jbrown34 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Hi, new here. I was wondering, is it weird or wrong of me to not like to hang out with someone my girlfriend has previously hooked up with? They are just friends now and rarely talk. I trust her completely but I just feel uncomfortable in the situation. any comments or advice are appreciated.
its a lifestyle Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 They are "just friends"... Yeah, that's what you think. When will most guys stop being so gullible and naive... Women can be devious little witches, Never trust a women by her WORDS... Observe her ACTIONS, In your case she's "friends" with somebody shes had sex with... That's not cool in my world, and clearly not cool in yours either... Tell her she's not his friend anymore, she should understand... you're her man and you're not comfortable with it, she shouldn't want you to be feeling like that, and she will do as you ask in the same way you would for her... in an ideal world. But, if she argues - dump her, tell her to go and **** him again, because you're off to find a better girl with a bit more respect and common sense. Some people like to call this "controlling", but it's not... you're not forcing her to do anything, you're simply airing out a stink in the relationship...
pbjbear Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Im sorry I gotta disagree As long as shes being honest, not acting shady and the relationship is good...let it go. If shes being dishonest and acting weird thats different Really, no guy would ever put up with me saying "you cant hang around women youve hooked up with" casual sex is common nowadays you just gotta deal...
pbjbear Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 If my girl thinks she can hang around with guys shes been banged by... she'll get thrown in the trash quicker than sour milk. Men are huge hypocrites. Every single guy who tried to control me was one and didnt practice what they told me I couldnt do. I dont deal with hypocrites Insecurity like this is very unattractive.
its a lifestyle Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 (edited) control Insecurity There it is, that was quick... It's not control, it's solving an issue which is triggering negative emotions for somebody in the relationship... which should be 576545 Trillion Zillion Kadillion times more important than a mediocre friendship with some guy she ****ed. It's not insecurity, he genuinely feels uncomfortable AND ABSOLUTELY SICKENING REPULSED by the thought of his girls lips sliding up and down her friends cock... it's that simple, it's not some kind of "physcological emotional insecurity rooted deep down within his phyche"... no, it's a natural feeling of disgust knowing that guy has blasted his girl from all over a hotel room.. or wherever it happened, AND SHE STILL HANGS OUT WITH HIM<--the problem. It can be fixed if she cuts ties with the guy... If she refuses it shows that she was never a 'keeper anyway so bang her one last time before you show her where the door is. Edited February 1, 2013 by its a lifestyle
pbjbear Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 (edited) It can be fixed if she cuts ties with the guy... If she refuses it shows that she was never a 'keeper anyway so bang her one last time before you show her where the door is. You sound like a real winner and a real asset to a woman. Someone who uses someone like that is not someone who I would take advice from seriously. Perhaps when you stop viewing women as sexual objects they will treat you better and respect you more Edited February 1, 2013 by pbjbear
D-Lish Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 The older you get, the more you'll find that many social groups can be a little incestuous- especially by the time you've got a big social circle that has aged together socially while gaining more friends along the way. More often than not, as the circle ages together, dating histories and hook ups accumulate. I've had a close knit social group that goes back to University- and before I came along, the group had been closely knit since high school. I entered the group through a female friend, but I was dating my boyfriend that became my husband- so I didn't have a romantic history with any of the males in the group. After my divorce, I met a fringe friend of the social group and we dated for almost a year. He'd also dated a couple of the girls along the way. It didn't bother me at all, didn't make me feel insecure in the least bit. It's years later now yet again and he's married with child on the way with a new girl and she is now a pat of the circle. It may seem like a strange convoluted mess, but when things occur over a couple of decades, it's not as strange and scandalous as it may sound hearing it explained in a few paragraphs.
its a lifestyle Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 No, what I bolded from your post shows YOU dont respect women. Stop generalizing... If a women earns my respect, she will be respected. If she earns my disrespect, she will be disrespected. Thinking its ay'ok for her to be hanging out with guys she's ****ed, knowing I'm not cool with it, and refusing to stop it, while we're in a relationship... earns my disrespect, 1 last angry sex session before I surprise her by showing her where the door is and telling her to not let it hit her on the way out.
pbjbear Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Stop generalizing... If a women earns my respect, she will be respected. If she earns my disrespect, she will be disrespected. Thinking its ay'ok for her to be hanging out with guys she's ****ed, knowing I'm not cool with it, and refusing to stop it, while we're in a relationship... earns my disrespect, 1 last angry sex session before I surprise her by showing her where the door is and telling her to not let it hit her on the way out. I agree with you on the respect part. I know some women are crappy. But purposefully screwing someone to throw them away and hurt them in that fashion makes you seem like a not so nice person. You seem vindictive and thats not attractive. If a woman did something like that to a guy who didnt treat her well you would be posting mean stuff about her...
KungFuJoe Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 it's a lifestyle, Have you ever been in a situation where a girl you were with was hanging out with an ex **** buddy or someone she hooked up with? Just wondering...
Samilia Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Hi, new here. I was wondering, is it weird or wrong of me to not like to hang out with someone my girlfriend has previously hooked up with? They are just friends now and rarely talk. I trust her completely but I just feel uncomfortable in the situation. any comments or advice are appreciated. Hell yes that would bother me...
pbjbear Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Stop generalizing... If a women earns my respect, she will be respected. If she earns my disrespect, she will be disrespected. Thinking its ay'ok for her to be hanging out with guys she's ****ed, knowing I'm not cool with it, and refusing to stop it, while we're in a relationship... earns my disrespect, 1 last angry sex session before I surprise her by showing her where the door is and telling her to not let it hit her on the way out. Your comment does make you seem disrespectful. Its not generalizing. A respectful guy wouldnt make such a comment and use a girl for sex one last time and would just walk away
its a lifestyle Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 it's a lifestyle, Have you ever been in a situation where a girl you were with was hanging out with an ex **** buddy or someone she hooked up with? Just wondering... No Joe, that would be impossible... I'm selective, when I'm with a girl we're a team, it's me and her vs the world... she'll instinctivly know that kind of **** is a nono, and she'll have no desire to do it anyway, and if she does then she'll quickly change it for our relationship... Any girl who contradicts this has no potential of becoming my "exclusive, committed, loved" girffriend.
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