kevolution Posted August 26, 2004 Posted August 26, 2004 ok....me and this girl (i'll call her Q) have been on and off with each other for about 3 years.....everytime things don't work out between us...one of us ends up getting hurt...it seems that whenever we DO like each other...it's bad timing. Anyway, we've become close again this summer...and things were going great....but i was really scared of getting hurt again..and i was unsure of how she felt about me...so instead of just straight-up asking her....i made a stupid move and told her "i just wanted to be friends." However, right when i said that, i immidiately regretted it...but it was already too late to take it back. I didn't know this at the time...but i ended up breaking her heart..cause she DID like me. But things didn't end there....we DID stay friends....but we secretly hid our feelings for each other. The more we hung out...the more we liked each other....but from her perspective, i only wanted to be "friends" so she was confused. Like i TRIED to show her that i wanted to be more than friends.....but she took it like i was giving her mixed signals....cause she still thought i wanted to be "just friends." So after about a month of this...i decided it was time to tell her everything....like i wanted things to be different this time...i wanted to be together with her. So yeah, i told her how i felt...and how i pretty much lied about wanting to be "just friends" with her b/c i was scared of rejection. She took this really hard cause she REALLY likes me a lot...and i broke her heart...and the whole summer she's been trying to deny her feelings for me and move on......and now i'm coming to her, telling her i never meant any of it. Now, i told her i want to be with her and that i really mean it this time....but she think that i'm gonna end up hurting her again. And because school's starting soon, it'll be hard to have a relationship...like spend a lot of time together. So...my problem is....what do i do??? We both know we like each other....but we're not doing anything about it....to me, that hurts 10X more than being together and it not working out. So like...i'm stumped...what should i do? Just stay friends? Take things slowly? Stop talking to her altogether and move on? Like...i dunno. Help guys!
dreaday86 Posted August 28, 2004 Posted August 28, 2004 I was on an off with my ex bf for 3 years also and alot of feelings come there but we can't become friends at all we hate each other...I don't know if this is gonna help or not but I would tell all of your feelings that you have for her and apoligzie and say you realize you made an mistake. When you get your feelings out it feels a hell of alot better irealize this now cause the last guy i dated i was too shy to get out things cause im scared of rejection so i started assuming things and it turned for the worst but im currently in love with my new guy now because i can tell him everything...but then after u get your feelings out see what she says ask her does she want to stay friends or do you wanna take it up a notch or stay friends and see what happens.. i hope you find what's best for you remember to let your heart lead and you follow this time and get passed the rejection good luck!!! hope i helped buh bye
rach2354 Posted August 29, 2004 Posted August 29, 2004 Tell her the truth and nothing but the truth. When in doubt, say what you feel! The key to a successful relationship is communication. There's nothing a girl dislikes more than a man who can't open up to her. Good luck, trust yourself and trust that the truth is the only way to go...be honest!!!
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