Jingle14 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I dread days like this, blue skies and sunny, makes me feel so much worse as it reminds me of walking hand in hand and being together. I just wish it would rain. Sunny weather at weekend, as is forecast for tomorrow here, is even worse as I imagine he will be doing with this bitch who replaced me - and is so much more preferable to me, evidently, seeing as he chooses to be with her and not me! - what we did. I used to love the seasons and would be up and out when the weather was like this, not any more. I've tried to do that, go out, get in the car and go for country walks but it makes me feel very much worse. That bastard has taken my joy away without knowing or caring and I'm trying so hard to claw it back. Not easy though.
Amelie1980 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I know the feeling....on days like this I would get a text saying "beautiful day, like you' It makes me so sad.
Author Jingle14 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 I know the feeling....on days like this I would get a text saying "beautiful day, like you' It makes me so sad. That is sad, very bittersweet. How awful we remember so clearly those things and how we felt to receive them. Wonder if they do, doubt it though. You have my sympathy.
alex1 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 You are probably thinking of the slang expression "copping a feel." That just means that one person is touching another inappropriately or without permission.
BUBS Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 I have the same issue...the nicest days, which used to bring a vibrant and inspirational boost to my mood really hinder me the most reflecting on all of the wonderful memories and all of the things i "could" be doing with him that he has chosen to do with my replacement instead. As you establish more memories on nice days with other people i assume this feeling will dull...though i cant say i wont ever be bombarded thinking about our days at the river or going on adventures, i know the only option i have is to know thar one day ill make new memories and hope that the universe er whatever delivers ones that far surpass the ones i have with him. Its a longshot... But dont give up on hope for yourself. Its not easy being rejected or replaced, but its a lot harder when you let it define you. 1
ophelian dreams Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 If he replaced you, he wasn't able to appreciate you the way you deserve it. Don't let someone who did that ruin the good things this world has to offer for you - like the weather. I know it's hard though. I was lead on and eventually dumped for another girl, who is shallow, not really intelligent and has some questionable views in life. I don't know what happened to him to choose such a person over me.. But I'm working on myself to not give the negativity a chance to consume me. It's too exhausting. You're good without him. Just imagine the sun is shining for you. :-) 1
Debbie2508 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Hi Jingle,just read your story and its remarkably similar to mine. Our ages,spiteful ex manipulating the children,being madly in love with each other,after never expecting to find "the one"....and the way you're feeling now,desperate to hate him,but can't. Hope we can both manage to move on eventually and find someone better (not that either of us actually believe there is anyone better )
Author Jingle14 Posted February 7, 2013 Author Posted February 7, 2013 Hi Jingle,just read your story and its remarkably similar to mine. Our ages,spiteful ex manipulating the children,being madly in love with each other,after never expecting to find "the one"....and the way you're feeling now,desperate to hate him,but can't. Hope we can both manage to move on eventually and find someone better (not that either of us actually believe there is anyone better ) Wow, really? You think you're the only one, don't you, especially when you get people who are far younger who say 'oh, you'll find someone else'. How's that then - even if I wanted to (I don't) it took me till the age of 45 to meet 'the one' (as harsh as it sounds, and as good a man as my ex husband is, I never felt for him what I felt for this man, and he also said the same about me) so what are the chances of it happening again? You have hit the nail on the head, desperate to hate him but cant. How very, very true. PM me when you've been on here long enough to (I think it's a month). We may be able to swap stories which might be of some help to us.
Debbie2508 Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 Thanks will look into the PM thing.... must have been on here nearly a month, as BU will be 5 weeks tomorrow 1
Mavrick009 Posted February 10, 2013 Posted February 10, 2013 Just wanted to say, I can empathize, and that guys go through this too. With the Nor'Easter Nemo in the NE U.S. right now, and great weather where I'm currently living, it just made me feel sh*ttier guessing that the girl is frolicking on the beach, or laying out by the pool, with her not-so-new boyfriend laughing and playing all-the-while. I'm trying not to be jealous or bitter about the situation, but knowing that the NSN-BF and I share more than a few similarities seems to wreck havoc on my psyche at some inopportune times.
hopefullove Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 i feel the same way. i think it has to do with the highs of your relationship. with my first love. we got together in april, fell in love in in may, june, best times were in the summer. so for the next few years, whenever that time of year hit, sunshine... i felt it the most.... I was in love with him for years til i met my next love. my last love. we got together around now. jan-feb. so whenever it is snowy and dark and cold, i think of him, because that is when we fell in love. I dont know when I will be over him. But i have done it once, so i can do it again, i mean, move on... it will take time.
Zammo25 Posted February 11, 2013 Posted February 11, 2013 I remember with my ex clearly walking over the Downs on a sunny day and stopping and just hugging and kissing in the sunlight as if the World was of no importance and kissing in a cafe with people looking on. Totally in love but we did not care. Those were happy days.
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