sharkbite Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 so heartbroken, how does someone say "i love you" and the relationship ends 2 months later?
Samilia Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 so heartbroken, how does someone say "i love you" and the relationship ends 2 months later? People say "I love you" way too lightly, way too soon. They should think twice. 1
TrueAwareness Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I think that we tend to believe that because something works just fine one day, it wont stop working the next. Relationships and "love" are just like having a car that breaks down. Usually people say "but it was fine yesterday, what happened?".Same goes for relationships. And yes, some people have no idea what love is. The true main component of love is to fight hard for your partner and solve your issues. As long as there is no horrible betrayal involved. There is no excuse to bail out. Unless you never really loved that person at all. 3
Author sharkbite Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 i agree with that but it took her 7 months to say it, i said it at 4 months and put no pressure on her. I admit to getting up and out at that point but even after it happened all she would say is I'm so sorry for everything I know i hurt you and I have accepted that.......she never said anything that was like "lets talk" or "this can't be the end" or "i want to work things out" the only thing she said was "have fun at the game" and "i know we are still facebook friends and i just want to let you know i would never post anything hurtful or disrespectful"........like w.t.f.? thats what happens after you say you "love" someone? no fight for the relationship, because towards the end i said maybe we should still be together but not have the intimacy and leave the romance on the side for the moment and she agreed and then wrote back a couple paragraphs and in the middle at some point said "i just don't want you to hate me if we end up being just friends" and after that i said to myself its over, she just checked out and she knows its going to end as "just friends" sorry for the long, unorganized story but I really fell for this one and thought we had a bright future so now when i hear "i love you".....is it going to mean anything? I sure as hell won't be the first to say it ever again
TrueAwareness Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Well, i actually meant the two of you. But i'm 32. I was just wondering because in my opinion age plays a huge factor in relationships.
Author sharkbite Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 she is 3 years older than me. any input with the new information? haha I'm looking for the answers that will never be truly all figured out. I'm very interested in everyones thoughts on the topic that I am apparently clueless on
TrueAwareness Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 To be honest with you, anything below 2 years is too little in my opinion to really create a strong bond. Unless you went throught a lot of problems together in those 8 months. And i mean problems unrelated to the relationship. And you took care of eachother in the bad times etc. But 8 months of regular BF and GF issues is certainly not enough time for a relationship in my opinion. This comes from someone who just ended a 7 year relationship in december. But i dont know your story at all. Maybe some extra input would help people give you a better opinion. 1
cdt76 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 8 months is enough time to fall completely mad about someone. It's enough time to make plans for the future and consider a life together. It's enough time to give your heart over to someone else you think you trust. It's also enough time to figure out the crazy in the other person. Shark, I'm right with you man. Same thing happened to me. No fight or struggle in her regarding the relationship. Friends.....BS. You're left wondering how she can be so flippant about the relationship you loved. How she can just up and leave, no questions asked. How? And no. You will never get a clear understanding of her side. You will never have the closure you need to heal the hurt. I suffer from this as well. I want her back and her comfort and love and any contact now brings false hope. I'm not strong enough yet to go no contact, though she seems very good at it. You have to figure out a way to NOT think about the past. To only think about the future. It's so hard to do but it will help you move on from her. I hate that thought myself but what other choice do we have? 1
Author sharkbite Posted May 10, 2013 Author Posted May 10, 2013 Your right cdt and false hope would keep me lingering forever
BustedUpInside Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 To be honest with you, anything below 2 years is too little in my opinion to really create a strong bond. I really agree with this. I think it takes at least that much time to really get to know a person and even then there are still plenty of times when they can surprise the hell out of you.
Giha Posted May 10, 2013 Posted May 10, 2013 Ex told me she loved me deeply in the most sincere voice I've ever heard and then broke up with me two days later. We had the perfect relationship I had always yearned for. I'm still confused and have no freaking idea what the hell happened. I went no contact straight away and never tried to beg for her to take me back. I feel your pain man. Take care and give yourself time to grieve. But try to get out there and live, and remember that if you need to break down at night that's ok too.
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