ragmacron Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Alright LS I got something juicy for you and this shouldn't be a waste of your time. CONFUSION: My woman says things like she "isnt in love with me... I dont have the head over heels feelings for you...and I am done and ready to leave" That is total fine and I have accepted this by preparing myself, because honestly things have been going sour for the past few months. What confuses me is the fact that if I sleep on the couch... she get highly upset... If I sleep in the bed but turn over to enjoy my woman and touch her... she makes a lip smacking noise and shoves me off her.. she kisses me when ever we part ways.. (keep in mind its not a sloppy, sexy, nasty, dirty, kiss.. its a long peck "cute" kiss) We were in the process to buy a house and were both very excited to give our child and dog a big yard to play in. she just recently told me to find new place to move too... but today she text me from work... "were closing FRIDAY!! :)"... and this right here people that pushes me beyond confusion.... SHE GOT SOME BOUDOIR PHOTOS DONE FOR VALENTINES!!!! WTF How do I know? Because on her facebook she just recently liked a females photographers page that I checked out. There was a big group of them like 18 females for this "Valentines Special". She didnt tell me about this but after doing my homework I know she got them done. I know she is "done done" because I can feel it. I want things to work! I want my little family to be together. But like I said and she even said it before her self its DONE. What I would like to hear from you LS'er is some clarity on this situation for the simple fact I still love this girl and will continue to deal with what I have to do to get the relationship rolling good again. I just dont understand and cant translate properly if she "loves me" and its it worth breaking my back over. Is she?: CONFUSED or STUCK IN FAIRY TAIL LAND or PLAYING GAMES or WHAT its hard for me to translate. If you need back story on me just ask.
KungFuJoe Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Let me put it this way. I think you're making all this up. You know why? Because nothing that sounds this CRAZY and RIDICULOUS could possibly happen in real life. So before you get upset and tell me I don't know what I'm talking about and that it's very real, realize this. Whether or not it IS true, makes no difference. What does matter is that this situation is SO ****ED UP that a random stranger on an internet forum (who has heard and seen it all) thinks you're making it up. Good luck. 1
Author ragmacron Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 OUCH! lol that sucks that you think so... keep in mind this hasnt all happened in a span of 2 weeks... we have been together for some time now... and just want some incite on the whole thing... I already put in my head that if we split I will stay positive etc etc.. But I would like to stop that from happening. I just cant get a read of my "ball game" from infield and just wanted to to get some one from the crowd to lay down some advice.. It just hard to read my lady at time and this is kinda important.
Author ragmacron Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 So is it that hard even for you people?? Just some solid real advice would be awesome!!
darkmoon Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 (edited) she's partially frigid, what with those kissing noises and no-sex responses, fast forward to middle-age and you are likely to be locked into a routine refusal that sends you unfaithful with her still thinking she's any sort of spouse - a divorce attorney's dream - unless she has been raped or molested as a child, sex when a person's not in the mood is not that big a chore Edited February 1, 2013 by darkmoon
Author ragmacron Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 KEEP IT COMING!! Darkmoon I love your answer!! I think about that a few times here and there. but she will do something that pushs me to the other side and i get in that " yeah this is awesome" kinda mood.
Lani Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 She sounds like a total whackjob. I agree with the advice to run, it doesn't sound like this is going to end up anywhere good. I appreciate what you're trying to do for your child, but I honestly feel that parents are better off being apart than staying together for the sake of their children. Kids are intuitive, and pick up on far far more than you could imagine. If you're sleeping on the couch, what ideas is that going to give them? You're setting a standard of what they should expect in future relationships, and that behavior is not ok. As for the boudoir photos, well... I just hope that when it comes to valentines day that you're the one who receives them 1
Author ragmacron Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Well last night she confirmed that they were mine with out me knowing... Her:" I was going to get you something super cute but I dont know if I want to give it to you now...." Me:"sounds cool... why? " Her:"Well I think im going to give it to you anyways... youll be the first and only guy to get it so feel special :)" *takes a second... "do you know what it is?" Me:"no I can guess.... card and chocolates... dinner night.... Actually I dont know" Her:"Are your lying".... "I think youll like it :)" So with that alone its just mere confusion.... I slept on the couch to ultimately get my self ready to honestly leave. I did it 2 times and both I had some **** story like " I wanted to let the puppy try being out the kennel" or "I fell asleep playing black ops 2". As for my child seeing it he is a traditional child with a sleep schedule so bed at 7:30pm up at 8:00am he didnt see anything but I understand what you mean. I wish I could give you a video to watch it first hand to see what I am dealing with. You can see it that the relationship is done but for those split seconds every other hour you can also see there is something that is lingering and needs a push. As a man I want to walk away and say F*** IT!! but I also feel and see I need to fix this because its not that bad its just not good right now. Do you think Money is a big factor in a relationship?
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