McDonald Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 So its been about 4 weeks since the BU and about two weeks of NC shes already posted pictures of her and this new guy that she broke up with me for kissing on FB and now the are FB official. I know... sounds childish... sounds like I should have took her off FB.... I jsut cant figure out my emotions. Her being my first friend here in college last year its hard to see the friendship completely go.. maybe thats why im still holding on. It just seems so difficult.. how can someone jsut move on that fast... how can someone way our 8 months together aganst 3 weekends with another guy... and chose that. it just sucks... ive made so many investments in our relationship, and I feel used.. How do I get over the "friendship part". Im trying to figure out who I am, but I lsot my sense of individuality.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 So its been about 4 weeks since the BU and about two weeks of NC shes already posted pictures of her and this new guy that she broke up with me for kissing on FB and now the are FB official. I know... sounds childish... sounds like I should have took her off FB.... I jsut cant figure out my emotions. Her being my first friend here in college last year its hard to see the friendship completely go.. maybe thats why im still holding on. It just seems so difficult.. how can someone jsut move on that fast... how can someone way our 8 months together aganst 3 weekends with another guy... and chose that. it just sucks... ive made so many investments in our relationship, and I feel used.. How do I get over the "friendship part". Im trying to figure out who I am, but I lsot my sense of individuality. Not unusual for someone in your position to feel like this. Been there, felt that. That quickly means two things: 1. She was talking to him while with you and made the easy transition 2. Rebound. Either way, the FIRST thing you have to do is delete her from Facebook. It's all self pain....easier said than done obviously, but you have to. Thats your first move....you are way too emotionally invested currently and you do NOT want to be friends right now. Would you be okay if she told she was having sex with the new guy? I know I wouldn't....thats what friends do. Finally, you have to keep NC and keep rolling. Two weeks is good!! Keep moving forward. It's defiantly not easy (if it were, this section of LS would not exist).
Indio Negrito Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 You're actually in a good place bro. Learning where you'll stand during an emotional crises builds true character and value. Though she may have not been into you as much as you were into her - the validation you needed to know she wasnt the one is obvious. You just now need to go through these emotions to get her out of your system as it was never you dude. It sucks you had to find out like this. Focus on taking yourself to the next level in all aspects. This was a chapter in your life as part of a bigger story! Keep it real. Stay real.
Author McDonald Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 Thanks everyone. People are saying that she checke out long before. But the weird thing is three days before she told me she was talking to another guy, she bought plane tickets to visit me and told her friends how excited she was to see me over winter break... So idk. She just held on to me after it as well. Saying she hopes it will pass and we can get back together. Then she does this... I'm pretty much over the break up. What I'm having trouble with is now figuring out who I am. I tried to go to a party last night but I had no motivation to do anything when I got there. And this is what's huring me the most right now. I change to be with her (she didnt like partying or me going out.. But now she does with this other guy) and left me and now I feel stuck. I want to get back out there, but I just get too nervous and anxious now and idk feel sick Etc. I jut more angry at myself for not being able to have fun. Also, her birthday is in a week. WTF am I supposed to do
Samilia Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 So its been about 4 weeks since the BU and about two weeks of NC shes already posted pictures of her and this new guy that she broke up with me for kissing on FB and now the are FB official. I know... sounds childish... sounds like I should have took her off FB.... I jsut cant figure out my emotions. Her being my first friend here in college last year its hard to see the friendship completely go.. maybe thats why im still holding on. It just seems so difficult.. how can someone jsut move on that fast... how can someone way our 8 months together aganst 3 weekends with another guy... and chose that. it just sucks... ive made so many investments in our relationship, and I feel used.. How do I get over the "friendship part". Im trying to figure out who I am, but I lsot my sense of individuality. For one, she's the dumper, she has the upper hand emotionally. Second, she started getting rid of you, emotionally again, before the actual break up. Basically, she's ahead of you.
Author McDonald Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 For one, she's the dumper, she has the upper hand emotionally. Second, she started getting rid of you, emotionally again, before the actual break up. Basically, she's ahead of you. That may be half true. She bought tickets to visit me without really even asking. Then she tells me she was talking to someone else a few days later. I don't know what her problem is. But it just hurts. Getting through it though. I just never had to kick someone out of my life.
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