Wanting to ask a girl out for coffee, wondering how to pull it off.

[Emissary]

I work in the Tim Hortons in our local mall, there are several girls I serve on a regular basis that I'm interested in. Though, I find it difficult to actually make any sort of move on them as there's almost always somebody within earshot. I mean, everybody at work knows I flirt with the girls a lot, but I hardly want to involve anybody but me and whichever girl I'm considering.

 

There's one in particular I've been very interested in for the last eight months, though several factors prevented me from doing anything about it. The primary issue being how far away she lives from me, and secondly these days she always seems to come at times where I don't have much chance to chat with her.

 

I'm usually off on Thursdays, but I worked this one, she came in at a dead period and we had a nice little chat for 3-5 minutes. She actually mentioned that she's moved out and now lives downtown which is much much closer to me than when she lives on the outskirts of town. It went pretty well, I almost thought to attempt to seal the deal by asking her for coffee, but a couple co-workers decided to start chilling a few feet from me.

 

I didn't want to lose the momentum, so I went to her store after work to see her again. I managed to find her and chat with her again, it was a little awkward for me because it didn't go as planned. She's typically got so many co-workers working around her, it's intimidating trying to ask anything personal.

 

Does anybody have any experience with this sort of situation? She told me she works tomorrow until nine (closing time at the mall). I have the day off, I'm thinking of coming in around 8 or even later and just going for it. I usually build up to my propositions, but maybe I should cut right to the chase.

 

"Hey it's me again, listen, I'm probably going to make a fool of myself here, but would you be interested in joining me for coffee later this week?"

 

I dunno.

 

EDIT:

 

It's also worth noting that before I went to her store I bought a razor to touch himself up and I slashed my ear, something I've never managed to do before. I stood in our washroom trying to stop the bleeding for half an hour, maybe that was a sign the attempt was doomed from the start. Also no, I didn't go see her covered in blood, I got it patched up in the end lol.

Edited February 1, 2013 by Emissary

[harnold]

Lol by saying "I'm probably gonna make a fool of myself" you are indeed, making a fool of yourself. It shows tremendous insecurity and basically says you are already expecting her to turn youn down. Why would a girl be attracted to that kinda pessimism?

 

Don't ask her if she's interested. Tell her you want to take her out, if you wanna go that route. It all depends on your personality too, the way id ask a girl out differs from the way you would

[harnold]

Maybe for your personality.. Strike up a small conversation. Keep it brief but good (be flirty, funny)... DO NOT RAMBLE AIMLESSLY. End the conversation on your terms and on a high note (like as she laughs at a good joke of yours). Then a simple:

 

"What time you get out today? Lets get a coffee afterwards"

 

Simple

[Phoe]

agreed, nix the "i'm gonna make a fool of myself" bit - it almost makes it seem like you're trying to gain her sympathy.

 

Just tell her you'd like to take her out sometime, and get to know her better.

[TaraMaiden]

I wouldn't pull it off, you might need it later.