irc333 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 .....all her male friends are trying to date her. lol Ever been a woman, and had experienced this issue. She's getting so discouraged about her friendships, she's perferring the company of women, over men. She said recently, some long time male friend has been getting a little TOO chummy with her when hugging her hello, esp, in front of other friends. He holds her a little too close for a little too long, and it makes her uncomfortable. Women, ever had to seriously tell male friends to constantly keep the flirting and hands to their selvs?
Mr_Flay Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Awww, she's desirable to so many guys who just want to love her and cuddle her? Sucks to be her, I guess...
Author irc333 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Awww, she's desirable to so many guys who just want to love her and cuddle her? Sucks to be her, I guess... Yeah, apparently the guys who have shown interest in dating her, she has no interest in dating. She actually had a short-term LDR with someone she met online since her break up but that's it. She said most of the guys that are interested in her are overweight or too old...or both. LOL
Treasa Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Yes, absolutely. For a long time my balance was off because 95% of my friends were male, due to the hobbies and interests I have. Unfortunately, most of them would flirt with me, and (at the time) I would flirt back, not because I wanted to, but because I didn't want to lose the friends I had. Then I started really focusing on making female friends, and I've found that I don't feel that same pressure to make my male friends "happy" anymore by flirting with them. The flirting has stopped, I've found out who my true male friends are, and now my friendships are about 50% male, 50% female, and I feel SO much more balanced and happy.
AMusing Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 OP, I totally get where your lady friend is coming from. Like Treasa, I used to have a lot of male friends due to my "unladylike" hobbies. Unlike her, though, I tried so hard to be thought of as "one of the guys," or "like a sister" to them. Never acted flirtatiously, avoided touching them unnecessarily, always introduced them to my boyfriends, etc. Of course it didn't work... all but one single male friend tried to push for something more at least once; most wouldn't let it go until I stopped hanging out with them. It was disappointing & frustrating (Wait, you were pretending to be my friend to sleep with me?). I know, I know, I know a lot of posters say men are only friends with women they want to sleep with. I still don't think that's always true, but it's true frequently enough that having a bunch of male friends becomes a hassle. Telling "friends" to keep their hands to themselves, or reminding them that I'm not interested, gets old really fast. Anyway, a few years ago I started consciously focusing on building friendships only with women. I kept my friendships with a few guys, and am friends with some couples, but the majority of my friends are women now. It feels so much more natural and free of drama.
chrisftw Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 (edited) a woman should have mostly female friends for this fact alone. men and women can't just be friends unless one of them is gay. then its possible but even then sometimes its not possible. you can't help who you like. in a perfect world. if a woman 'friends' you she has a strong interest in something more. but instead its just mind fu*k after mind fu*k. or as many women in this thread had stated. they have to remind their 'friends' to stop touching them and keep their distance. well why are you even friends with them in the first place then? Edited February 1, 2013 by chrisftw
Samilia Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I have female friends, then I have male acquaintances. I find it rare for two people of the opposite sex to be just friends. I can't say it never happens, I just don't want to put myself in an uncomfortable position.
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