aal763 Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 So there is this girl I like. We are good friends and all but we flirt with each other quite a bit. Last week, I noticed that this one dude posts stuff on her facebook page nearly every day. The first day it was a picture of him and her, the next day she posted a picture of the flowers that he sent her out of the blue. He posted another picture of her yesterday and today he just posted a message on her wall. How do I go about bringing him up without it being awkward? I don't know if she knows that I'm interested, but I sure hope she does.
lakerman34 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 So there is this girl I like. We are good friends and all but we flirt with each other quite a bit. Last week, I noticed that this one dude posts stuff on her facebook page nearly every day. The first day it was a picture of him and her, the next day she posted a picture of the flowers that he sent her out of the blue. He posted another picture of her yesterday and today he just posted a message on her wall. How do I go about bringing him up without it being awkward? I don't know if she knows that I'm interested, but I sure hope she does. Yikes! Sounds like it COULD be something, or this guy is trying WAY too hard and can end up in the friend-zone? It's hard to tell. A lot of the times it's he who cares the least that gets the girl (I know a bunch of girls are gonna call me out for PUA stuff -- but this is just a reality). I wouldn't bring it up, and I wouldn't be too obvious in trying to pursue her more. I'd casually ask her out for coffee, in a way that makes it seem like "I'm going for coffee with or without you, but I'd like to have you for company," and then make sure YOU'RE the one that has to leave to go somewhere during coffee, and tell her as you're leaving "I really like this conversation, want to do lunch sometime?" as you gently and casually put your hand around her elbow. See how she reacts. I don't know, that's what I would do. Don't let this guy get you nervous. I just was approaching a girl recently that seemed interested and then bolted for another guy, but he seemed to be more invested and into her than I was, so I didn't care much. I know that completely contradicts everything I told you. Just let her know (without being explicit) that you are interested in her, but she's not the BE ALL END ALL for you.
Lani Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Yep, it definitely sounds like something is going on with them. Unfortunately, there is no way to bring it up without being awkward. I'd suggest you just keep going the way you are, and ramp up the flirting a bit more. Start inviting her more places where you think you could make a move, and then guage her responses.
pbjbear Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Yeah something is def. going on You will have to ask or make an obvious move to determine her feelings
Author aal763 Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 Alright. Well we're pretty good friends, so I think I'll just get her a valentines day gift and see how she reacts. It lets her know I'm interested, yet it doesn't say right up front "Let's get together". To any women: This isn't out of line is it?
coffeebean201 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 Does she make an extra effort with her appearance around you or him? Does she seem a little nervous around you or him? Some girls are just friendly but they don't want it to go anywhere. If you notice her acting a little dorky, then you know she likes you. If you get too romantic, it won't work.
Talak7 Posted February 2, 2013 Posted February 2, 2013 (edited) Alright. Well we're pretty good friends, so I think I'll just get her a valentines day gift and see how she reacts. It lets her know I'm interested, yet it doesn't say right up front "Let's get together". To any women: This isn't out of line is it? uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Maybe 3rd party confirmation before you do that? Edit- Better idea - If she's not like, DATING this guy and he's just chasing her.... Definitely give her a valentine. Make it something personal that she likes (hobby/interest), and keep the meeting short. Give it to her, tell her you've thought a lot about her lately and appreciate hanging out and then leave it at that. SAY NOTHING ELSE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD DO NOT SAY ANYTHING ELSE. and then just leave it at that. Edited February 2, 2013 by Talak7
Author aal763 Posted February 2, 2013 Author Posted February 2, 2013 Never mind, she's in a relationship now with this guy:(
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