Realist3 Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 ...romantically of course. I wouldn't say they are completely unable to connect. I can talk to women very well in a FRIENDLY WAY. I have had female friends and connected well in this respect. It is gauging romantic interest in me/asserting my own romantic interest that is difficult. I agree with most of the posts. This idea that there is some kind of objective 'league table' of attractiveness is just silly. For a start, someone who is not physically "attractive" by societies standards...could have a really beautiful or appealing outlook on life......UNLESS OF COURSE YOU ARE ONLY INTERESTED IN LOOKS. Also, physical attraction is subjective. For some unexplainable reason, I often find women with black/middle eastern/Indian skin color extremely physically attractive (compared white women). Many of my friends cannot understand this at all. ...this is not to say that I ALWAYS FIND black/middle eastern/Indian skin women attractive. Nor that I ALWAYS FIND WHITE WOMEN UNATTRACTIVE. ...USUALLY IT IS BASED ON PERSONALITY ANYWAY...SO UNLESS YOU ARE SHALLOW - PHYSICAL ATTRACTION IS JUST SOMETHING YOU CAN USE TO GUIDE YOU....LIKE A STARTING POINT. I'm not sure what you were trying to convey with that post. What type of people you are attracted to is irrelavant. I confess that I have not read through this entire thread, so I have absolutely no clue what the term 'league table' means. Physical attraction is important; but it is only a portion of the whole pie. Personality and charisma goes a lot further in terms of attracting a member of the opposite sex. Any real attraction is an attraction of the minds. If you happen to have good looks and a good personality, you probably won't have much trouble. It seems to me the issue stems from a person that may not have the greatest of looks, so that has to be made up with a good dose of personality. That is the ability to connect with people.
hppr Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I've a noticed from a recent thread that at least a few of the guys here who struggle with women don't put too much stock in looks. I mean, it's not that we'll take anything, we need the gal to be cool, but she doesn't have to look spectacular. Meanwhile, the 'lesser' women we think are attractive, other men are calling disgusting pigs and laughing at them, and women are basically agreeing with them. And those guys don't have any trouble with women obviously. So, what do you think? Should we be more shallow? Should we institute a hard cutoff. I have often mentioned to women that I really don't care much about looks and now I think it is viewed as a major negative. 1) improve your own looks as much as possible 2) go out more often, act like a misogynistic prick, but be extra nice to whatever girl you are trying to bang - be funny if possible 3) push as hard as possible for sex as soon as possible That's really all there is to it.
El Brujo Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 Hey now, being more shallow sounds like a great idea. I'll make a note to dumb it down and pretend to be stoopid, then I'll attract all kinds of women.
Shardish Posted March 2, 2013 Posted March 2, 2013 There's two girls who are interested in me and while they are nice women I just don't find them sexually attractive, so I won't date them, but I guess that makes me shallow doesn't it? Oh well, I could be worse I could be a hypocrite.
trevzilla Posted March 9, 2013 Posted March 9, 2013 There's two girls who are interested in me and while they are nice women I just don't find them sexually attractive, so I won't date them, but I guess that makes me shallow doesn't it? Oh well, I could be worse I could be a hypocrite. women won't date guys they aren't attracted to which is why guys get shot down constantly. It's only fair that it goes both ways.
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