuff. A week later I go back and am like "okay, online dating, dealing with these messages now...". Could be 10000000 things. wtf does it matter. Whatever the case is. He wasn't serious.
Ladybugz Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 his gf found out or he just is ashamed to show his face
Talak7 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Gosh you guys are cynical! He could be doing something as simple as waiting to hear from a friend if he's coming into town this weekend so he could reply to you and say this weekend or next weekend.... I'm just saying....it's been like 18 hours????
xpaperxcutx Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Gosh you guys are cynical! He could be doing something as simple as waiting to hear from a friend if he's coming into town this weekend so he could reply to you and say this weekend or next weekend.... I'm just saying....it's been like 18 hours???? Nope not cynics, just stating the obvious. If a guy likes a girl he would go out of his way to date her, not play tag. 1
Samilia Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Maybe he was just fishing several girls at once, found someone he likes better. Who knows, move on to someone else, surely there are more guys on the site.
Talak7 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Nope not cynics, just stating the obvious. If a guy likes a girl he would go out of his way to date her, not play tag. You're absolutely correct. On the other hand, if a guy decides that he legitimately likes a girl based soley on an online profile before he even meets her, maybe that's MORE of a red flag to be concerned about. You all just talk as if you aren't running in guns blazing with a time, date, place, locale, plan of action and everything (before his paycheck comes tomorrow? Maybe reason #2314?) that he's just a sexual predator looking to score.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 You're absolutely correct. On the other hand, if a guy decides that he legitimately likes a girl based soley on an online profile before he even meets her, maybe that's MORE of a red flag to be concerned about. You all just talk as if you aren't running in guns blazing with a time, date, place, locale, plan of action and everything (before his paycheck comes tomorrow? Maybe reason #2314?) that he's just a sexual predator looking to score. We are not putting guns to people's heads but it is sane to be cautious over who you are meeting with. Also, people on online dating sites like to waste time and play games; the best way to avoid meeting these people is to understand their behaviour and their personlity. The most tellings of which are his non-responses per OP's frustration.
Author syw0806 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Gosh you guys are cynical! He could be doing something as simple as waiting to hear from a friend if he's coming into town this weekend so he could reply to you and say this weekend or next weekend.... I'm just saying....it's been like 18 hours???? I know I figured It's been not even 24 hrs and I'm being paranoid or something. I'd do the same thing if I wasn't sure which day will be the best for me when somebody asked me out. and like you said, it's been only a day so we'll see What other people said are true too. He's not really serious about it since he's leaving me wondering..haha or better one's come along or he just lost interest ugh so many cases!! you all are right! thanks guys.
Talak7 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 We are not putting guns to people's heads but it is sane to be cautious over who you are meeting with. Also, people on online dating sites like to waste time and play games; the best way to avoid meeting these people is to understand their behaviour and their personlity. The most tellings of which are his non-responses per OP's frustration. No you're just explaining what the gun does, how to use it, and then giving them it. Not responding in less than a day is reasonable. I'd say give everyone a chance to explain themselves and then decide if that explanation is reasonable.... If it's more than once or twice over an extended period, then forget it. But don't act like life events, emergencies, or other things just DONT happen. Just like if your kid is missing....you have to wait a certain amount of time before it's reasonable to make ANY sort of judgement call
yongyong Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Most guys don't get replies that often on OLD. So he lowered his standard for a moment but he just couldn't do it. Do you get hit on by guys like that in real life?
ImHereImThere Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 He probably didn't feel confident enough to meet in person a lot of people back out mostly because they feel they won't be liked in person.
Talak7 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 He probably didn't feel confident enough to meet in person a lot of people back out mostly because they feel they won't be liked in person. I done this on online dating. And then I met up with the same girl a week later. I have also had THINGS HAPPEN IN THE REAL WORLD outside of the "im lonely and desperately sitting next to my communication devices waiting for your call" world.
Author syw0806 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 He probably didn't feel confident enough to meet in person a lot of people back out mostly because they feel they won't be liked in person. I see what you mean. I kinda say to myself too that I want to lose little more weight and wait little longer for better weather (it's damn cold where I live now) before i see someone lol but he looks he's a pretty much successful good looking guy tho by his profile.. the thing is why would he mention about 'date' if hes not ready or whatever reason. isn't it weird..
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 (edited) Sheesh! I was hoping for a good kidnapping. False alarm I see... 18 hours??? Oh, come on people! All this speculation is sheer lunacy. Who knows what's happening on his end? Frankly who cares when they haven't even met each other. OP, he'll either contact you or not. Either way, you're on a dating site. Communicate with others. You aren't betrothed to him. You haven't even gone on a date yet! Keep communicating until someone actually arranges a date with you. The rest is unnecessary spinning of wheels and pointless hand wringing over random profiles...aided and abetted by the very good folks here! Edited February 1, 2013 by Cutiepie1976
yongyong Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 See I guessed that. So you and he know he is better looking than you. (don't say 'but I am awesome' why should he care and how does he know by looking at the profile) Like I said, guys don't send out messages just to their dream girls. then it would be just few girls on the site. They will send out to the hot girls they can't get, girls they find attractive, girls they find somewhat attractive, girls they don't find attractive but maybe etc. Sometimes, I get good amount of replies and sometimes I don't get at all. In the past, I was getting no replies. so I even sent emails to the girl I didn't like at all. we txted and set up the date. on the same day, I backed out because I felt it was a shame on my family heritage. I am sure she would understand since a guy like me wouldn't want to be seen with a girl like that in a public place. You don't have to feel bad. this happens all the time to guys. 'I thought she liked me oh well she is really hot so that's understandable' Another note. Guys always strive for better looking partner. If this better looking guy contacted you on OLD or talked to you at a bar, you should raise your guard. I see what you mean. I kinda say to myself too that I want to lose little more weight and wait little longer for better weather (it's damn cold where I live now) before i see someone lol but he looks he's a pretty much successful good looking guy tho by his profile.. the thing is why would he mention about 'date' if hes not ready or whatever reason. isn't it weird..
Author syw0806 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Thanks everyone! I went on the site again, it says he was online an hour ago. I guess the case is closed...he's just not that into me lol ughyughy It's his loss! lol thanks again guys.
Author syw0806 Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 guys here's a quick update! He emailed me yesterday asked me to text him. one thing weird, we haven't exchanged our name... is this a big red flag? I mean usually guys I've talked, they always asked me first my name, and we had little get to know chat..but this guy, he kinda right away asked me out. Is this a bad sign? should I ask his name when I email him back ask for his number? or giving him my number.. (he didn't give me his number, just sayin he can do it next week so text him..I know without his # lol)
ltjg45 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Maybe he was just fishing several girls at once, found someone he likes better. Who knows, move on to someone else, surely there are more guys on the site. Stop making excuses. If he was interested in the OP, he would have made it a priority to set up the date. He didn't so either he was fishing, lost interest, or just wanted a one-night stand.
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Why do you care so much? Play date = let's f... There are many others online that will offer you that.
2sunny Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 The old guys that did that with me were married. Just saying...
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