Mr_Flay Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Not being a native English speaker, there's a world I struggle with – desperation. From what I read elsewhere, people have been called "desperate" merely for expressing interest in the opposite sex. Surely that's not the right definition. How would you define a desperate person and what does he/she look like? Are desperate people automatically unattractive, and why (not)? By way of derogation from desperation, it seems that you have to be on your 100% confidence level to get ahead with the opposite sex (or same sex, depending on your preferences). 90% isn't good enough, you have to do better than that, people say. The truth is, how often is it really that you're feeling on top of the world? Each one of us struggles with something, be it unemployment, poverty, a chronic disease, superiors giving us a hard time, lack of emotional connection, and other misfortunes that get us "under the weather" from time to time. Are such people undateable? And what about people who want to feel loved? Is this desperation? That doesn't mean they'll be with just anybody, though. Aren't they worth "checking under the hood" before dismissing them at first glance? People say "do your thing, enjoy life to the fullest, and you'll be very attractive". This doesn't work in my case. I'd much rather have a girl who wants to date than a girl who is so busy with "living life to her fullest" that she doesn't NEED anybody. Here's a question for both sexes: you see two persons in a club. Person A is talking with his/her friends, laughing hard, dancing, generally looking like he/she doesn't NEED anybody. Person B seems like he/she has been dragged in there against his/her will and sits at the table alone, dejected. He/she NEEDS, and, you might say, is desperate for some company. Whom would you rather approach? I suppose it'd only be fair to answer my own question... I'd approach person B, because person A obviously doesn't need me (so why bother?), while there's a chance I might make person B happy. 1
superb Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 desperation [ˌdɛspəˈreɪʃən] n 1. desperate recklessness 2. the act of despairing or the state of being desperate I don't think person B would be considered as desperate btw. Some people just aren't very outgoing in public scenarios and I'd rather talk to a reserved human than one that looks like a party animal.
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