Butterflying Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I'm dating a guy for a few months now. We have a long distant relationship but its not serious. He's following me on every social network I'm active with. I have a celebrity Facebook page. It's the only one he is subscribed to. He has pictures of us posted on his personal page like we're a couple. He even changed his status to in a relationship. We meet at a convention so I know he's a real person. Lol (no catfish). However, he only communicates with me via text or email. Today is my birthday. He sent me a text at midnight to be the first person to wish me greetings. Later this evening I sent a text to ask when we can speak over the phone. I'd like to discuss some changes I'm making with my career. His response: "Unfortunately not right now. But I'll check in with you soon & arrange for us to speak over the phone." Does this seem strange? I'm concerned because I've never dated a guy that I have to make an appointment to simply call. What do you think?
Author Butterflying Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 By the way, he's not a celebrity. His job is a 9 to 5 in the financial industry. In fact my schedule is busier than his. But if he calls me, I can answer anytime or at least return the call within a reasonable time.
2sure Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Married or living with someone. Or in a meeting.
Author Butterflying Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 If he was in a meeting why didn't he say that? He could at least tell me when soon is. The last time we had a long email conversation, he ended it by saying he was getting into the shower and would be right back. I stayed logged on for a few hours waiting for him to return. I Didn't hear from him again until a few days later. He texted to say hello & see how I'm doing.
Author Butterflying Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Why would he have pictures of us together on romantic dates publicly on Facebook?
GildedLily Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 He's definitely dating someone or living with someone, try calling him on the weekend he won't pick up.
carhill Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Entertaining the interest of local gentlemen would be my advice. As you stated, it's not 'serious' with this person and it's long distance. I wouldn't be 'concerned'.
Author Butterflying Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 I've called him before. Weekend, early morning, late night, mid-day. He NEVER answers. My timing is always bad. But he'll usually text to ask what's up. The few times we've spoken on the phone he called me spontaneously. Once I was at work but called back 15 mins later. No answer. But he texted to say he was only saying "Hi."
anne1707 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Have you ever been to his home? Or met friends of his?
Author Butterflying Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Have you ever been to his home? Or met friends of his? Yes. I've met his friends & parents. I've been to his house. It doesn't appear that anyone else lives there. I know he is divorced. The wife is long gone.
FitChick Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 He's seeing more than one woman and needs to keep everyone organized. If you like him there is nothing wrong with making a phone date. I do that when I date long distance, generally because of the time difference. I don't want to hang around the house waiting for the phone to ring nor be interrupted in the middle of something when I can't talk. Right before he calls, I make a cup of tea, maybe jot down a couple things I want to ask him about or discuss and then relax and enjoy a long conversation.
babycrapgreen Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Yea, scheduling for phone conversations is very strange. How quick is he to reply? Does he take a while?
Author Butterflying Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 so why are you bothered???? ...are you trying to get more out of him and the relationship? have you explained that too him... pretty hard mind you if he doesn't want to talk to you! lol I'm bothered because when we do speak he tells me things to make me believe he wants to progress towards something serious. Publicly he had made it appear to everyone that we are a couple. But we've never discussed it or made that official. I would very much like to be a couple; then he would have to actually treat me like a human, not a computer or object.
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