mammasita Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I can't help but hold onto hope and I hate it. I just want to be done feeling this way. All ties were severed yesterday. I have no way of contacting him and no reason to and he has no way of contacting me. I am on a couple dating sites now, but I am far from ready to date. I need to get myself back first. Even worse is that I'm close to his family, it hurts losing them too. His sister wants to go out this weekend. I'm not sure if I can see her as just a friend independent of being his sister. I also have to go in o work a little later now since I cried myself to sleep. My eyes are a puffy mess.
darkmoon Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 take a herbal relaxer pill remedy, it'll take the edge of things, you might need alot, herbs are ok, can even send you to a dozy sleep, and yes avoid the sister, i don't think you will feel good quickly if you hang out with her, you need to have a rest
Minadee Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Okay first off, try warm teabags or cucumber slices on your eyes, they'll help them to de-puff! There is no harm in a dating site, but i'd recommend maybe holding out a bit before actually going on dates, as dating when you're not emotionally ready to let go is going to be a bit of a challenge. I rushed into a few dates, and in the taxi home with a guy once after a lovely night out, I started crying because the taxi driver drove past my ex's house! My date was wonderful about it, and I know he is very keen, but even after 4 months I am no where near ready to get close to someone. In my opinion (although feel free to disagree), i'd go out with the sister. What have you got to lose? Show her that you're having a great time without him, and that might feed back to him. I lost a great relationship with my ex's step dad (weird, right?) and I loved the connection we had, but obviously that's long gone now and I regret removing him as a friend from Facebook. By severing all ties, you've made the first step to really letting go. I actually envy you a little bit really, being pregnant means I can't cut all ties completely, and never once has my ex said "I don't love you" (or anything remotely similar, in fact he rung up drunk last Saturday and told me he loved me numerous amounts of times, prompting my moving on stage to drive to a halt.) Although crying is seen as negative, i'd just let it all out. You'll come to a point soon when you think "Why?" and the tears will dry up, I promise. xxx
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