Imported Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Sometimes I just really have to play solitaire.
Author Beachbabe9109 Posted February 6, 2013 Author Posted February 6, 2013 I've decided I'm going to talk to him about this. Should I talk to him about it in person, or is over the phone ok? I might not be able to see him until Saturday. Just the thing is, if I talk to him about it in person, he'll be more empathetic, he'll hold me and upset he hurt me, etc. If I tell him over the phone, I don't know if he'd be annoyed, maybe because he can't actually see how hurt and upset I am over it. But I don't know, I kinda want to talk to him about it before Saturday, I don't want to wait that long because it is really bothering me.
Els Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Why can't you just meet up once before Saturday? You don't live far away, just drop by for like an hour and talk. Serious conversations should be reserved solely for IRL, unless you really have no choice (LDR, etc). Too easy to misread without body language.
Author Beachbabe9109 Posted February 6, 2013 Author Posted February 6, 2013 Why can't you just meet up once before Saturday? You don't live far away, just drop by for like an hour and talk. Serious conversations should be reserved solely for IRL, unless you really have no choice (LDR, etc). Too easy to misread without body language. we live an hour away. He doesn't have a day off until Saturday and his job is one of those where he can get off at 3pm or at 11pm...depends. So I might not be able to. But I guess I can wait until Saturday then. I am just really upset.
Els Posted February 6, 2013 Posted February 6, 2013 Eh, personally, I'd wait for Saturday. But I gotta tell you, I'm liking the sound of your R's direction less and less, OP.
strawberryshortstack Posted February 7, 2013 Posted February 7, 2013 I don't know what game it is. It's some new computer game. The thing that also bothers me is that when I called him, he was acting so weird and I asked him about it and he said, "nothing, I'm just half listening and talking" so I'm like, ................ok.... Then I am trying to talk about the doctor and when he's talking to me about it I can tell he's 90% focused on something else, then just tries to hang up as fast as possible. And then when I brought it up on facebook, he got mad at me. Saying he was 'busy tonight' but still likes talking. I think in this situation, I should be the mad one. Should I talk to him about this? If so, what do I say? you called him, while he was already in the middle of something. You can't expect him to just drop everything simply because you called. My boyfriend is a gamer. I'm a gamer on hiatus (I'm a full-time college student, I just don't have the time anymore, but I WILL get back to it), so I certainly understand the situation from his side. It's why I was happy to find a guy who also plays video games. When we are together on the weekends, he will occasionally play, and I'll either watch a movie or do homework. During the week when we are not together, I ask him to call me, but leave the timing up to him, so he can either choose to call me while he's still on a mission, and he lets me know so that I understand why he may seem distracted, or he can choose to wait until he's finished and then call so he can focus on me. Either way, since my life does not revolve around him, I'm happy. Maybe you could try just asking him to call you and let him choose the timing (within reason, obviously), and see if things improve. As for the doctor's appointment concern, I would suggest talking to him about it in a non-accusatory manner, in person.
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