napy666 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 My friend has been seeing this guy since Thanksgiving 2012. She goes and tells me that as much as she wants him and her to be boyfriend and girlfriend, this guy is not looking for a relationship right now, since he got out of a relationship himself a few months ago that was pretty bad that he doesn't want to jump into a new one. BUT he is looking for friends with benefits. So my friend goes and says well its been months since I've had sex so I'm just going to go with what he wants, as far as friends with benefits go and do that. So him and her have had sex a few times now. And they are "best friends forever" she NEVER wants to loose his friendship ever. Becuz she thinks they will eventually become a couple. She DOES NOT consider him her boyfriend, YET. Now she is telling me that this guy wants to go to Palm Springs this spring time or summer time and he will pay $200-300 for the room etc. And she said she will bring $500 to pay for the food, and other things. To me this guy seems controlling becuz he's told her how to dress, how to look, what he wants, likes, etc. And she's just going right along with it. I know she's going to get really hurt in the end. And to me hearing that she's willing to go on this trip and spend $500 bucks on a guy who isn't even her boyfriend officially is just insane. If I had that $500 bucks I would use it for a new iPhone or a new laptop or even a new car. Not a guy haha. What to do about this?
D-Lish Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 If I had that $500 bucks I would use it for a new iPhone or a new laptop or even a new car. Not a guy haha. What to do about this? I'm not sure why you think you should do anything about this. She's a big girl, it's her life and her choice how to live it. Being a good friend isn't about being judgemental. I think you can tell her to be careful- but beyond that, let he make her choices on her own.
Lani Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 You seem to have a lot of friends with dating troubles... Have you posted this one before? Anyway... This relationship (whatever capacity it is) is bound to fail. If she wants to go away with this guy, then let her. There isn't really anything you can do about it. But it definitely sounds like she wants more out of this than he does. And if he's being controlling and they're not even together, then it's never going to end well.
Author napy666 Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Oh well just gota wait and see how it ends.
Imported Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 OMG, the guy expressed what he likes and your friend was all in for pleasing him? OP, you must step in right now and stop the shenanigans. And a holiday having fun with someone you like is a great way to spend $500.
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