sigurpol Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I guess to give a quick background, I'll say this: We've known each other and have been close for many many years and finally dated a few years ago, but only for about half a year. We broke it off and since then, it was always sort of stop-n-go from there, yet we remained civil. I had a lot of problems with her being too pessimistic and always tried to do whatever I could to make things better. She hated being around her family, so I would invite her over mine all the time. She hated her job, I would spend nights pulling up ad's online and emailing them to her. Bad day? I would surprise her in anyway I could. Yet, some time would go back and it would be back to "I hate this person/this place/my mom or dad/where I live/my friend, etc" We took a break from talking for a while because it became so much, but I reminded her if she ever needed anything, please call. She did one day and we got back into talking again. But from that point on, things seemed different: Before I go on I want to say that I don't want to pain this person as a monster or some sort of thorn in my side while we were together. There were plenty of good times and I got along with her friends really well, as she got along with mine really well. However I started to notice when we would be in our talking routine, she would slip back into this, not-wanting-to-do-anything phase. I felt as if I was always on trial for something I never did. She would suspect me of going around, sleeping with other girls or friends of mine who were girls. There was one night I didn't answer my phone and she refused to talk to me for weeks, telling me to never contact her again. Some of this comes from me meeting someone during our "break" period, so I think that bothered her. But she would always call back the next morning and apologize for what happened and I like to be forgiving, so I would tell her not to worry about it and it's in the past. Finally, after one day of her accusing me of hanging up on her, I stopped answering her calls. I couldn't do it anymore and occasionally blame myself that I didn't try harder. However, for the past 5 months or so, she continues to text or call my brother or sister, keeping in super close touch (especially my sister). Continues to keep tabs on my closest friends, both online and in real life. I tried to wave it off, as maybe she was lonely or this was how she would handle it, but it hasn't got any better. I feel offended sometimes, but I try to forget about it. For example, a best friend of mine passed away a few years ago and my ex met him one time. His birthday was the other day and I ran into my said-friends mother who told me "Oh, ___ wrote the nicest thing about ___ the other day for his birthday! She must have been so close!"- I held off on explaining that she didn't really know him and was confused why she would write something like that. But, this made her happy, I didn't want to ruin that. Then today. I walk into the store I work and notice across the way, at the other store... my ex. Who just got a job there as a manager. I've been at my job for over three years, so she knows where I work. As I'm unpacking in the back, one of my managers told me the "new manager from the store across from us came over yesterday to introduce herself and said she couldn't wait to get to know us all. She seemed really nice" Am I crazy? Is this really all a coincidence? I hate being upset over things like this because I don't want it to consume me but... it does.
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