BarbecueMan666 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Lol. Well thank you, that made me chuckle - Like I give excuses in my head, and barely anyone knows exactly what went on and what I went through with her. I still love her a lot, and even though I know she lives in this fantasy land within regards to things working out for her (same as the OP) - she did do quite a lot to get things back on track. I think she's going to be very successful in her career and so I think everything will work out alright, which is also a painful part. It's like she's going to just cruise through life and have things work out for her which makes me a little sad. She wrote me today actually regarding her youtube career. "Hi I need to let you know that I have a video coming out tomorrow that might be sensitive for you. It's about relationships, and it would seem like it relates to you and us, but it doesn't at all. [Her friend] wrote it and it's just about relationships in general, and it's all for the sake of comedy. I just wanted to let you know, so you wouldn't have to wonder or worry. I sincerely hope you are doing well. :)" I didn't respond, but it ruined my day
Simon Phoenix Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Lol. Well thank you, that made me chuckle - Like I give excuses in my head, and barely anyone knows exactly what went on and what I went through with her. I still love her a lot, and even though I know she lives in this fantasy land within regards to things working out for her (same as the OP) - she did do quite a lot to get things back on track. I think she's going to be very successful in her career and so I think everything will work out alright, which is also a painful part. It's like she's going to just cruise through life and have things work out for her which makes me a little sad. She wrote me today actually regarding her youtube career. "Hi I need to let you know that I have a video coming out tomorrow that might be sensitive for you. It's about relationships, and it would seem like it relates to you and us, but it doesn't at all. [Her friend] wrote it and it's just about relationships in general, and it's all for the sake of comedy. I just wanted to let you know, so you wouldn't have to wonder or worry. I sincerely hope you are doing well. :)" I didn't respond, but it ruined my day Sucks man. But yeah, easier said than done, but like I said, this girl sounded extremely selfish. Even if she got fiscally responsible, something else would have come up. And yes, she might continue to skate on in life with other people bending over backwards for her or bailing her out, but I'm a believer in karma. She bled you dry and I wouldn't be surprised if the tables are turned. It might not be financial, but mental. Continue to fade to black on this woman. And honestly, if she's as attractive as you say she is, you'll be able to find another one that's not a drain on you and that is courteous to you. You'll be all right.
BarbecueMan666 Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 Thanks man, you sound like a good guy. She was selfish yes. It's one of the things we talked about, even introducing her to my parents initially in England my dad said "you're quite rude you are" - and it was like ooooooooooooooo~!!!! I mean, despite her selfish ways, she wasn't all horrid, and definitely did some nice stuff for me. Just I was always the giver in pretty much every aspect. I spent quite a lot of today crying, which sucked - but I know I'm getting better about it all. I'm soon moving to San francisco which should be a nice change from Arizona Phoenix, more social etc.
Absewarrior Posted February 14, 2013 Posted February 14, 2013 (edited) Still Searching: She did you a favor by breaking up with you...and you did yourself a disservice for trying to hold onto someone who has completely different life goals. This isn't about money/spending/not saving/ shopping, but about planning, focus and future goals. She isn't where you are.....her spending would be like a splinter in the bottom of your foot....not noticeable every second, but just irritating and annoying enough to make you crazy. She slept with you because she is immature and likes the drama. Son, you just escaped a life of fathering a grown woman and carrying the burden of a debt filled marriage. Go celebrate and stop moping over an immature twit. AW BBQman666: Son, she sounds like a hooker...if you want sex from a hot woman, next time just pay for it instead of emotionally tying yourself to someone who is a leech. You should celebrate also because you just dodged a life with a selfish woman who is shallow enough to think that someone she is supposed to love and respect is going to pay off her responsibilities. AW Edited February 14, 2013 by Absewarrior
Author Still Searching Posted February 14, 2013 Author Posted February 14, 2013 Still Searching: She did you a favor by breaking up with you...and you did yourself a disservice for trying to hold onto someone who has completely different life goals. This isn't about money/spending/not saving/ shopping, but about planning, focus and future goals. She isn't where you are.....her spending would be like a splinter in the bottom of your foot....not noticeable every second, but just irritating and annoying enough to make you crazy. She slept with you because she is immature and likes the drama. Son, you just escaped a life of fathering a grown woman and carrying the burden of a debt filled marriage. Go celebrate and stop moping over an immature twit. AW Thanks, I appreciate your insight. I agree, as I've said, we just weren't at the same places. I tried to bring that up once, but she wasn't having any of it, just shocked/appalled that I would think that of her. Good analogy about her spending, as that's exactly how I felt. It wasn't every day, or every week, but enough that it would have driven me crazy (already was, I guess). Somebody that knows her told one of my friends that she is the type of girl that needs that physical closeness/connection, and yet is unavailable emotionally when it comes down to it. Not sure I agree with it all, but it would explain why the intimacy was outstanding, and why she came back one more time for it. Just craves the physical aspect. I did feel like a parent at times, which is certainly no good. I've found myself in that role in my last two relationships. Time to start looking for someone established and aware, with focus and goals, instead of some clueless child. Lesson learned, I hope.
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