scp108 Posted August 26, 2004 Posted August 26, 2004 am i being really stupid? short story - was seeing girl for 4 yrs, lived together 2 & 1/2 then split up april 2003 (she was the dumper) went lived separately. for 2 months after splitting up, we would meet up occassionally, just met for sex, then went our separate ways after each meeting. in july 2003 i went travelling for a year, kept in contact via email once in a while & spoke a couple of times via phone. i suppose the longest period of no contact was 3 months between feb & may this year. when i returned to the uk in june, we carried on where we left off, meeting every couple of weeks. both our parents dont know the current situation. i know deep down that the longer this goes on & with no 'real future' in sight the harder a strict 'no contact' will be. i suppose the confusion is we both still get on with each other, both sexually attracted, yet havent talked about 'us' just after a bit a advice if anyone has experienced anything simliar
EC Posted August 26, 2004 Posted August 26, 2004 Ok I've seen this so many times. Usually one person cares for the other more and the other cares but is still looking for whats out there but doesn't want to lose what they have just in case.... I'm not saying ignore her and not be her friend, but I think you shouldnt have anymore sex with her our hang out as frequently because if not you are never going to give eachoher space to really heal and move on and see if its meant to be or not. I don't know the whole story or how you feel but do you want something with this girl in the future? Do you want to reconcile? If you do then I suggest you have a sit down and discuss the 'us' and if not then move on. It's an annoying cycle that keeps you blind and messes up the way you think. You need to step out of the cycle in order to see things clearly.
CurlyIam Posted August 26, 2004 Posted August 26, 2004 I haven't been there, but if you want my advice, start seeing other people. You'll know what you feel after that. It's tough to say anything, but in my experience, once it's over, it's never gonna be the same as it used to...
pixie2004 Posted August 26, 2004 Posted August 26, 2004 Forgive me for saying something stupid - but why would 2 exes meet up occasionally after a split -[color=blue] just for sex?[/color] Does it make sense? (Maybe I should phone my ex...)
EC Posted August 26, 2004 Posted August 26, 2004 lol ex sex...they say its the best sex...better than make up sex sometimes. They know your body and you can't feel guilty because you were with this person for a while before..and since you already broke upi you dont have to call the next day.
Author scp108 Posted August 26, 2004 Author Posted August 26, 2004 yeah kind of funny......we get on heaps better now than when we were in a relationship. maybe looking back living together & everything that goes with that was the toughie? i'm not sure another short story - i think the start fo the end was her getting a job working from home & our lives not adjusting accordingly, only had a 2 bed flat, no office space for her, frustrating for both her and me. my suggestions for getting a bigger place did not amount to anything its not like breaking up is a 'new' thing for me (i'm 33, she 34) , but i've just not been in a situation where after breaking up, contact has remained.
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